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A Glimpse into the Past

by chuckofish

Guess what? It’s a rainy day (are ALL Saturdays rainy?). I had a busy, somewhat trying week. During a lull in the action, I consoled myself by doing a little genealogical research online. I needed the morale boost of a discovery — and I got it! Searching through the Las Animas Mining Record, I found some interesting tidbits about our Hough ancestors. As my DP knows, Susie Hough, the daughter of our great, great grandparents, John S. Hough and Mary Prowers Hough, died in 1875. We have not had much luck finding out about her death, although we are piecing circumstances together bit by bit. The other day I came across this little notice in the Las Animas paper dated November 19, 1875:

The obvious conclusion is that Susie had some chronic illness — perhaps tuberculosis — and her parents sent the girls back to John’s relatives in Philadelphia in hopes of finding a cure. Presumably, when her health deteriorated further, they brought her home. Susie died 10 days after her return. The paper in Council Grove, Kansas included this notice (dated 12/15/1875).

Logic dictates that she is buried in Las Animas, although we have not found evidence of her grave there. When Susie’s sister Ida passed away fifteen months later from a sudden illness, the Pueblo Colorado Weekly Chieftain published this appreciative obituary:

Ida Hough  – Lake City, July 12 –Death at all times produces sadness, but when it claims as its victim one so young, so amiable, so intelligent and so much esteemed, as was Miss Ida Hough, and the death of whose sister, a most estimable lady herself, preceded her own by only fifteen months, it awakens in us the heartiest sympathy for the relations of the deceased, and illustrates the truth of the maxim that the ways of Providence are inscrutable. It was but a few days ago that Miss Ida was on our streets apparently well, looking well and attracting all that delicate attention due a refined and cultivated lady. Now she is no more – no more on earth, but her immortal spirit dwells in heaven – no more on earth, but her virtues will long be remembered. She died yesterday in this city at the home of her father, John T. Hough, Esq. In this particularly sad bereavement, the parents and relatives of the deceased have the heartfelt sympathies of this entire community.

The family survived the terrible double-blow, and life eventually returned to normal. Anna Hough, our great-grandmother, graduated from school in 1878 with an award in music.

Interestingly, the school was founded by Mattie Livingstone Lykins, who named it after her late husband Johnson Lykins, an early missionary in Kansas famous for working with the Shawnee. Later, he became the second mayor of Kansas City. Mattie Lykins Bingham seems to have been quite a gal.  A fervent Confederate sympathizer, she nevertheless married Unionists. Her second husband was George Caleb Bingham! All of this goes to show that differing political opinions need not cause extreme discord.

But I digress.

A month or so after Anna’s graduation, the paper reported,

I am struck not only by the close-knit community of friends but by the ease and frequency with which the Houghs traveled back and forth from Colorado to Kansas and even farther afield, often in search of a healing climate. In 1782, for example, the Las Animas paper noted:

I wonder what afflicted little Frank. Whatever it was, this time the trip seems to have had the desired effect, for he survived into adulthood, eventually to outlive his poor mother and die at a party while dancing a jig.  Ah, life has always been a struggle, hasn’t it? We can only aspire to face it with the fortitude and joie de vivre that the Houghs did.

This reminds me of a passage from Mark Helprin’s Freddy and Fredricka that contains great advice about how to do well in life:

“All you need do is refrain from smoking, drinking, and the use of drugs. Eat only wholesome, low-fat foods, with the emphasis on vegetables, grains, and fish. Seek work. Work hard. Show up on time. Do more than is expected. Think of ways to make the job efficient. Don’t complain. Shave, bathe, and wear clean clothes. Be cheerful. Don’t gamble. Live within your means. Save. And then, when you have all this in balance, study things of substance. Read to satisfy your curiosity. Don’t father children out of wedlock or bear them as a single mother.”

Pay heed.

Stay tuned next week for a post focused on the Prowers.

Before I sign off, I must share bad news about our nesting cardinals. The other morning we discovered an empty nest and have seen no sign of the birds since. Whatever took the eggs — if the nest ever contained eggs — left no trace. Nature red in tooth and claw, indeed.

 

“Yeah, well… sometimes nothin’ can be a real cool hand”*

by chuckofish

There is a lot going on this weekend, including the 145th running of the Kentucky Derby on Saturday.

Screen Shot 2019-05-02 at 1.19.57 PM.pngIt is also the 50th anniversary of the National Churchill Museum in Fulton, MO and there is a whole weekend of activities planned.

Screen Shot 2019-05-02 at 1.23.54 PM.pngThe St. Louis Fine Print, Rare Book & Paper Arts Fair is this weekend–always a favorite of mine.

Screen Shot 2019-05-02 at 1.18.50 PM.pngIt is Cinco de Mayo. Time for a margarita!

And it is my 45th high school reunion.

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I am getting together with my two best friends from back in the day for a gabfest, but other than that, I am playing it pretty cool.

