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What do you seek so pensive and silent?* What are you reading?

by chuckofish

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I have been all over the board (and map) recently with my reading choices. I read a good mystery by James Lee Burke, In the Electric Mist with Confederate Dead. I like the detective Dave Robicheaux and the author knows what he is writing about. The characters are not wooden and/or cardboard and the locale is detailed and real. A lot of bad things happen, however, and so I probably will not be in a hurry to read more, but if you like good, well-written mysteries, here you go.

From the low life in Louisiana I headed to lovely Botswana and the fourteenth entry in the #1 Ladies Detective series by Alexander McCall Smith. As I have said before, there is certainly not a lot to these novels. Nothing much happens and some of the characters are downright annoying, but when I am in the right mood, I don’t care. I like Precious Romotswe and her little white van. The author skillfully weaves a gentle tale of friendship and family. We are reminded that people are the same everywhere and the important things in life do not change. It is good to be reminded of this.

From there I moved on to the wonderful Marilynne Robinson and her engagingly titled book of essays When I Was a Child I Read Books. I can relate to that. I love everything Marilynne has ever published–and sadly that is not a whole lot–but she is one of those people who, if I ever met her and tried to have a conversation with her, I would feel like this:

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She just knows so much and is so articulate. But she is on my page. She looks at history in context. She likes to give credit where it is due. She questions arrogant scientists. She is a Calvinist. I highly recommend her, if you are up to it.

Now I am back to the what-to-read-next question. What are you reading?

*Old Walt Whitman

“…Do you think she’s talented, deeply and importantly talented?”

by chuckofish

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Daughter #2 breezed into town last Tuesday and we had a wonderful time together. We shopped “small” in Kirkwood. We tried a trendy new restaurant in a converted gas station in a hipster south STL neighborhood. The food was amazing.

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We caught up with her old buddy who came over for dinner. (Daughter #2 cooked.)

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Edwina works for Anheuser-Busch–have Bud will travel.

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We over-ate at the boy’s house with his in-laws on Thanksgiving and then watched Planes, Trains and Automobiles together. This picture really says it all.

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We watched one of our favorite movies together. Breakfast at Tiffany’s. Perfect.

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And then it was time for her to return to Maryland.

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Will I ever learn to take these farewells in stride? I doubt it.

You know what time it is

by chuckofish

You know what time it is, how it is now the moment for you to wake up from sleep. For salvation is nearer to us now than when we became believers; the night is far gone, the day is near. Let us then lay aside the works of darkness and put on the armor of light; let us live honorably as in the day, not in reveling and drunkenness, not in debauchery and licentiousness, not in quarreling and jealousy. Instead, put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.

Romans 13: 11–14

Well, this reading from Sunday morning seems like a timely scripture for this Advent when the country goes en masse on a month-long frenzy of spending and partying which has nothing to do with the real “reason for the season”. I don’t know about you but I’m taping this one to the mirror.

I went to church twice this Sunday, because we had the annual Lessons and Carols service at Grace in the early evening. I got to be one of the readers and read the third lesson. This still makes me so happy. It doesn’t take much, right?

In other news, the boy came over and put up our lights.

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Not a great iPhone picture, but you get the idea.

Not a great iPhone picture, but you get the idea.

Don’t they look beautiful?

I also got out a lot of Christmas decorations this weekend. And I put away a lot of stuff to make room for the Christmas decorations. I set up my mantle.

Come, thou long-expected Jesus, born to set thy people free;
from our fears and sin release us, let us find our rest in thee.

Let us live honorably.

Deck the halls and shoot the pumpkins

by chuckofish

We had a busy Saturday. I got up and made cookies — our favorites, Oatmeal Scotchies. Yum!

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Then we gathered these and some clementines and went off to church to help with “the greening”, i.e. decorating for Christmas. It was a lot of fun. There was quite a crowd and all the cookies got gobbled up. Here, husband, son, and friend festoon the altar.

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The sanctuary looks nice, don’t you think?

