dual personalities

Weekend update

by chuckofish

 

Screen Shot 2017-08-07 at 6.06.42 AM.pngWell, that was a busy week followed by a busy weekend! Daughter #1 and I checked a lot of things off our to-do list and then she went back to NYC one more time on Saturday to tie up loose ends and pack her stuff for the movers who arrive this morning.

Sunday I went to an estate sale and got a couple of things for daughter #1’s new apartment. The OM and I went out to lunch at Denny’s after our first and second choices were too crowded. (Remind me never to do that again.) Then I yakked on the phone for hours with my DP and daughter #2. I finished Longmire #10. The boy came over to show us his new pickup truck–a Ford 150 Raptor–about which I am pretty excited. Finally, a truck in the family!

And by the way, congrats to the great Kurt Warner who was inducted into the NFL Hall of Fame. You will recall that he was the quarterback of one of the greatest offenses in NFL history, the “Greatest Show on Turf” of the St. Louis Rams back in the early niineties.

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We love you Kurt. We haven’t cared a hoot about football since you were traded to Arizona.

Have a good week!

Lord God, whose strength is sufficient for all who lay hold on it, grant us in your mercy to comfort our hearts and be strong. Humility, temperance, purity, largeheartedness, sympathy, zeal – grant us these evidences of faith, servants of hope, fruits of love; for the sake of Jesus Christ, our strength, our righteousness, and our hope of glory. Amen.

–Christina Rosetti

Moving time

by chuckofish

August seems to be moving month. This weekend the DH and I are helping son #3 pack up his worldly belongings preparatory to moving to Indiana, where he will be gainfully employed as the head sound technician at this pretty Hoosier college. We couldn’t be more proud!

It sure is flat in Indiana.

He won’t read this post, but I’m going to include some moving tips anyway. I mean, you never know, right?

  1. Plan and organize before you start packing. That way you won’t end up with a hundred, half-empty carrier bags full of random objects (I’m recalling that epic move back from college after graduation).
  2. Pack books and other heavy things in small boxes (Ditto the college moving memory).
  3. Use clothes, pillows or bedding as padding for fragile things.
  4. Clearly label boxes to facilitate unpacking.
  5. Get someone else to do the heavy lifting. Well, we can dream.
  6. Don’t move in the rain. Okay, this one can’t be helped, but do keep an eye on the weather forecast.
  7. Get a leash for the cat, so she can’t run away while you’re at a rest stop.
  8. If you’re driving the UHaul and someone else is driving your car, figure out your stops ahead of time, so you don’t have to text or phone while driving!
  9. Find out which hotels allow cats.
  10. Take it slowly. Stop when you get tired and never rush.

That’s about all I can think of for now. Please add your advice in the comments section, and wish us luck!

 

Mission accomplished

by chuckofish

Daughter #1 and I had a great day in Columbia and found a terrific 2-bedroom apartment complete with all the modern conveniences, i.e. closets, washer and dryer, garbage disposal, dishwasher, counter space, garage, and all the things she lived without in Manhattan. She is very pleased and I got to ride around on a golf cart. I didn’t take any pictures though.

When we returned home, the boy and his family came over for dinner. We had lots of twin time. I didn’t take any pictures then either, but here are a few from the boy taken at their house.

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Well, the weekend is upon us. Daughter #1 heads back to NYC on Saturday to pack up her apartment. The movers come on Monday and then she flies home for good on Wednesday.

Quelle summer, right?

“Country life has its advantages”*

by chuckofish

Daughter #1 is in town (finally, after a long, long 8-hour delay at LaGuardia) and we are driving to Columbia today to find an apartment for her.

Missouri_map.jpgLiving in CoMo will be quite a change from the Upper West Side. Hopefully she will be able to have a dishwasher and other modern conveniences. Her bed won’t be in her living room and maybe her kitchen will be used for more than storage.

Huzzah.

*Anton Chekhov

 

The right stuff

by chuckofish

Well, now Sam Shepard has died.

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I thought this article was more on point than some. The Times called him “a true renaissance man. As a playwright, he was the toast of Broadway and a Pulitzer Prize recipient. And he had no trouble making the transition to screens small and large, winning over audiences as an actor and earning respect within the industry as a skilled pen-for-hire. His body of work, rich and varied as it is, reveals a man with infinite empathy and intellectual curiosity.”