Meanwhile the rivers are rising as rainfall continues to be higher than forecast.

Screen Shot 2019-05-02 at 6.07.23 PM.pngIt has been raining all week and the forecast for the weekend is not great. So let’s all say a weather prayer…

Compassionate God, source of all comfort,
We pray for the people whose lives have been devastated by rain and flood.
Bring them comfort, we pray.
Protect the vulnerable.

Have mercy on all those working to rescue the stranded and to feed the hungry.
And may our response to their suffering be generous and bring you praise.
For we ask it in Jesus name,

Amen.

I hope we get to see these goofballs.

IMG_0990.JPGAnd this made me laugh…

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Have a good weekend–whatever you decide to do!

*Cool Hand Luke (Paul Newman) in Cool Hand Luke (1967)

When in doubt

by chuckofish

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“Wait on the Lord” is a constant refrain in the Psalms, and it is a necessary word, for God often keeps us waiting. He is not in such a hurry as we are, and it is not his way to give more light on the future than we need for action in the present, or to guide us more than one step at a time. When in doubt, do nothing, but continue to wait on God. When action is needed, light will come.”
― J.I. Packer, Knowing God 

While we’re waiting, we can watch Paul Newman movies. He is the Star of the Month on TCM!

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I am not being glib. Sometimes binging on well-loved movies is the way to go.

(The painting is by J.M.W. Turner)

Born to the breed

by chuckofish

Happy 80th birthday, Judy Collins!

Did you know that Judy is still touring and recording? Me neither, but that is impressive! I remember listening to two of her albums back in the day:

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Her rendition of “Send in the Clowns” was a big favorite of our mother in the mid-70s.

Don’t you love farce?

My fault, I fear

I thought you’d want what I want

Sorry my dear

Today is also the 52nd birthday of country superstar Tim McGraw! Check out his website for information on the Man, the Legend!

We remember Tim from his Indian Outlaw days…

…before he became an elder statesman of country music married to Faith Hill.

I will toast them both tonight and perhaps watch Maytime (1937) which seems appropriate for May 1.

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There is a lot of good music in this movie! Here is Nelson Eddy singing “Will You Remember”–always a favorite of mine:

You might also want to check out Boyz in the Hood (1991) in memory of John Singleton who died the other day. John Singleton was the youngest director and the very first African-American in cinema history ever to be nominated for the Academy Award for Best Director.

Screen Shot 2019-04-30 at 8.15.43 PM.pngThe world is more than we know. I watched it last night and it was pretty good. But The Silence of the Lambs was the big winner that year. C’est la vie.

This is how my mind works

by chuckofish

As you know, I enjoy perusing the obits in the alumni magazines I receive, most notably the old guys who went to Williams College. Case in point:

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Serving in the 104th division must have been important to Jerry since it was included in his fairly short obituary. So I looked up the Timberwolf Division.

“Nothing in Hell can stop the Timberwolves” was their motto in WWII. They fought through the Battle of Hürtgen Forest and the Battle of the Bulge and attacked the bridgehead at Remagen. As the 104th advanced into Thuringia, the unit overran Nordhausen and the Dora-Mittlebau concentration camp on April 11, 1945.

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During WWII, soldiers of the division were awarded two Medals of Honor, 14 Distinguished Service Crosses, one Distinguished Service Medal, 642 Silver Star Medals, six Legion of Merit Medals, 20 Soldier’s Medals, 2,797 Bronze Star Medals, and 40 Air Medals.

NYC Mayor Ed Koch and NY Governor Hugh Carey served in the 104th during WWII, as did screenwriter Paddy Chayefsky and NFL player Bob Shaw.

To me, this is very interesting. I have such respect for these veterans, especially the ones who came home and attempted to lead normal lives and stayed married for 67 years! So a toast to these brave men, the living and the dead.

“For you shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace”*

by chuckofish

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Froggie went a courtin’…and I found him at an estate sale a few weeks ago. I planted some annuals this weekend. Hopefully they will fill in around him. I planted some geraniums in pots as well. The OM even got into the act…

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We have had a lot of rain, which is great for the grass…but the violets love it as well… IMG_3965.JPG

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Anyway, everything is greening up nicely. I saw a big bumble bee doing his thing and the birds are building nests and the chipmunks are building tunnels.

“But ask the beasts, and they will teach you;
the birds of the air, and they will tell you;
8 or the plants of the earth, and they will teach you;
and the fish of the sea will declare to you.
9 Who among all these does not know
that the hand of the Lord has done this?
10 In his hand is the life of every living thing
and the breath of all mankind. (Job 12:7-10)

We babysat for the wee babes and they went to bed like little lambs (?!) once we had wrestled them into their jammies (easier said than done). Then they came over for their usual visit on Sunday night and frolicked in our yard.

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Be thou thyself, O Lord, we beseech thee, the shepherd of thy people; that we who are strengthened by thy risen presence may in our daily life walk with thee, and in humble trust seek to follow thee, as thou callest us by name and dost lead us out; for thy glory’s sake.