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After that, for a wild change of pace, we loaded up the car with our three pumpkins and several gourds and drove out the the camp to shoot ’em up. Alas, I forgot the camera so you will just have to use your imaginations. Suffice it to say that frozen pumpkins are very fun to shoot. And did I mention that we have snow? The trees looked more or less like this

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but with a little less snow. Once we were well and truly cold and the pumpkins well and truly shot up, we came home to a richly deserved glass of sherry and a dinner of turkey/onion/mushroom/cheese quesadillas. Contentment all around.

And now I’ve got to hit the road to take boy #3 back to college for the final weeks of the semester. As we all get super busy heading toward Christmas just remember to enjoy it — it’s all a gift!

 

 

Del Griffith! How the hell are ya?

by chuckofish

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Hope y’all had as nice a Thanksgiving as we did. Good food, good company and, as usual, we ended the day with these guys:

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Happy birthday, Buddy

by chuckofish

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The boy turns 27 today!

The above photo is one of my favorite pictures of the boy. He is about four. Funnily enough, it was taken by one of his Sunday School teachers. He is in the act of throwing an accurately decorated paper (jet) plane. Hmmm.

He hasn’t changed much really.

He shares a birthday with John Bunyan (1628), William Blake (1827) and Randy Newman (1943). Two of his illustrious ancestors died on this day: William Whipple, signer of the American Declaration of Independence, and the boy’s great-great-great grandfather John S. Hough.

The Episcopal Church celebrates this day as a feast day in honor of King Kamehameha and Queen Emma of Hawaii, who were good Episcopalians.

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So hats off to the boy! We are looking forward to a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner with him and his lovely wife. Once again I will provide the cheesey potato casserole. And, of course, birthday presents for the birthday boy!

Happy Thanksgiving to all!

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We gather together to ask the Lord’s blessing;
He chastens and hastens His will to make known.
The wicked oppressing now cease from distressing.
Sing praises to His Name; He forgets not His own.

Beside us to guide us, our God with us joining,
Ordaining, maintaining His kingdom divine;
So from the beginning the fight we were winning;
Thou, Lord, were at our side, all glory be Thine!

We all do extol Thee, Thou Leader triumphant,
And pray that Thou still our Defender will be.
Let Thy congregation escape tribulation;
Thy Name be ever praised! O Lord, make us free!

Let’s get this party started

by chuckofish

Daughter #2 arrived home yesterday safe and sound.

We stopped on the way home from the airport, as is our tradition, for margaritas.

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Then we went home, unpacked our pajama pants and got comfortable

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and watched our favorite misfit Christmas special.

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Let the good times roll!

Ponder anew: counting our blessings

by chuckofish

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“Gratitude goes beyond the ‘mine’ and ‘thine’ and claims the truth that all of life is a pure gift. In the past I always thought of gratitude as a spontaneous response to the awareness of gifts received, but now I realize that gratitude can also be lived as a discipline. The discipline of gratitude is the explicit effort to acknowledge that all I am and have is given to me as a gift of love, a gift to be celebrated with joy.”

― Henri J.M. Nouwen

So November is almost over. Advent starts this Sunday! Have I been successful in my effort to be more consciously thankful? I think so.

As Dietrich Bonhoeffer says, “Only he who gives thanks for little things receives the big things.”

This is so true. And, hey, what we may think of as small things are probably the Big Things. There are many, many things to be grateful for, but these are the main five in my book.

1. Home and family–so easy to take for granted–but my ordinary life is quite wonderful.

2. A church home: Isn’t it wonderful (to borrow a phrase) to have some place to go “where everybody knows your name, and they’re always glad you came”?

3. Work: I am personally so grateful to have a job that I actually like and where I feel I am making a small difference.

4. Health–One of those things that I don’t really appreciate until I am sick or my knee hurts–so it takes some effort to think, hey, I feel pretty good today!

5. An inquiring mind: It’s so important to exercise this gift every day along with that not-so-athletic body! And there is also this:

“The best thing for being sad,” replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, “is to learn something. That’s the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then — to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the only thing for you. Look what a lot of things there are to learn.”

― T.H. White, The Once and Future King

So in these waning days of November as we ready ourselves for the festive national holiday of Thanksgiving, let us actually give thanks!

