dual personalities

Show me the way

by chuckofish

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All places are places of worship to a Christian. Wherever he is, he ought to be in a worshiping frame of mind.

–Charles Spurgeon

Wherever you find yourself today–at your desk or in your car or at home–here are a few prayers to help keep you focused.

First, a prayer to start the morning:

MY GOD, my Father and Preserver, who of thy goodness hast watched over me during the past night, and brought me to this day, grant also that I may spend it wholly in the worship and service of thy most holy deity. Let me not think, or say, or do a single thing which tends not to thy service and submission to thy will, that thus all my actions may aim at thy glory and the salvation of my brethren, while they are taught by my example to serve thee. And as thou art giving light to this world for the purposes of external life by the rays of the sun, so enlighten my mind by the effulgence of thy Spirit, that he may guide me in the way of thy righteousness. To whatever purpose I apply my mind, may the end which I ever propose to myself be thy honor and service. May I expect all happiness from thy grace and goodness only. Let me not attempt any thing whatever that is not pleasing to thee.

Grant also, that while I labor for the maintenance of this life, and care for the things which pertain to food and raiment, I may raise my mind above them to the blessed and heavenly life which thou hast promised to thy children. Be pleased also, in manifesting thyself to me as the protector of my soul as well as my body, to strengthen and fortify me against all the assaults of the devil, and deliver me from all the dangers which continually beset us in this life. But seeing it is a small thing to have begun, unless I also persevere, I therefore entreat of thee, O Lord, not only to be my guide and director for this day, but to keep me under thy protection to the very end of life, that thus my whole course may be performed under thy superintendence. As I ought to make progress, do thou add daily more and more to the gifts of thy grace until I wholly adhere to thy Son Jesus Christ, whom we justly regard as the true Sun, shining constantly in our minds. In order to my obtaining of thee these great and manifold blessings, forget, and out of thy infinite mercy, forgive my offences, as thou hast promised that thou wilt do to those who call upon thee in sincerity.

Grant that I may hear thy voice in the morning since I have hoped in thee. Show me the way in which I should walk, since I have lifted up my soul unto thee. Deliver me from my enemies, O Lord, I have fled unto thee. Teach me to do thy will, for thou art my God. Let thy good Spirit conduct me to the land of uprightness.

–John Calvin

And a reminder that today in the Episcopal Church we commemorate two of the Twelve Apostles–Philip and James.

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Almighty God, who didst give to thine apostles Philip and James grace and strength to bear witness to the truth: Grant that we, being mindful of their victory of faith, may glorify in life and death the Name of our Lord Jesus Christ; who liveth and reigneth with thee and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever.

[The painting of Niagra Falls is by Frederic Edwin Church, 1857, Corcoran Collection, National Gallery of Art]

“Abide in me as I abide in you.”*

by chuckofish

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I stood on chairs this weekend and put things away in closets (not preserves and without the help of a maid). I also assisted the OM in replacing the old hose which had connected the dryer to the dryer vent. That was quite a job and took quite a while, not to mention quite a bit of cursing (which worsened as the task lengthened) to accomplish. The result is certainly not perfect and there is still electrical tape involved, but it works and I caught up on laundry.

I did some reorganizing in my kitchen. Our friend Gary came over on Friday and took out our old non-functioning trash compactor and built in its place a shelf/cabinet in which to put our toaster oven, blender and other infrequently used appliances.

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A big improvement!

I went to an estate sale at the home of a man who had rowed crew at Yale back in the day. I bought a watercolor of the Yale Crew team,

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which I like a lot and which reminds me of my old friend Tom Mendenhall. (Hard to take a picture of it though.)

I also got a box together to send daughter #2 containing things she forgot to take back with her last weekend and a few other goodies.

I got out the ironing board and did some actual ironing…It is now linen season and all that entails. Ironing is not one of my favorite things, but it can be restful if you listen to some good music and don’t rush.

After church I took a walk around the neighborhood to enjoy the beautiful spring day.

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I gabbed on the phone with my daughters and the wee babes and their parents came over for a barbecue. It wasn’t the same as last weekend, but I am very grateful nonetheless.

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Send us now into the world in peace, and grant us strength and courage to love and serve you with gladness and singleness of heart, through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Have a good week!