—The Kingdom, the Power, and the Glory: Services of Praise and Prayer for Occasional Use in Churches (New York: Oxford University Press, 1933)

*Isaiah 55:11

The bird also has found a house, And the swallow a nest for herself, where she may lay her young*

by chuckofish

I know it’s Saturday because it’s raining and blustery. I wonder whether the poor lady cardinal nesting in the spruce outside our living room window feels seasick as the wind buffets her about. I tried to take a photo but she’s so shy that she flies away, even when I approach stealthily. I do love “those little nimble musicians of the air, that warble forth their curious ditties, with which nature has furnished them to the shame of art” (Izaak Walton).

Cardinal Grosbeak from Birds of America (1827) by John James Audubon (1785 – 1851), etched by Robert Havell (1793 – 1878).

I daresay that the hungry baby-bird cries will soon disturb the peace and quiet of my living room. Still, I’m excited about the prospect and fervently hope no predator discovers the nest! I’ll keep you posted on the progress.

If you can’t go bird watching, here are a few tidbits to get you through the rainy weekend. For novel group entertainment, why not try this? For cerebral activity you can do alone, read anything by Algis Valiunas. In particular, I recommend his articles on Edward Gibbon, Joseph Conrad, Thomas Babington Macaulay, and Francis Parkman. Food for thought, even if you don’t agree with him.

*Psalm 84:3

 

 

“Oh where are you going with your love-locks flowing/ On the west wind blowing along this valley track?”*

by chuckofish

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It has been a busy week, the highlight of which was my visit to the wee babes’ preschool one morning for Grandparents’ Day. I went to chapel with them and to an activity (coloring) and a snack. I had to leave early to get to work, but they were in the good hands of their other grandparents. At two, life is just one activity after another and then you take a nap. Sounds pretty good, right?

After quite a few busy weekends in a row, I am going to take it real easy this weekend. I have no plans besides babysitting the wee babes on Saturday night. I am hoping the OM and I are capable of handling/wrangling them for two hours. We’ll see.

Since tomorrow marks the 137th anniversary of the death of the brilliant, but ultimately misguided, Sage of Concord, Ralph Waldo Emerson, I will be toasting him.

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When Emerson died of pneumonia in 1882, he was buried on “Author’s Ridge” in Concord’s Sleepy Hollow Cemetery —a cemetery that was designed with Emerson’s Transcendentalist, nature-loving aesthetics in mind. In 1855, as a member of the Concord Cemetery Committee, Emerson gave the dedication at the opening of the cemetery, calling it a “garden of the living” that would be a peaceful place for both visitors and permanent residents. “Author’s Ridge” became a burial ground for many of those famous American authors who called Concord home—Louisa May Alcott, Henry David Thoreau, Nathaniel Hawthorne, and Emerson. Good company for sure.

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I should also note that tomorrow Christina Rossetti is honored with a feast day on the liturgical calendar of the Anglican Church.

Somewhere or Other

Somewhere or other there must surely be
The face not seen, the voice not heard,
The heart that not yet—never yet—ah me!
Made answer to my word.
Somewhere or other, may be near or far;
Past land and sea, clean out of sight;
Beyond the wandering moon, beyond the star
That tracks her night by night.
Somewhere or other, may be far or near;
With just a wall, a hedge, between;
With just the last leaves of the dying year
Fallen on a turf grown green.

Join me in toasting her as well! And have a good weekend!

*from “Amor Mundi” by Christina Rossetti

To the faithful trees, I confess my sins

by chuckofish

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 “At start of spring I open a trench
In the ground. I put into it
The winter’s accumulation of paper,
Pages I do not want to read
Again, useless words, fragments,
errors. And I put into it
the contents of the outhouse:
light of the suns, growth of the ground,
Finished with one of their journeys.
To the sky, to the wind, then,
and to the faithful trees, I confess
my sins: that I have not been happy
enough, considering my good luck;
have listened to too much noise,
have been inattentive to wonders,
have lusted after praise.
And then upon the gathered refuse,
of mind and body, I close the trench
folding shut again the dark,
the deathless earth. Beneath that seal
the old escapes into the new.”
― Wendell Berry, New Collected Poems

(The photo is from a KMOV viewer in Maryville, IL.)

“And it’s all in a day’s work”*

by chuckofish

My friend Carla posted this on Facebook yesterday and I have to share it because it made me laugh 😂.

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I mean really. They evacuated the street?

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I get it. Better safe than sorry, but you gotta love it. If it’s not giant raccoons, it’s the bomb squad, right, Carla?

Another friend sent me some beautiful pictures of his redbud trees (eastern redbud tree, Cercis canadensis), noting how their blooms originate from the branches.

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It has been a particularly great year for our mid-MO redbuds.

And here’s some news you can use.

*Dr. Dre (and others)