How shall we love thee, holy hidden being?*

by chuckofish

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I bought these perfectly delightful Turkey cookies after church on Sunday from the Youth Group who was fundraising for some worthy cause. Aren’t they special?

In other news, I was surprised to see that we now have cushions in our pews. Last week we did not.

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Taken with my iPhone, excuse me.

The Lord works in mysterious ways, and so does our rector.

We had our leaves blown and vacuumed on Friday. I’m sure my husband is very thankful that he did not have to do it. The yard looks great, although the leaves continue to fall.

Most of the weekend was spent puttering around the old manse, readying it for daughter #2’s arrival on Tuesday.

While cleaning off my desk, I was reminded that on this day four years ago one of my dearest friends died suddenly. We were supposed to have lunch that day but she canceled in the morning because she wasn’t feeling well. Later in the day she went to the hospital. We exchanged a few emails. I was shocked to find out the next day that she had died that night at home in her sleep.

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Irene was two years ahead of me in school from kindergarten through high school. We weren’t friends until later when we were both active in the same church. She was a successful realtor when she heeded the call and took off for divinity school in Virginia. She was ordained a priest in the Episcopal Church and served in a variety of places. Her last assignment was to my Grace Church. At the time we had an interim who, to be honest, tried our Christian souls. We on the vestry tried very conscientiously to work with him, but then at a vestry meeting, he announced he was leaving (the next day) and that the Bishop had appointed Irene to step in. I was happy to speak up and say I had known her practically all my life and that she was a wonderful person and that we should be thrilled to have her. Everyone breathed a sigh of collective relief. (Several people actually told me that afterwards.)

And Irene truly was a blessing to our church, healing many wounds and reassuring us that we really were okay and not the bad Episcopalians the other guy had inferred we were on a regular basis. For the next 18 months, she guided us through the search process for a new rector who started in June of 2009. She died in November at age 55.

The lesson here is that you just don’t know when anyone might suddenly be removed from your life. So tell everyone you care about that you love them on a regular basis. The last time I met with Irene for coffee I said, “I love you, Irene” when we parted, and I am glad I did. Now every day when I drive by Starbucks on Lindbergh Road, I think of Irene.

* Hymn 573 by Laurence Housman (1865–1959)

One thing led to another…

by chuckofish

As you know, lately I’ve been binging on worthy comfort literature from the middle of the last century. I just re-read Assignment in Brittany, Helen MacInnes’s 1942 novel about a British agent in France just after Dunkirk — I recommend it without reservation and naturally had to find out more.

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According to Wikipedia, the book was so accurate that it became required reading for allied agents during the war. Many surmised that MacInnes got her information from her husband, renowned classicist, Gilbert Highet, who served in MI6, but of course that is highly unlikely as it would have been a big breach of the official secrets act. She was just smart and observant and knew a lot of interesting people, including her husband, who was also her one true love.

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They were both Scottish and met at university (he does have a nice Scottish face, don’t you think? It’s the eyes). During the ’30s, they became so repelled by Hitler and so appalled at British apathy that they moved to the U.S. where Highet became a professor at Columbia. When the war broke out he had only been there for a couple of years, yet despite his career and his young family, without hesitation he took the train to Canada and enlisted. He was called up to active duty in 1940 and served throughout the war. Later, they both became American citizens.

In addition to being a prolific classical scholar, Highet wrote about teaching and literature. Some of his pithier remarks are widely quoted on the internet:

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He even wrote some poetry. I particularly like his ‘post-obit’ that was recently discovered among his papers:

What will you think of me when I die,
Helen? There won’t be an official life —
a paragraph at most. But you alone
could write a volume. Most is secret;
and that you will not write. The rest is public,
covering fifty harsh laborious years,
and unimportant. Please remember me
as we lived secretly and happily.
“He was a merry man, God rest his soul;”
he was a merry man, and loved you well.

You can read more about Gilbert Highet here. I found the poem in an article, “The Correspondence of Gilbert Highet and Helen MacInnes,” by Robert J. Ball, Classical World 101 (2008): 504-531.

Thanks to Helen MacInnes and Gilbert Highet for improving my week immensely. May we all be as merry and love as well!