dual personalities

Boxing day

by chuckofish

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Even though we celebrate responsibly around here, let’s take it easy today…

Then let us all with one accord Sing praises to our heavenly Lord

by chuckofish

IMG_5182.JPGThis was the most precious moment of my Christmas Eve…the wee laddie sitting on my lap toward the end of the Christmas Eve service, entertaining himself by paging through the Book of Common Prayer. I mean, c’mon…

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Christmas postcards

by chuckofish

Everyone arrived home and we threw a party!

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Just the basics…

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The wee laddie found the knife drawer…

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These two dudes are on the same wave length…

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The hero worship begins…

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This fashion maven is all about the books…

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This little chair was just right…

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After everyone went home and we cleaned up, we got in our jammies and watched White Christmas. 

A perfect ending to a perfect day.

“Christmas is a piece of one’s home that one carries in one’s heart.”*

by chuckofish

Christmas is in three days! For my family, this Christmas will be different in a number of ways, especially because — for the first time ever — we will be without one of our number. Our middle son will celebrate Christmas far away in Idaho.  The holiday will also be a bit truncated: our eldest will arrive on Christmas Eve and has to work on Boxing Day; son #3 is still finalizing his plans, but should arrive tomorrow, and since we did not win the construction race to finish the kitchen, the workmen will be right back at it at 8am on December 27. C’est la vie.

Channeling my inner Theodore Roosevelt, I’m planning to do what I can, with what I have, where I am. And I’m going to have fun doing it! Today is cleaning day. Dust lies thick and crisp and even on every surface, and nothing is where it is supposed to be. After the DH takes refuge in his office to grade final exams in peace, I’m going to roll up my sleeves, blare Christmas music, and get to work:

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I’ll also decorate, wrap presents, and grocery shop. Then I’m going to collapse in a satisfied heap. Yikes! I’d better start soon —  it’s already 11:00 am!

I leave you with a verse from George Withers, an English satirical poet (1588-1667):

“Without the door let sorrow lie,
And if for cold it hap to die,
We’ll bury ‘t in a Christmas pie,
And evermore be merry.”

Be merry, for all is well!

 

*Freya Stark

Friday movie picks

by chuckofish

The other night when the OM and I came home from his office party and I was too keyed up to go to bed, I turned on TCM and watched Oliver Twist (1948).

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Directed by David Lean, this British version of the Dickens novel does not sugar-coat the harsh realities of the life of poor Oliver, the orphan boy who runs away from a workhouse and meets a pickpocket on the streets of London. Taken in by the pickpocket, he joins the household of Fagin and his gang of young hoodlums. It is a ghastly story really and Bill Sykes is one of the the scariest characters in literature and he has always traumatized me. Once again, the scene where he beats Nancy to death moved me to turn off the TV.

This movie, made seventy years ago, packs quite a punch as social commentary–in black and white and without f-bombs and computer-generated violence. The acting is all top-notch, although Alec Guinness’s portrayal of Fagin drew quite a lot of criticism at the time as being anti-semitic.

Screen Shot 2018-12-20 at 10.28.36 AM.png(His make-up is a little much, but supposedly they were trying to make him look like the character as he appeared in George Cruikshank’s illustrations in the first edition of the novel, which you could argue were anti-semitic in the first place. But, you know, Fagin is just a fictional character in a book, a villain, and not a stereotype of all Jews.)

Once again, I have to say, they knew how to make movies back then.

So what then is my Friday movie pick? Maybe a Christmas movie…

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We could then discuss which Christmas movie mom most reminds you of which dual personality…and don’t say Angela Lansbury!

Or we could all just do a crossword puzzle in honor of today being the 105th anniversary of the first crossword puzzle being published in the New York World. Unfortunately I am terrible at crossword puzzles. I think I would rather wash dishes. Or listen to Henry Mancini records.

Discuss among yourselves. Have a good weekend!

Go tell it on the mountain

by chuckofish

Today is my last day at work before taking off for my Christmas holiday! Yes, I took some vacation days not long ago, but my pilgrimage to the holy land was hardly restful! Now I am going for restful.

  1. I am going to enjoy my Christmas decor…

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2. I am going to enjoy the fact that I have already wrapped all my presents…

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3. I’ll watch Christmas movies…

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4. I’ll make a grocery list for our party on Sunday…

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5. And await the arrival of daughter #1, daughter #2 and DN this weekend.

BTW–Congratulations to daughter #2 👏👏👏 who was “hooded” yesterday! She is now officially a PhD. I think she looks like a Presbyterian minister.

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The two PhD couple–adorable!