*John 15: 4

Où le Dieu a vous semé, il faut savoir fleurir*

by chuckofish

Happy Saturday! I spent a nice quiet week working on genealogy and reading, and I hope to do the same over the weekend. I don’t have anything new to report on the genealogy front, so I’ll concentrate on what I’m reading, starting with Alan Furst, the prolific novelist, whose books take place in Europe during the 1930s and ’40s and deal with espionage and resistance against totalitarianism (mostly Fascist, but sometimes Communist, or even both). So far I’ve read Midnight in Paris, The Polish Officer, Kingdom of Shadows, The Foreign Correspondent, Spies of Warsaw, and a Hero of France, and I just started Spies of the Balkans.

What’s so good about these books? Well, for starters, they’re well-written (barring a few annoying grammatical quirks) and extremely well researched. Furst paints a vivid picture of wartime Europe and its people. The characters are well drawn, although they vary little from book to book. Though the hero’s name, background, nationality, and circumstances all change, he is always essentially the same person — as in a Dick Francis novel. Ditto women and supporting characters. I don’t mind that in the least. In fact, there’s something oddly reassuring about it, and it works because each novel deals with a different aspect of the war and how regular people, who were not trained spies or fighters, rose to the occasion and fought back as they could. The books are remarkably restrained in terms of violence and body-count. Furst relies on his readers’ prior knowledge in that sense: we all know how bad the Gestapo and SS were, and we don’t need to have it spelled out in great detail. In fact, I think the tension is worse when these things are left to the imagination. The books aren’t perfect. I could do without the obligatory sex scenes, which are a lazy stand-in for actual romance, but you can’t have everything. These books remind us, their thoughtlessly comfortable and privileged readers, just how lucky we are that our predecessors had gumption and were willing to sacrifice everything so we could be free.

Yes, I’ve been binge-reading Alan Furst, but I’ve also been reading a couple of other books: Drew Gilpin Faust’s, This Republic of Suffering: Death and the American Civil War, and John Lewis Gaddis’ On Grand Strategy.

I bought the Faust book a few years ago and read much of it then, but other things intervened and I never finished it. I am determined to do so now. It’s a great read.

John Lewis Gaddis, Robert A. Lovett Professor of Military and Naval History at Yale, runs a strategy seminar that is famous on and off campus.

So far, the book offers an accessible and interesting introduction to the subject. I’ll let you know how it goes.

After I read these books, it will be time to consider my summer reading list. That reminds me of my youth when I made one every year about this time, though I confess that I rarely read what was on the list. Did you make reading lists? Do you still? What will be on your summer reading list?

Why not start with a classic?

Whatever you choose, keep reading!

*”Wherever God has planted you, you must know how to flower” (French proverb, in Alan Furst, Spies of Warsaw)

Keep your eyes open

by chuckofish

First of all, a hearty happy birthday to one of our favorites, U.S. Grant–or Cousin Lyss as we like to call him. Born in 1822, he would be 196 today. I think his 200th birthday in 2022 calls for a big blow-out party. Let’s put that one on the calendar!

I have to say, I was struck once again, when my DP posted a picture of our dear brother a few days ago,

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how much he resembles our old cousin.

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I mean really. Personally I think the wee laddie is headed in that genetic direction as well.

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Time will tell…

And it’s Friday again. The weekend looms; the weather forecast is promising. Although it has been delayed several weeks, I think spring is finally here in flyover-land. The signs are everywhere!

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My weekend plans have not jelled yet, and that’s okay. After last weekend’s full schedule, I am ready for some down time. It is really just a matter of choosing the wine and the movie to match, right?

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And I love these guys:

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They get it.

And she was

by chuckofish

I heard this song recently and so I thought I would share it for a throwback Thursday post– a favorite song from a favorite album from back in the day.

I always liked the Talking Heads.

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I liked David Byrne and I liked their ladylike bass player Tina Weymouth. I am happy to report that she and Chris Franz–the drummer–who married in 1977, are still married all these years later. Chris Franz is the older brother of one of my students at St. Catherine’s in Richmond way back when, so I assume he was/is an Episcopalian and a fine young man. (His sister Ruthie was a nice girl.)

