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Why I love Joseph Conrad

by chuckofish

“It is when we try to grapple with another man’s intimate need that we perceive how incomprehensible, wavering and misty are the beings that share with us the sight of the stars and the warmth of the sun. It is as if loneliness were a hard and absolute condition of existence; the envelope of flesh and blood on which our eyes are fixed melts before the outstretched hand, and there remains only the capricious, unconsolable and elusive spirit that no eye can follow, no hand can grasp.” Lord Jim

And he had such nice eyes, too.

Somewhere over the rainbow

by chuckofish

On this day in 1969 Frances Ethel Gumm, better known as Judy Garland, was found dead in the bathroom of a rented house in Chelsea, England of an “incautious over-dosage of barbiturates”. She was only 47, but she had been working for over 40 years.

On June 26 Garland’s remains were taken to New York City, where an estimated 20,000 people lined up for hours at the Frank E. Campbell Funeral Chapel in Manhattan to pay their respects. James Mason gave a eulogy the next day at her funeral, an Episcopal service.

Recently I happened to watch The Wizard of Oz on TCM for the umpteenth time. It really is one of the best movies ever made. Definitely on my Top Ten list. It should have won Best Picture in that year of years 1939, but, of course, it lost to the over-blown and over-esteemed Gone With the Wind. This movie has everything, including a flyover state tornado! Everyone in it is perfect from the smartest, bravest dog ever in movies (Toto) to the Munchkins to Billie Burke as Glinda and Margaret Hamilton as the Wicked Witch of the West to the Scarecrow, Tin Woodsman and Cowardly Lion. The sets, the music. And 17-year-old Judy Garland as the brown-eyed Dorothy Gale: Wonderful.

Much has been written about the sad life of Judy Garland and her misbegotten career in Hollywood. She only made about 30 movies, but she will be remembered forever for a handful of really good movies and one great one: The Wizard of Oz. Everyone should own it and watch it once a year. Remember in the old days when they would broadcast it on Thanksgiving night? We looked forward to it every year, and always watched it. For a long time Danny Kaye introduced it and warned people not to adjust their televisions when the screen suddenly turns to color when Dorothy wakes up in Oz. Genius. Of course, we never had a color TV growing up, so our mother had to explain to us what happens in the movie. I never saw it on the big screen–it must have been magical.

Anyway, watching The Wizard of Oz would be a good way to honor the great Judy Garland today. May light perpetual shine upon you, Judy.

That’s My King

by chuckofish

Shadrach Meshach Lockridge (1913—2000) was the pastor of Calvary Baptist Church, a prominent African-American congregation located in San Diego, California, from 1953 to 1993. He was known for his preaching across the United States and around the world.

I never hear anything like this in my church. I wish I did.

Do you know Him?

Memory lane

by chuckofish

The boy is getting hitched in about 6 weeks. He is marrying a young lady he has known since the three-year-old class at pre-school (see above).

The boy is the cutie in the second row on the far left with the cool socks and the OshKosh overalls. His bride-to-be is the girl in the sailor dress in the front row, third from the left. They are getting married in the same church his father and I were married in and also the parents of the bride. Practically unheard of in this day in age!

Here they are in the four-year-old class picture–engaged by now, but not sitting together. The boy is still wearing those cool socks and overalls and has added a jeans jacket to his trend-setting ensemble. Lauren appears to be already carrying a handbag.

They haven’t changed much really, have they?

Happy birthday, Mildred Natwick

by chuckofish

Character actress Mildred Natwick was born on June 18, 1905 in Baltimore, Maryland.

She didn’t actually make that many movies, but the ones she made were memorable. She was in four John Ford movies: The Long Voyage Home (1940), 3 Godfathers (1948), She Wore a Yellow Ribbon (1949), and The Quiet Man (1952). In all four she co-starred with John Wayne–lucky lady.

She was also in two other favorite films of mine: Alfred Hitchcock’s The Trouble With Harry (1955) with Shirley MacLaine and Jerry Mathers and Tammy and the Bachelor (1957) with Debbie Reynolds. According to IMDB.com, Truman Capote and Tennessee Williams “adored her” and cast her often in their plays. Well.

She always lent humor and authenticity to any role she played. She was nominated for two Tony Awards and finally in 1967 she received her only Oscar nomination for supporting actress in Barefoot in the Park.

A devout Christian Scientist and all-around class act, she died in 1994. She is interred next to the remains of her sister (and dual personality?) in Lorraine Cemetery in Baltimore, Maryland.

Why I love Raymond Chandler

by chuckofish

“On the right the great fat solid Pacific trudging into shore like a scrubwoman going home. No moon, no fuss, hardly a sound of the surf. No smell. None of the harsh wild smell of the sea. A California ocean. California, the department-store state. The most of everything and the best of nothing. Here we go again. You’re not human tonight, Marlowe.

—The Little Sister

It’s been awhile since we’ve heard from ol’ Raymond Chandler. Such a way with words. Don’t we all feel better now?

On Father’s Day…take a hike!

by chuckofish

I wanted to do a father’s day post. At first I thought of reminiscing about my own father, but my dual personality has pretty much covered that for now. Then I thought of doing something current, but I do not have immediate access to a scanner so can’t scan in the really embarrassing choice photos. So we’ll just have to settle for something prettier, if more mundane.

