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Honey, it’s cold outside

by chuckofish

“Winter hung in there, like an invalid refusing to die. Day after grey day the ice stayed hard; the world remained unfriendly and cold.”*

I’ll say.  It was so cold earlier this week (-14 with wind chills down to -30) that after walking to work, son #2’s normally red beard had transformed into a hoary white.

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Even the poor boy’s cheeks were ice-covered, but at least he was wearing a hat.

January, the bleak midwinter, is a hard season: house fires are common, driving is perilous, and people have heart-attacks shoveling snow. Maybe I’m just a cowardly old lady, but I find severe cold unsettling and kind of scary. If something unexpected happens — you fall and break your ankle or your car crashes — you may freeze to death before help arrives,

john03just like the mountain man with the broken legs in Jeremiah Johnson.

Still, if we spend all our time inside, we are apt to fall prey to cabin fever. Too much alone time can bring out the crazy in anyone (especially Johnny Depp).

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If it isn’t one thing, it’s another. How do we get through the dark days of winter?

Keep busy. Aside from the obvious reading and movie-watching, try something new. Be creative:  knit; sew; paint; draw, or cook. Get organized: clean out your closets; plan summer projects; catch up with paperwork, or arrange your bookcases, family photos, and mementos. Use your brain: learn some exotic language like Gaelic or Mandarin; write letters to your favorite people; research your genealogy, or study some new topic that interests you.  Attend to your body: exercise (as if); give yourself ‘beauty treatments’; learn to meditate or pray. Actually, there’s no end of wonderful things to occupy your time until spring arrives.

I realize that none of those suggestions is in any way novel, but sometimes it’s good to be reminded of the possibilities. Whatever you do, do something.

*Neil Gaiman, Odd and the Frost Giants

“I’ve seen the promised land.”

by chuckofish

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Almighty God, by the hand of Moses your servant led your people out of slavery, and made them free at last; Grant that your Church, following the example of your prophet Martin Luther King, may resist oppression in the name of your love, and may secure for all your children the blessed liberty of the Gospel of Jesus Christ; who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Martin Luther King, Jr. is remembered as a martyr on the calendar of the Episcopal Church with an annual feast day on the anniversary of his death, April 4, but his birthday is commemorated liturgically today.

King’s oldest daughter Yolanda was a classmate of mine at Smith College. She was a theater major, however, so I don’t think our paths crossed. “In life,” she said, “I had to be prim and proper and poised — the King daughter. But acting, I could be zany, silly, sometimes the foolish person that I am. I could let the rough edges show.” (NYTimes obit, 2007) I get that.

I am reminded today that my son’s poem “Stop the Violence” was awarded 1st place in the MLK poetry contest at his elementary school (or was it the school district?) back (circa) 1994 when he was in the second grade…I wish I had a copy of it to share with you, but it is lost in a dusty pile of memorabilia. I think he was given a medal.

I remember telling my children that Dr. King was a Baptist minister who believed that we are all God’s children. It is a good thing for all of us to keep in mind.

Martin Luther King, Jr. statue over the west entrance of Westminster Abbey, installed in 1998.

Stay positive

by chuckofish

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However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names. It is not so bad as you are. It looks poorest when you are richest. The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise. Love your life, poor as it is. You may perhaps have some pleasant, thrilling, glorious hours, even in a poorhouse. The setting sun is reflected from the windows of the almshouse as brightly as from the rich man’s abode; the snow melts before its door as early in the spring. I do not see but a quiet mind may live as contentedly there, and have as cheering thoughts, as in a palace.

–Henry David Thoreau, Walden

*Woodcut by Ethel Kirkpatrick, c. 1905

“I live my life a quarter mile at a time.”*

by chuckofish

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So here we are well into January and I haven’t written anything about the new year or January or anything like that. Tant pis. I haven’t been feeling it.

This weekend, however, I spent all day Saturday and a good part of Sunday putting away Christmas decorations and generally getting the house in order. I feel much better about Life and 2015 and all that.

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It is good to welcome back a few old friends who were put away for the holidays.

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Hello, Nigel and Errol, you handsome devils. (My mother named these guys many moons ago.)

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I hesitate to make any great claims for change in the new year. Change happens despite us, so I prefer to stay on course and hope for the best. The OM and I have pledged to clean up the storage area in the basement and Throw Away a lot of accumulated stuff. This seems like a worthy goal for the rest of the winter months.

Meanwhile I am back reading Middlemarch, which is really good!

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People haven’t changed so much since 1871. I recognize quite a few in this study of provincial life.

The OM and I have also enjoyed watching the Fast and the Furious movies he received for Christmas.

81uuHFiu2ZL._SY606_I mean who can resist these two cuties?

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Vin Diesel and Paul Walker

So onward, I say, in 2015.

Almighty and eternal God, so draw our hearts to thee, so guide our minds, so fill our imaginations, so control our wills, that we may be wholly thine, utterly dedicated unto thee; and then use us, we pray thee, as thou wilt, and always to thy glory and the welfare of thy people; through our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Amen.

–BCP

*Dom in The Fast and The Furious (2001)

Bearded wonders

by chuckofish

And they are

IMG_0414Don’t ask me how they all came to grow beards, although I think it has something to do with being too lazy to shave. Chris is channeling Yukon Cornelius, while James seems to be going for a Serpico look. Tim, on the other hand, seems to have achieved a trim Tom Hardy.

Speaking of Tom Hardy, last night we watched Locke, which is a very good movie and I highly recommend. In case you are unfamiliar with this 2013 film, the whole things takes place in a car as the eponymous character, Ivan Locke (Hardy), drives from Birmingham to London one night. What could have seemed contrived, gimicky and claustrophobic comes across as a nuanced and genuinely riveting character study about a good man trying to do the right thing. Hardy’s performance is wonderful and restrained. The music and cinematography are also excellent. My only criticism is that the female characters seemed a tad weak and stereotypical.