It made me happy when daughter #2 and DN chose a Talking Heads song for their “first dance” at their wedding reception. The song was:

When you were little
You dreamed you were big
You must have been something
A real tiny kid
You wish you were me
I wish I was you
Now don’t you wake up
The dream will come true
Every dream has a name
And names tell your story
This song is your dream
You’re the dream operator
It’s bigger than life
You know it’s all me
My face is a book
But it’s not what it seems
Three angels above
The whole human race
They dream us to life
They dream me a face
And every dream tells it all
And this dream is your story
You dreamed me a heart
You’re the dream operator
Shake-it-up dream
Hi-di-ho dream
Fix-it-up dream
Look at me dream
I’ve been waiting so long
Now I am your dream
Hard to forget
Hard to go on
When you fall asleep
You’re out on your own
Let go of your life
Grab on to my hand
Here in the clouds
Where we’ll understand
And you dreamed it all
And this is your story
Do you know who you are?
You’re the dream operator
And you dreamed it all
And this is your story
Do you know who you are?
You’re the dream operator
(David Byrne)

Perfect.

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And you dreamed it all and this is your story. Have a good day!

What are you reading?

by chuckofish

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“Part of the forces that sent Sam trudging across the white prairies was love of life, a gladness for health and youth that filled him as Mozart’s gayest music filled him; and part of it was his belief that the earth on which he walked had been designed by the greatest of artists, and that if a man had the courage and fortitude not to fail it, it would not fail him. In Sam’s rough mountain-man philosophy those persons who became the wards of sadness and melancholy had never summoned for use and trial more than a part of what they had in them, and so had failed themselves and their Creator. If it was a part of the inscrutable plan that he was to live through this ordeal, and again cover the bones of wife and child with mountain lilies, the strength was lying in him, waiting, and he had only to call on it- all of it- and use it, without flinching or whimpering. If he showed himself to be a worthy piece in the Great Architect’s edifice he would live; in Sam’s philosophy that was about all there was to it.”

–Vardis Fisher, Mountain Man

While reading through my pile of 1940s New Yorker magazines, I read a review of a novel by Vardis Fisher. This reminded me of the movie Jeremiah Johnson (1972) which is based on another Vardis Fisher novel, Mountain Man, which I had always meant to read. So I checked out Mountain Man (published in 1965) from my flyover university and have been reading it.

The story follows the life of Sam Minard (and various other fur-trappers) and his relations with the Crow and Blackfoot tribes in and around 1846. Two of the three central characters were suggested by actual people: Kate Bowden (i.e. Jane Morgan) who went crazy after killing with an ax the four Indians who had slaughtered her family on the Musselshell: secondly, Samson Minard (i.e. John Johnston- the “Crow-killer”). It is an action-packed tale, full of detail and interesting facts about the Wyoming-Montana-Idaho territory. Our mountain man hero is apt to wax eloquent on many subjects, such as which animal mothers will fight to the death to protect their children (wolf, wolverine,  bobcat, badger, bear, grouse, avocet, horned lark) and which will not (buffalo, elk). Sam is also quite a spiritual being:

Reading nature, for Sam, was like reading the Bible; in both, the will of the Creator was plain.

He is educated, well read and likes to sing. What’s not to like?

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It should be noted that the book has very little in common with the movie, however, and they must be enjoyed separately. I have no idea why the screenwriter strayed so far from the book, but he did. I guess they felt the need to lighten up on the Indians and make them more palatable to the movie-going audience. Whatever.

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Our great-great grandfather, John Simpson Hough, was a good friend of “Uncle Dick” Wooten

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Richens Lacey Wooten

and Kit Carson,

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who are both referred to in the book. Although no mountain man himself, John Hough was a great admirer of the breed. Family legend says that Kit Carson died in the Hough’s house in Boggsville (and not in Fort Lyon per Wikipedia). At least one of his daughters (Terasina) lived with and was raised by the Houghs for several years. When he knew Dick and Kit, they were both old men, and I’m sure John Hough enjoyed listening to their tales of the early days. In that, I am like him.

What are you reading?

The secret sauce

by chuckofish

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“One of the reasons I made the most important decision of my life, to marry George Bush, is because he made me laugh,” she said.  “Find the joy in life, because as Ferris Bueller said on his day off, “Life moves pretty fast; and if you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you’re going to miss it.” (Barbara Bush, commencement address, Wellesley College, 1990)

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Goodbye, Bar. We’ll miss you.

