dual personalities

The old, self-contained stock

by chuckofish

Today we note the birthday of Ulysses S. Grant (April 27, 1822 – July 23, 1885) who was the 18th President of the United States (1869–77) and the Commanding General of the U.S. (1864–69). He is certainly a favorite of mine.

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“In four years he had risen, without political favor, from the bottom to the very highest command, — not second to any living commander in all the world! His plans were large, his undiscouraged will was patient to obduracy… In all this career he never lost courage or equanimity. With a million men, for whose movements he was responsible, he yet carried a tranquil mind, neither depressed by disasters nor elated by success. Gentle of heart, familiar with all, never boasting, always modest, Grant came of the old, self-contained stock, men of a sublime force of being, which allied his genius to the great elemental forces of nature, — silent, invisible, irresistible. When his work was done, and the defeat of Confederate armies was final, this dreadful man of blood was tender toward his late adversaries as a woman toward her son. He imposed no humiliating conditions, spared the feelings of his antagonists, sent home the disbanded Southern men with food and with horses for working their crops.”

– Henry Ward Beecher,  Eulogy on Grant

Makes me want to go visit his home “Hardscrabble,”

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which is down the road a bit here in flyover country.

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I like a president who has built a home with his own hands. Cheers and huzzah to Cousin Lyss.

I am now, by the way, reading The March by E.L. Doctorow, which is a novel about General Sherman’s March to the Sea (November 15 to December 21, 1864). I am enjoying it very much and am pleasantly surprised, having never read anything by Doctorow and having assumed that I wouldn’t like anything he had written. The author has a good historical grasp of the period and his characters act appropriately. This is certainly not always the case with historical fiction. Authors make stupid mistakes which can drive me crazy.

Curious, I went back and read the review in 2005 by John Updike in The New Yorker, and funnily enough, he says just that.

His splendid new novel, “The March”…pretty well cures my Doctorow problem. A many-faceted recounting of General William Tecumseh Sherman’s famous, and in some quarters still infamous, march of sixty-two thousand Union soldiers, in 1864-65, through Georgia and then the Carolinas, it combines the author’s saturnine strengths with an elegiac compassion and prose of a glittering, swift-moving economy. The novel shares with “Ragtime” a texture of terse episodes and dialogue shorn, in avant-garde fashion, of quotation marks, but has little of the older book’s distancing jazz, its impudent, mocking shuffle of facts; it celebrates its epic war with the stirring music of a brass marching band heard from afar, then loud and up close, and finally receding over the horizon. Reading historical fiction, we often itch, our curiosity piqued, to consult a book of straight history, to get to the facts without the fiction. But “The March” stimulates little such itch; it offers an illumination, fitful and flickering, of a historic upheaval that only fiction could provide. Doctorow here appears not so much a reconstructor of history as a visionary who seeks in time past occasions for poetry.

Well, there you go.

“I feel a sudden urge to sing the kind of ditty that invokes the Spring”*

by chuckofish

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Phew! What a whirlwind of activity last weekend! We had four extra people in our house and several get togethers involving copious amounts of food and drink.

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My darling daughters planned everything.

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and pulled it all off with aplomb.

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Darling daughter #3 made the spectacular 3-layer cake (cheesecake, cake, mousse).

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My brother and sister came from distant lands as did some very old friends.

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And my in-town friends put on their party pants and joined in the fun.

We even managed a visit to the Missouri Botanical Gardens at the height of the azalea bloom.

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Of course, there was frozen custard.

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It was delovely to say the least.

*Cole Porter, “It’s Delovely”

Hello, Monday

by chuckofish

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Best birthday weekend ever. More tomorrow.

“What is important in a dress is the woman who is wearing it.”*

by chuckofish

A couple of days ago on the Man Repeller blog they asked the important question: What’s your movie dress?

Good question, but their answers weren’t that exciting. I mean how can you make a list like that and not include something worn by Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany’s?

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I could not find a good picture of the dress/hat ensemble Holly wears to visit Sally Tomato…but really, has any woman ever looked better than Audrey in this scene?

In fact, they never mentioned ol’ Audrey at all. How is that possible?

Audrey was mentioned in the comments section and there were other good suggestions, including Glinda in the 1939 Wizard of Oz. Here are a few more…

As a child I was struck by the dress Jane Fonda wears in the scene in Cat Ballou (1965) when she is about to be executed for murder.51yEqsLuDOL._SX342_I loved that dress and it is the one I was thinking of when we chose the pattern for my “May Day” dress in 1974.

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Clearly my friend Harriet was thinking the same thing.

Who can deny that there were many great dresses in the movie White Christmas (1954)–such as this classic number worn by Rosemary Clooney at the Carousel Club.

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Great accessories too! Those gloves! The bottom of the dress was great too–it belled out to great effect…

Here’s another great dress worn by Rosemary in the Minstrel Show number–love those red bangles!

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This more conservative green velvet cocktail dress is pretty great too. And I am loving that couch as well.

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And who wouldn’t want to pull this dress out of the closet for a night on the town?

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I know I have always wished I could. As you can see, the older I get, the more I relate to Rosemary rather than Vera-Ellen!

So…what’s your movie dress?

*Yves Saint-Laurent

GIF found here.

Long live the queen!

by chuckofish

The Queen in 2007

The Queen in 2007

Today we wish Elizabeth a happy 90th birthday. She was born four months after our mother and to me, at least, they always bore an uncanny resemblance to one another.

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Anyway, I hope she lives forever.