As I was looking through the photos I do have on the computer, I came across our most recent trip to Banff, Alberta. Here’s the happy couple, taken when I was still speaking to him.

Right after that photo the hike took an upward turn and we climbed and climbed. I accused my hubbie of trying to kill me. He knew I was out of shape and didn’t want to go up a mountain — I was very out of breath and thinking that I was soon to drop dead of a heart attack. But the husband is a patient man, who knows when to ignore his wife.

The scenery was spectacular. My mood lightened and we didn’t meet any bears, just smaller uber-friendly wildlife:

Mom gets up close and friendly with a chipmunk

The way downhill was easier

and at the end of the day, we were exhausted, but happy, which just goes to show you that “Father knows best”!

You can tell this was a few years ago — boy #3 is now as tall as his dad!

And if you can’t get out with your dad/husband this father’s day, take some time to remember a good time you have had with him! HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!!

Bunker Hill Day

by chuckofish

June 17 is Bunker Hill Day which commemorates the battle fought in 1775 mostly on and around Breed’s Hill, during the Siege of Boston early in the American Revolutionary War. The battle is named after the adjacent Bunker Hill, which was peripherally involved in the battle and was the original objective of both colonial and British troops.

Our grandfather, Daniel Hilton Cameron was born on June 17, 1900 and was always from that day forward called Bunker or Bunk.

He was the 4th child of Daniel and Susie Taylor Cameron of Burlington, Vermont.

I have blogged about Bunker and his baseball playing prowess previously here. School never agreed with him, but he was, by all accounts, a highly intelligent child who was talented in many areas. Rumor has it that he could pick up a musical instrument and play it by ear. Another story has him and a friend taking a car apart at night and putting it back together on top of a porte-cochère as a prank.

A porte-cochère, in case you’d forgotten

Clearly he had other talents as he convinced our strait-laced, deeply religious grandmother to run away and elope with him.

His own deeply religious father had had enough at that point (even though he and Bunker’s mother totally approved of his choice of wife) and disowned him, so he and his new bride were forced to go home to her father in Chicago. (No doubt, he hoped this would teach Bunker a lesson, something he had been trying to do for twenty years.) He worked at odd jobs and for awhile was a taxi driver. Eventually his father relented and they returned to the east where he went into his father’s lumber business. He and Catherine had three girls, our mother the middle and his favorite child. (They were the most alike.)

Funnily enough, when our mother decided against his wishes to marry our father in Savannah, Georgia, where he was stationed in the army, instead of waiting and getting married at home, he refused to come to the wedding, echoing his own stubborn father’s behavior. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. He also eventually forgave her, but think of her getting married far from home without her “daddy” there to give her his blessing.

Rest in peace, Bunker. I hardly knew ye, but I remember when our mother returned from Massachusetts after her own mother died and she wept because she knew she would never see you again. And she was right. You died within the year.

Daughter #1 at the Cameron plot in Lakeview Cemetery in Burlington, Vermont

When all the sky is clear and blue

by chuckofish

“In winter I get up at night
And dress by yellow candle-light.
In summer quite the other way,
I have to go to bed by day.
I have to go to bed and see
The birds still hopping on the tree,
Or hear the grown-up people’s feet
Still going past me in the street.
And does it not seem hard to you,
When all the sky is clear and blue,
And I should like so much to play,
To have to go to bed by day?”

– Robert Louis Stevenson, Bed in Summer

I remember this so well–going to bed when it was still light outside! The days are long in June in this flyover state!

Another ugga wugg memory

by chuckofish

“Well, one afternoon I was supposed to be taking care of Sonny while Mother was out shopping. He couldn’t have been older than three or four at the most. I was about ten. Well, we had a big fight about something, I forget what it was about, but Sonny got so mad he packed a suitcase and ran away. He was always running away. When Mother came home from shopping a few hours later, she found him in the lobby. He was dressed from head to toe in his Indian costume, long feather headdress and all. He said, ‘Mother, I’m running away, but I stayed to say good-bye to you.’

“When she unpacked his suitcase, it was full of toy soldiers.”

(Story told about J.D. Salinger by his sister Doris in “Dream Catcher” by Margaret Salinger)

I cannot tell you how much I love this story. What would you give to see a picture of little J.D. (Sonny) dressed in his Indian costume with full feather headdress?

Well, the best I could do is show you a picture of daughter #1 wearing the Indian costume that my mother made for me when I was in the first grade and we played the Indians in a school production of Peter Pan. Unfortunately, although I searched high and low, I could not find the picture! But I did find the dress!

All the mothers made the costumes for their own daughters, so you can imagine they varied quite a lot according to the skill level of each mama. Not surprisingly, some were store-bought and pretty fancy. I seem to remember some glitter in there too. Mine had real leather fringe and hand-beaded trim.

My older brother even strung me a bead necklace to wear with the dress. My mother, of course, went for authenticity and made the costume brown, unlike some mothers who went for “cute”. There was much diversity of headbands, I recall–some definitely leaning to the “tiara”.

Come to think of it, I would like to see a picture of those first grade Indian maidens, wouldn’t you?