Into paradise may the angels lead thee; and at thy coming may the martyrs receive thee, and bring thee into the holy city Jerusalem.

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As someone said to me, “It looks like God put on a suit and came to the funeral.”

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Episcopalians arriving at St. Martin’s.

*A eulogy was given by Barbara Bush’s longtime friend, Susan Baker, wife of former Secretary of State James A. Baker III, who said Mrs. Bush — the wife of the 41st president of the U.S. and mother of the 43rd — was “the secret sauce of this extraordinary family.”

[The photos are from Google search. I was there in spirit only and could not take pictures.]

Where’s the action? Where’s the game?*

by chuckofish

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My birthday weekend (shared with daughter #2 who turned 28 last weekend) was so fun, starting with our traditional margaritas on the way home from the airport.

IMG_8720.JPGOver the three day weekend we managed to fit in trips to the botanical garden and Grant’s Farm, lunch out and Ted Drewe’s, a night at the Sheldon with a red hot bluegrass band, plus three visits with the wee babes. We also watched Guys and Dolls (1955)! I even managed to squeeze in church–albeit the 8:00 a.m. service where I saw people I hadn’t seen in years!

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This toy is too darn fun

Not to mention we enjoyed our first barbeque of the season, with cake and lots of presents!

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The OM joined the TCM wine club on my behalf–It’s official: I am a total nerd.

My cup runneth over.

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*It’s the oldest established, permanent floating
Crap game in New York!

Have a good week!

On the road again

by chuckofish

It’s hard to believe that two years ago I was back in my home town celebrating my dual personality’s birthday.

Here’s hoping this year’s party was just as fun — I thought about you all day!

Time is a funny thing, isn’t it? Just a week ago I left Michigan, hoping to get home before the ice hit. I had a wonderful time visiting my brother and his wife, first at their home outside Detroit and then at their cottage in Algonac. We paid a visit to the Detroit Institute of Art, where we viewed the furniture and early American and European painting galleries, as well as the ancient art displays, including one of my favorites, the glazed tile Mushhushhu (aka Serpopard) from the Ishtar Gates in Babylon.

Now that would make an interesting kitchen back splash!

I haven’t been to a museum in a while, and I can’t tell you how nice it was to do so with my knowledgeable brother. We had a great time discussing the merits of each piece.

Once at the cottage, our focus changed to nature, of which we saw an amazing variety: a snowy owl that perched on the boathouse roof; a mink that frolicked not 15 feet away; several live muskrats (plus 34 dead ones along the road — we counted); an egret, and too many species of waterfowl to name. We also had a chance to go pistol shooting at the new range in Algonac State Park, which was great fun. I felt very professional, but my brother is the marksman.

We also fit in a little walking and birding. Here’s the hardy explorer hunting for the elusive red-bellied woodpecker.

It was too windy to take a boat out on the water, but Chris and Joanna did treat me to a superb dinner at a restaurant where we enjoyed perfect waterside seating and the catch of the day.

Really, I can’t say enough about the trip — the company certainly made up for the arduous drive there and back. I guess I’ll just have to get back on the road again soon!

Have a great weekend wherever you are, and don’t be afraid to hit the road.

“I’ve got nothing to do today but smile.”*

by chuckofish

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It must be my birthday, because there was a cake waiting for me at work! Actually, that was yesterday–I took today off so I could hang out with daughters #1 and #2.

Tonight we are going to the Sheldon to see these guys,

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who are stepping in to replace Marty Stuart and His Fabulous Superlatives, originally scheduled for this date, but who, due to “a scheduling conflict,” will no longer appear. Of course, I would rather see Marty et al, but I was given the tickets so I’m not going to complain. I’m sure Daily and Vincent will be entertaining as all get out. They look like fun, don’t they?

Tomorrow we are babysitting for the wee babes in the morning, so that their mommy can go with her sister to pick out a wedding dress. (The boy has to work.)

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The soundtrack of giggling with this video was hilarious…

They are all coming over to our house on Saturday night to celebrate with the birthday girls. The OM will cook.

Well, as Gratiano says in The Merchant of Venice:

“Let me play the fool.
With mirth and laughter let old wrinkles come.
And let my liver rather heat with wine
Than my heart cool with mortifying groans.”

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Have a great weekend!

*Paul Simon, “The Only Living Boy in New York”