“Infinite empathy”? He never struck me that way. To me, Sam was one of those smart, good-looking, very wasp-y guys who was just really cool without trying to be. He did what he wanted. He frequently did not have the lead part in movies and he was fine with that. He supported himself that way so he could do the stuff he cared about.

He was friends with Patti Smith.

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I always liked him. He had a small part in Raggedy Man (1981) but you sure noticed him.

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And, of course, he was Dolly’s husband in Steel Magnolias (1989).

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He had the right stuff. Yes, he did.

This and that

by chuckofish

“It’s better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”

–Herman Melville

This statement was quoted by House Beautiful Editor-in-Chief Sophie Donelson in her July/August column. She doesn’t say where the quote comes from, but it probably wasn’t from the book on her nightstand. Of course, she was quoting Melville in reference to home decoration and that is valid I suppose, but poor Herman was talking about something different. Sadly, he knew a lot about failure.

Today is Melville’s birthday, so let’s give some thought to how to celebrate. You could check out this website: Melville’s Marginalia Online, a virtual archive of books owned and borrowed by Melville (1819-1891). Amazing! If you are in New York City, you could take the Melville walking tour. Whatever you do, be sure to wear your Herman Melville t-shirt.

Screen Shot 2017-07-31 at 11.44.45 AM.pngAnd by that I mean, please don’t. (Maybe Ms. Donelson found the quote on a t-shirt!)

Well, moving on…we have heard a lot lately about the total solar eclipse that will occur around 1 p.m. on Monday, August 21. The last total solar eclipse here in flyover country was in 1442. As you can see, we are right in line for some great viewing!

Screen Shot 2017-07-31 at 11.02.42 AM.pngWe have, of course, been reminded ad nauseum to obtain special protective glasses if we plan to watch, so I sent off to Amazon for some of these. Am I cool or what? (Well, the OM is a scouter, so I always try to be prepared.)

Are you wondering how I am going to tie up Herman Melville’s birthday and the total eclipse of the sun? Here is a section of his obit in the New York Times of October 2, 1891:

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Sad, sad, so sad.

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Discuss among yourselves.

Steadfast resolution

by chuckofish

We had perfect flyover weather this weekend–and to think, it was 108-degrees last Saturday! Anyway, we had a pleasant weekend, although we did very little. I went to a few estate sales and got a few things,

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including this book which I have been looking for for quite some time.

I also found a nice Hitchcock table and four chairs for daughter #1 who will now have room in her flyover apartment for such things!

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After taking the table apart, the OM and I wrestled everything into my Mini Cooper and his Accord and were pretty proud of ourselves for doing so.

I also sat outside and read a good deal of Longmire #9, which was excellent. It includes exchanges like this:

I opened the volume to the title page and read: “The Works of Hubert Howe Bancroft, Volume XXV, History of Nevada, Colorado, and Wyoming 1890.” I gently closed the heavy, leather-bound hardback and rested it against my chest. “Is this book for sale?”

She smiled at me with all the warmth of a Moroccan rug salesman. “Do you know what it’s worth?”

“I do.”

“Twenty-five dollars.”

I studied the marbled edges of the pages. “That’s not what it’s worth.”

“I wasn’t negotiating a price; I was simply trying to see if you knew the value.” She sighed deeply and picked up another from one of the towers near her. “I’m past the point of caring what things cost; I just want to know that beautiful and important objects are in the hands of people who will appreciate them.”

…I stood there holding the two books and looking at the piles around us–they were like literary land mines just waiting to explode minds…

And this:

He smiled, and a line settled alongside the upturned corner of his  mouth as he popped the lid on the center console–he knew all my caches and cliches–and pulled out an extra box of shells. “What other weapons do we have?”

I started the Bullet and pulled the gear selector down into drive. “Steadfast resolution.” I turned and looked at him, not as if he would take the option, but it had to be said. “If you want out now would be the time.”

He actually laughed as he reloaded the round. “I try never to miss an episode of Steadfast Resolution–it is my favorite program.”