I will also note that it is time again for the TCM Remembers video:

It was news to me that Barbara Harris had died. She had quite a career, although most people nowadays probably have never heard of her. She appeared in a lot of stage productions on Broadway, including On A Clear Day You Can See Forever, which Lerner and Loewe wrote especially for her. She was in some good movies too, my favorite, of course, being A Thousand Clowns (1965). She was also in the original Freaky Friday (1976) with Jody Foster.

Screen Shot 2018-12-19 at 5.04.28 PM.pngI also just heard that Penny Marshall died the other day. Although the New York Times chose to remember her as “the nasal-voiced co-star of the slapstick sitcom “Laverne & Shirley” and later the chronically self-deprecating director of hit films like “Big” and “A League of Their Own,” I will always remember her as the very talented director of one of my favorite movies, the wonderful Awakenings (1991).

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I think I will watch it tonight and toast Penny Marshall, Barbara Harris and my  lovely, talented and deeply intelligent daughter #2!

Onward to Christmas!

And, lo, the star, which they saw in the east, went before them…

by chuckofish

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“Is not my word like fire, says the Lord!” (Jeremiah 23:29)

“Gather ‘round that fire this Advent season,” advises John Piper. “It is warm. It is sparkling with colors of grace. It is healing for a thousand hurts. It is light for dark nights.” In other words, read some scripture this Advent!

If you are setting up your nativity scene with shepherds, the first to appear on the scene, you can read Luke 2: 1-20:

2 And it came to pass in those days, that there went out a decree from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be taxed.

2 (And this taxing was first made when Cyrenius was governor of Syria.)

3 And all went to be taxed, every one into his own city.

4 And Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judaea, unto the city of David, which is called Bethlehem; (because he was of the house and lineage of David:)

5 To be taxed with Mary his espoused wife, being great with child.

6 And so it was, that, while they were there, the days were accomplished that she should be delivered.

7 And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.

8 And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.

9 And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid.

10 And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.

11 For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, which is Christ the Lord.

12 And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.

13 And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,

14 Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.

15 And it came to pass, as the angels were gone away from them into heaven, the shepherds said one to another, Let us now go even unto Bethlehem, and see this thing which is come to pass, which the Lord hath made known unto us.

16 And they came with haste, and found Mary, and Joseph, and the babe lying in a manger.

17 And when they had seen it, they made known abroad the saying which was told them concerning this child.

18 And all they that heard it wondered at those things which were told them by the shepherds.

19 But Mary kept all these things, and pondered them in her heart.

20 And the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things that they had heard and seen, as it was told unto them.

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When you are setting up your creche with Wise Men, you can read Matthew 2: 1-12:

2 Now when Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judaea in the days of Herod the king, behold, there came wise men from the east to Jerusalem,

2 Saying, Where is he that is born King of the Jews? for we have seen his star in the east, and are come to worship him.

3 When Herod the king had heard these things, he was troubled, and all Jerusalem with him.

4 And when he had gathered all the chief priests and scribes of the people together, he demanded of them where Christ should be born.

5 And they said unto him, In Bethlehem of Judaea: for thus it is written by the prophet,

6 And thou Bethlehem, in the land of Judah, art not the least among the princes of Judah: for out of thee shall come a Governor, that shall rule my people Israel.

7 Then Herod, when he had privily called the wise men, enquired of them diligently what time the star appeared.

8 And he sent them to Bethlehem, and said, Go and search diligently for the young child; and when ye have found him, bring me word again, that I may come and worship him also.

9 When they had heard the king, they departed; and, lo, the star, which they saw in the east, went before them, till it came and stood over where the young child was.

10 When they saw the star, they rejoiced with exceeding great joy.

11 And when they were come into the house, they saw the young child with Mary his mother, and fell down, and worshipped him: and when they had opened their treasures, they presented unto him gifts; gold, and frankincense and myrrh.

12 And being warned of God in a dream that they should not return to Herod, they departed into their own country another way.

Screen Shot 2018-12-18 at 1.27.31 PM.pngYou will note that animals are not mentioned in the scripture. Even so, I always liked this song and this version by Sufjan Stevens is pretty straightforward.

I gave the wee babes the Fisher Price nativity set for their birthday.

Screen Shot 2018-12-18 at 2.49.54 PM.pngOf course, Lottie loves to play with it in her precise, careful way. The wee laddie likes to throw the pieces and has no respect for the baby Jesus, despite my remonstrances to the contrary.

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Keep on reading your scripture in these final days of Advent! Only six days ’til Christmas!