It’s my birthday and I’ll wear a crown if I want to

by chuckofish

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“Age has given me what I was looking for my entire life – it has given me me . It has provided time and experience and failures and triumphs and time-tested friends who have helped me step into the shape that was waiting for me. I fit into me now. I have an organic life, finally, not necessarily the one people imagined for me, or tried to get me to have. I have the life I longed for. I have become the woman I hardly dared imagine I would be.”

–Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith

Daughter #2 arrives this evening and daughter #1 tomorrow morning. My brother and sister are coming to town on Friday!

Safe, smooth travels to all.  Margaritas all around!

Left field

by chuckofish

So some of you readers may have noticed that recently we have needed more pep talks and positive thinking here than usual. Indeed, we have, because back before Christmas the boy was diagnosed with testicular cancer. He had surgery right after the new year.

Then he started an intense regimen of chemotherapy—four rounds, a week every three weeks, five days for six hours a day.

Throughout it all, the boy has been a real trouper.

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His attitude has been super positive and he has never doubted that he will be cured and that all will be well. He never complained. He never stopped going to work. He even applied for a new job and received a big promotion.

Although he has been tired and worn out, he continued to coach his lacrosse team after work.

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The Greyhounds say “Let’s go boy!”

They love him and why wouldn’t they?

Last week during his final round of chemo, his doctor told him that his cancer markers are down from 4600 to 8. This is good. Very good.

And it’s the best birthday present any mother could get.

Please keep the boy and daughter #3 in your prayers. He isn’t out of the woods quite yet.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;  in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil.  This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.

–Proverbs 3: 5-8

With hearts aflame*

by chuckofish

It was a lovely flyover weekend with temperatures here near 80 degrees on Sunday.

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I worked hard outside on Saturday spreading mulch and my back hurt on Sunday so I slowed down some. I planted geraniums in pots.

FullSizeRenderThe boy came over on Saturday night because he was “batching  it”–we watched our all-time favorite episodes of Miami Vice:

“Out Where the Buses Don’t Run” (season 2, episode 3)

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with Bruce McGill as Hank Weldon

and “El Viejo” (season 3, episode 7)

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with Willie Nelson as Jake Pierson

They never disappoint. We are huge nerds, I know, but we amuse ourselves.

In church we sang one of my favorite hymns which always makes me cry.

And it did.

I leave you with the third verse:

The sure provisions of my God attend me all my days;

oh, may thy house be mine abode and all my work be praise.

There would I find a settled rest, while others go and come;

no more a stranger or a guest, but like a child at home.

(Isaac Watts)

Have a good week.

*Hymn #478, Jesus, our  mighty Lord, our strength in sadness

“An habitation of dragons, and a court for owls”*

by chuckofish

Yesterday morning at around 4:00 a.m. the OM and I were awakened by a heated argument outside our bedroom window. It was one of those what-the-heck moments when you have no idea what is happening.

Then we realized it was a pair of owls.

We hear owls all the time in the evening, but this was a first–being woken up by their racket. They seemed angry. They might have been Barred Owls and or maybe Great Horned Owls. Not sure.

Here is a video of some Barred Owls laughing it up.

Our pair definitely seemed to be arguing, but perhaps we misinterpreted their mood. They were loud anyway.

Here is a Great Horned Owl:

Anyway, this got me thinking about owls, so here are a few pictures of owl representations through the ages…

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Exeter Cathedral

Kano Sansetsu (1589-1651)

Kano Sansetsu (1589-1651)

Gustave Dore

Gustave Dore

Portrait of James Boswell at Twenty-Five by George Willison

Portrait of James Boswell at Twenty-Five by George Willison

Albrecht Durer 1508

Albrecht Durer 1508

John James Audubon

John James Audubon

Ernest Shephard

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Athenian coin, 5th century BC

Athenian coin, 5th century BC

Temple University adopted the owl as its mascot in 1888, the first school in the nation to choose the bird. The nocturnal hunter symbolized Temple’s early mission: to be a night school for ambitious young people of limited means. In 1912 Rice University adopted the Owl as its mascot. Hilarity ensued.

Rice Owl mascot captured by Texas A&M students in 1917

Rice Owl mascot captured by Texas A&M students in 1917

One more fun fact: the Brandeis University mascot, Ollie the Owl, is named after Louis Brandeis’s colleague, Oliver Wendell Holmes.

Owls are great.  As carnivorous birds of prey they live mainly on a diet of insects and small rodents such as mice, rats and rabbits. They do an important job in the wild, i.e. keeping down the rodent population. Another cool thing about owls: They can rotate their heads and necks as much as 270 degrees.

In western culture the owl is generally associated with wisdom. This link originated in ancient Greece where Athena, the goddess of wisdom, had the owl as a symbol. In Rome the owl was considered a bird of ill-omen, however. Pliny the younger reports that owl’s eggs were commonly used as a hangover cure. 

So keep your eyes and ears open for owls in your yard. They are hard to see because it is usually dark when you hear them and they blend in very well with their habitat, but sometimes you can catch a glimpse.

Have a good weekend!

*Isaiah 34:13 (KJV)

Happy birthday, Susiebelle

by chuckofish

Darling daughter #2 turns 26 today! I will toast her tonight and miss her all day, but we’ll celebrate together next week when she comes home to celebrate my birthday. My cup runneth over with love.

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“She was beautiful, but not like those girls in the magazines. She was beautiful, for the way she thought. She was beautiful, for the sparkle in her eyes when she talked about something she loved. She was beautiful, for her ability to make other people smile, even if she was sad. No, she wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks. She was beautiful, deep down to her soul. She is beautiful.”

–F. Scott Fitzgerald

And a birthday shout-out to Sarah Michelle Gellar, who turns 39 (!) today. Some birthday Buffy might be in order…