The movie is not available on Netflix watchitnow, but it is free on Amazon prime, which is where we saw it. I give it two thumbs up and highly recommend it. And, hey, Tom Hardy’s beard is nice, don’t you think?

 

“You interrupted a very important discussion on serious matters regarding big things”*

by chuckofish

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Well, gee, I know what I’ll be doing this weekend! I am going to stay home and enjoy not having much to do except put my house in order. That and watching a few good movies.

Yesterday was Elvis Presley’s birthday (January 8, 1935 – August 16, 1977) so I DVR’d quite a few Elvis movies on TCM.

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Guess I’ll be watching some of those–along with my therapeutic binge-watching of John Wayne movies.

I started last night by watching Angel and the Badman (1947).

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I enjoyed it a lot! It was about Quakers and outlaws. John Wayne (as the badman–not really) rides hard and throws things around and bursts through doors and is altogether manly. He is won over by the Quaker (Gail Russell)–no surprises here. I recommend it.

Add to this a cup (or two) of cheer and you have the start of a weekend! Have a good one.

*Angel and the Badman

“Turn out the lights, the party’s over”*

by chuckofish

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Well, we are a week into the new year. Now that my girls have returned to their respective homes in the East, I am going to throw myself body and soul into cleaning, organizing and de-cluttering my  house. (Here’s an article on Purging the Pantry.)

Because daughter #2 wanted me to keep up the tree and all the Christmas decorations for the BF when he visited, I am way behind in putting away all things Christmas. Oy.

But as I say every year, all this cleaning keeps my mind off my personal pity party. How about you? How do you deal with the ‘Mean Reds’?

*Willie Nelson

“Ah, how good it is to be among people who are reading.”*

by chuckofish

It is way to cold in flyover-land to be reading outdoors in a  meadow, but it's a  nice thought.

It is way to cold in flyover-land to be reading outdoors in a meadow, but it’s a nice thought.

Here’s an interesting article in the New York Times about the best books a list of editors read in 2014. Interesting because Moby-Dick and a biography of Nathaniel Hawthorne show up.

What was your favorite book of 2014?

Mine was probably Oscar and Lucinda by Peter Carey and my subsequent discovery of Carey as an author of merit.

Who I wonder will I discover in 2015? Well, for now it is back to Middlemarch and George Eliot for me. How about you?

*Rainer Maria Rilke

 

Arise, shine, for your light has come

by chuckofish

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Well, what a two weeks this has been! It has been filled with trees, lights, decorations,

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trips to the airport,

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multiple church services, social events, family,

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friends and guests,

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dance parties, and way too much food and drink.

But I took very few pictures. I will try to do better as I return to my routine. I am a routine person after all. Meanwhile, it is back to school today! Arise, shine–the days are getting longer after all. Thank goodness.

Start as you mean to go on — 2015 edition

by chuckofish

Over the course of a December birthday and Christmas I have received several wonderful books. And what better way to start the year than with lots of new books to read? First, we have the Danish murder mystery that my youngest son gave me for my birthday.

department qNot your typical dour and depraved Scandinavian thriller, this book was both impossible to put down and pleasantly devoid of graphic violence. That’s not to say that the crime wasn’t unpleasant, but the book struck me as surprisingly PG-13 in a world of increasingly gratuitous NC-17 (if books got ratings that is). AND it’s part of a series, so I can look forward to more of the same.

I also received a couple of wonderful biographies, which I haven’t started reading yet.

shermanI’m really looking forward to this one.  James McPherson, famous Civil War historian, has this to say about it (quoted at Amazon): “To his family and friends he was Cump; to his soldiers he was Uncle Billy; to generations of Southern whites he was the devil incarnate. But to biographer Robert L. O’Connell, William T. Sherman was the quintessential nineteenth-century American: full of energy, constantly on the move, pragmatic, adaptable, determined to overcome all obstacles, a nationalist and patriot who teamed with Grant and Lincoln to win the Civil War and launch America as a world power. This readable biography offers new insights on Sherman as a husband and father as well as a master strategist and leader.” Sherman is a really fascinating character, don’t you think?

Going back a couple thousand years, we have the new biography of another iconic figure, Augustus, Rome’s first Emperor.

augustusI have several more of Goldsworthy’s books, including his biography of Julius Caesar, a history of the Punic Wars, and a book about the Roman army. This author is a favorite of mine; he always takes his subjects on their own merit and puts everything in context. No post-modern, “the past is unrecoverable so we can make it up” history here. What a pleasure.

Another, more specialized Roman history book that I received is a new investigation of how the Romans dealt with military defeat.

clarkThis is actually a really interesting topic that combines military history, memory studies, politics, and culture …and it’s very readable. In any case, it’s good to be reminded that even the Romans suffered defeats from time to time (and during the 2nd Punic War, a lot).

All my reading does not focus on history or mystery, however. I also got (as I had asked) a lovely interior design book by Lisa Borgnes Giramonti, whose blog, “A Bloomsbury Life” I follow.

giramontiAn artist and bibliophile, Borgnes decided to put her love of literature together with her love of beautiful interiors. The result: a book that takes “over 60 classic novels and find[s] modern homes that match the aesthetic described-down to the last chintz flower”(Architectural Digest). Think loads of gorgeous pictures and nice quotes plus some great decorating advice.

As you can see, I have received quite the treasure-trove of reading material. I’ll count myself a super lucky girl when I find the time to read all of this. Despite this wonderful backlog, I’m always looking for recommendations. What are you reading in 2015?