In calm or stormy weather

by chuckofish

Today is my dear DP’s birthday. There is nothing that makes me feel older than my little sister reaching an age milestone, even hitting that milestone myself! We are getting to be such old ladies!

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You may have gathered that my sister is the intellectual in the family and the most like our mother in that respect. Our mother was very proud of her, traveling all over the world in the pursuit of knowledge. She lived to see her go on to Yale and the Babylonian Collection, but she did not see her married and the mother of three boys. She would have been equally proud of that. She would have loved that she is a college professor. And she would have been very happy to know that she is a elder in her church.

I have always been proud of my little sister as well. She did the things I wasn’t able to do–she made the varsity field hockey team! She was never timid.

Well, we have been lucky to have each other and to support each other through the years, because, you know…

…there is no friend like a sister
In calm or stormy weather;
To cheer one on the tedious way,
To fetch one if one goes astray,
To lift one if one totters down,
To strengthen whilst one stands

(Christina Rossetti, “Goblin Market”)

Perhaps we are beginning to totter a bit, but we’re still standing! Join me in a toast to my much loved dual personality!

“From our sins and fears release us, Let us find our rest in Thee.”*

by chuckofish

How could he have considered taking Monday off? Monday was the diving board poised over the rest of the week. One walked out on the board, reviewed the situation, planned one’s strategy, bounced a few times to get the feel of things, and then made a clean dive. Without Monday, one simply bombed into the water, belly first, and hoped for the best.

–Jan Karon, At Home in Mitford

My Monday will be a breeze compared to my weekend. Weekends are when we working girls get everything done that needs to be done at home. And at this time of year it is not just the usual laundry, food shopping and home projects that pile up.

The boy came over on Friday night after work and hauled the tree in from the garage, put it in the stand and strung the lights.

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After he went home, I hung the ornaments on the tree. Voila, beautiful.

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On Saturday I wrapped and wrapped and wrapped more presents. Even though my kids are all grown up and moved away, I still seem to get them the same amount of presents I always have–even if half of them are estate sale finds and used books! And now we have a daughter-in-law and a son-in-law! Wrapping presents is back-breaking work–literally. I mean it’s not chopping wood, but it feels like it later, you know?

I also went to the store twice, got my hair cut and gabbed on the phone with daughters # 1 and 2. After I finished putting up the Christmas decorations, I collapsed and watched Circus World (1962) with John Wayne and Claudia Cardinale and enjoyed it immensely.

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It features real acts from the Althof Circus, a very old family circus in Europe, which during WWII sheltered a number of Jewish refugees from the Nazis. (The owners were later honored for their work.) The acts which are highlighted are excellent and the clowns are genuinely funny, But they don’t overdue the circus acts. It has an engaging plot and so does not come off like a semi-documentary the way The Greatest Show on Earth (1951) does.

I went to church and then finished wrapping presents and cleaning the house. Phew. I was tired by the time we went over to the boy’s house to have dinner and see the wee babes who have been sick with RSV all week…

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but are much better now. Sweet babies.

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Now it is Monday and I have four busy days and then I’m off for Christmas! Hopefully I am finished with all the busy work and can focus on the the reason for the season!

*Charles Wesley, “Come Thou Long Expected Jesus”

Choosing joy — the my computer just crashed and my house is a disaster version

by chuckofish

I had almost finished my post when Firefox crashed. This isn’t the first time that’s happened to me. C’est la vie.

We are just about to start week six of the kitchen renovation, and there’s no end in sight. My house looks like squatters live in it, but never mind. Even as I grouse, I am acutely aware that I am blessed. Here’s why:

1. My Christmas cactus is blooming like crazy! I’ve never gotten more than one bloom out of it, so this is kind of a Christmas miracle. Perhaps it likes the dust.

2. I have THREE potluck parties to attend this weekend. It’s a little awkward without a kitchen, but that’s also a great excuse to bring cheese and crackers, so it’s a win-win.

3. I am involved with our local church and community program that helps needy families throughout the year and at Christmas provides toys, coats, hats, mittens, PJs, socks, books, and stocking stuffers for hundreds of local children. Yesterday, as I helped distribute gifts, I happened to meet an acquaintance who came to gather gifts for ten children, three of his own and seven foster kids. Can you imagine? Thank goodness for truly altruistic individuals like my friend and his wife!

4. I am grateful for my church and the wonderful people who belong to it. Tomorrow is our annual pageant. I can’t wait to see what the children have in store for us this year!

5. And of course I’m extremely grateful for my family, near and far, and for all those who read the blog!

What’s a little dust, mess and disruption compared to all that? Why, nothing at all.