Having finished Longmire #9, I am now reading Cheyenne Autumn by Mari Sandoz, a classic novel published in 1953 about the 1,500-mile flight of the Northern Cheyenne from the Indian Territory back to their home in the Yellowstone region in 1878–because Henry Standing Bear put it on his list of 10 Books to Read. Is it weird to take literary suggestions from fictional characters?

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I don’t think so either.

Meanwhile we continued to receive adorable pictures of the wee babes in Florida

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We also heard from daughters #1 and #2 enjoying one last weekend together in NYC!

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I went to church because I was reading and was treated to this lesson:

26 In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. 27 And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.  28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.  29 For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.  30 And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.

31 What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?  32 He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?  33 Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. 34 Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.  35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?  36 As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”  37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.  38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,  39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.  (Romans 8:26-39)

I don’t know about you, but I cannot read verses 35-39 without a tear coming to my eye. Great stuff.

Have a great week!

Wisdom of the ages

by chuckofish

Each generation tends to think the challenges it faces are entirely new and much harder to overcome than anything anyone has ever dealt with before. If we think about it, we know that isn’t true, but we persist in our ahistoric viewpoint anyway. Don’t worry, I’m not going to preach. Instead, I thought I’d entertain you with some surprisingly relevant Sumerian proverbs that I recently came across.

People complained about double-standards, and criticized mothers about their parenting skills:

A chattering girl is silenced by her mother. A chattering boy is not silenced by his mother.

They recognized the importance of gratitude, and that negativity and complaining are not useful.

You don’t speak of that which you have found. You talk only about what you have lost.

They also realized that a reputation lost through lying is hard to reestablish.

Tell a lie and then tell the truth: it will be considered a lie.

Perhaps my favorite Sumerian proverbs involve literacy and education. We live in a day and age when correct grammar is (apparently) the preserve of elitist pedants, and many young people have a poor command over their native tongue. But things were ever thus:

What kind of a scribe is a scribe who does not know Sumerian?

A scribe who does not know how to grasp the meaning — from where will he produce a translation?

A votive statue of the scribe Dudu dedicated to Ningirsu, 2900-2450 BC

Those socially conscious ancients even had advice for the poor — a social class that included the majority.

Taking action defeats poverty. He who knows how to get moving becomes strong. He will live longer than the sedentary man.

Votive figurines from the Temple of Abu at Tell Asmar

Whatever problems you face, take comfort in the fact that they are neither new nor unique. They are simply part of the human condition. Accept what comes and be grateful. The Akkadian author of Gilgamesh shared some good advice:

As for you, Gilgamesh, let your belly be full,
Make merry day and night.
Of each day make a feast of rejoicing.
Day and night dance and play!
Let your garments be clean,
Wash your hair, bathe in water.
Pay heed to the little one that holds your hand,
Let your wife delight in your embrace.

Not bad for a pagan writing (about) four thousand years ago, eh?

Have a good weekend and do not fret. All is well!

*Pictures from Google image; proverbs from the Electronic Corpus of Sumerian Literature

There ain’t nothing gonna steal my joy*

by chuckofish

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I am looking forward to catching up on some sleep this weekend, how about you?

I have no plans, and the wee babes are in Florida.

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IMG_1418.jpgThey appear to be enjoying themselves…but I miss them!

By the way, today is the anniversary of the wee babes’ parents’ wedding! It’s been five years since they tied the knot. They’ve been through a lot and we’re very proud of them.

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God the Holy Trinity make you strong in faith and love,
defend you on every side, and guide you in truth and peace;
and the blessing of God almighty,
the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,
be among you and remain with you always.

Amen!

Have a great weekend!

“They have their exits and their entrances”*

by chuckofish

I was sad to read that the actor John Heard had died. You remember him from Home Alone (1990) no doubt,

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I guess he was sick of being identified as “the frazzled father in Home Alone“–thanks, New York Times–but, you know, everyone can’t be Robert DeNiro. He was a working actor with a recognizable face, and thereby, ahead of the game in my book.

Anyway, I always liked him. Maybe I’ll scrounge around and find one of his more “serious” films, such as The Trip to Bountiful (1985) or (my personal favorite) Awakenings (1990) or “One Way Ticket,” episode 14, season two of Miami Vice.

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Meanwhile, it’s Thursday. Time to start thinking about the weekend!

*As You Like It