dual personalities

Home again, in a way…

by chuckofish

I’m here in St. Louis with my darling DP! Wonder of wonders, I had an easy trip!

The view out the plane window as we were descending into St. Louis was much more beautiful than my photo would suggest. The moon was up as the sunset turned the clouds pink. Down below it was already dark as you can see from the dark blue peaking through the clouds. The view is the only thing I like about flying (okay, those maple crisps that United passes out help, too).

I’m grateful to have my feet on solid ground again and to be with my DP.

Like arrows in the hands of a warrior

by chuckofish

This weekend we attended a very lovely wedding in the hills of Staunton, Virginia. The outdoor wedding at a farm reminded us of our own July nuptials two years ago. Do you prefer a mountain view or a river view?

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This wedding had a “summer outdoor cocktail attire – jackets optional.” (Oh, the ways to describe, “We understand that it will be hot, but PLEASE look nice.”) DN carried his jacket throughout the sweltering evening.

I love attending weddings, especially ones that do not treat the ceremony as something to be gotten through. Our friends had written their own ceremony, a secular reflection on their journey and love for one another. It was very them, and I really appreciated how they included the “audience” and managed to get everyone to focus on the present ceremony (read: put their phones away) and focus.

Out of curiosity, I took a look at our wedding program. I remember sitting at the dining room table with my mother and DN, choosing the readings and music. It took some time to figure out which lessons felt appropriate to us, which music felt happy rather than somber, and so on. Would you expect anything less than obsessive consideration from us?

Unless the Lord builds the house,
   those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
   the watchman stays awake in vain.
It is in vain that you rise up early
   and go late to rest,
eating the bread of anxious toil;
   for he gives to his beloved sleep.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
   the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
   are the children of one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
   who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
   when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

(Psalm 127)

 

Even a mundane past is worth remembering

by chuckofish

I spent the week moving books. On Monday the DH and I rented a UHAUL van so that we could move home three large, heavy, wooden bookshelves that I bought from a retiring colleague. It was a harder job than I anticipated and getting them from the second floor office to the van was a major pain, but with the help of a couple of colleagues and a kind, brawny passerby we managed. At home we did all the hefting ourselves. These shelves are big and extremely heavy!

After we wrestled the shelves into the family room, the rest was up to me. I got busy moving books.

Since, as my mother used to say, “there are only so many hours in a day and so many minutes in an hour, and I tend to get tired,” it was a multi-day process that involved much bending, stretching, bruising and — dare I say it — swearing.  But the results were quite satisfactory. We gained so much shelf space that I have room to grow!

Should I have put the small bookcase between the two big ones?

And I kept one of the old, white bookcases for DVDs and CDs.

Note the new pillow — I picked up two of them in Idaho. The Ikea chair is on its last legs, but it’ll do for now.

For the first time ever we have more shelf space than books — hallelujah! How long do you suppose it will take us to fill the space?

When I wasn’t moving books or grumbling about my aches and pains, I was reading David McCullough’s wonderful Morning on Horseback, his biography of a young Theodore Roosevelt. As I read the Author’s Note at the beginning of the book, I was particularly struck by this comment — pay special attention to the last couple of sentences:

But it was when I discovered the range and richness of surviving Roosevelt family correspondence — the many thousands of letters written not just by TR but by his mother, father, sisters, brother, grandmother, aunts, uncles, and private diaries and journals in the great Theodore Roosevelt Collection at Harvard’s Houghton Library — that I realized what a truly marvelous and very large subject I had. The letters, only a small fraction of which have been published, offered the chance to get inside the life of a well-to-do Victorian American family — a very particular and vanished way of life — to go below the surface of their world, in a way that is seldom possible for a writer, except in fiction. It became the most engrossing work imaginable. The point that one of their number was to “make history” one day seemed almost immaterial. It was a story I would have wanted to tell had their names been something other than Roosevelt or had none of them done anything special later in life.

I felt vindicated reading that! The fact that I have several large plastic tubs full of memorabilia and letters — letters I wrote and those I received from my parents, sister, brother, aunts, cousins, and friends — has excited strange looks and not a few comments from people who think that keeping such things is a waste of space and who assume that I have a morbid fear of being forgotten, which is not the case at all. The point is that the way of life that we enjoyed growing up has vanished, and someday someone might want to know what it was like to live in the second half of the 20th century. Haven’t you ever wished that you had letters your great grandparents wrote? Don’t you wonder what they were like? Well, I do, and my personal identity is very much wrapped up with my family history. Anticipating that some descendant (or perfect stranger) could think similarly, I will keep all my ‘stuff’ to pass along. So, children, please don’t throw it all away!!

Look around! There are memories everywhere. Taped to the side of one of those white bookcases and totally hidden from view, I found this lovely drawing:

I’m not sure which of my children drew it, but I’m going to leave it where it is.  If that makes me a sentimental fool, well, so be it. I’d rather be surrounded by memories than living in a context-free, meaningless present. Remember what Shirley Jackson said about reality: “No live organism can continue for long to exist sanely under conditions of absolute reality; even larks and Katydids are supposed, by some, to dream.” Words to ponder.

What’s playing at the Roxie?

by chuckofish

Happy Friday! It has been a long week back at work and I am looking forward to not doing a lot this weekend.

The wee babes are in Florida with their parents where the wee laddie will be sporting the latest in toddler fashion–a “tractor hat” which I knew would hit the sartorial sweet spot for the boy who loves all things tractor.

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I’ll be trying to get the house ready for a visit from my DP next week.

Maybe I’ll catch up on some more 1939 movies. Last week I watched Only Angels Have Wings (1939) which was very good. I have been on a bit of a Cary Grant kick recently…

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…and I’m thinking it may be time for Gunga Din (1939)…Tonight TCM is showing this lineup of 1939 movies:

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Anyway, however you slice it, the weekend is nearly here! Huzzah!

Once a camp counselor, always a camp counselor

by chuckofish

Perhaps because it is summer, I have been thinking often about my days as a camp counselor. Sometimes this personal history comes up at work, because I’m surrounded now more than ever by students who obsessively professionalize from day one of college. (Graduating Honors College students have résumés that are twice as long as my own.) I find myself proudly explaining that I was “just” a camp counselor every summer in college — and it was the life! (Cue “three meals a day, for which you didn’t pay…”) I miss being paid to teach 10 year olds how to french braid (an important life skill!), having rest hour built into your daily life, cultivating a deep but natural tan in the Michigan sun, and spending days off on Lake Michigan. And, inevitably, at Walmart.

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I recently regaled DN with tales of the 4th of July at camp: we had a parade that consisted almost entirely of the coordinators riding in the bed of a pickup truck, and we got to eat donuts freshly baked on premises. We wore kitschy American gear and, apparently, short shorts. It was a simpler time.

Another category of camp memory consistently pops up when I hear certain songs. Each summer, the counselors chose one song to theme the camp sessions, and eventually, we taught the campers a “flash dance” to this song. My first year, it was Katy Perry’s “Firework,” and another, it was One Direction’s “What Makes You Beautiful.” I was recently in a WaWa gas station bathroom and nearly burst into grapevine steps when the chorus to “Firework” began. I was always terrible at these dances, but I could probably remember the choreography in two minutes if necessary. I can’t help but wonder what this year’s “song of summer” might be!

Finally, I shouldn’t leave out the central message of camp, an “MSRP” way of life that does not refer to manufacturer’s suggested retail price. The acronym refers to four categories: mental, social, religious, and physical. We were encouraged to practice and develop these “folds” in a balanced manner. Is there an area in which you could be standing taller?

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From William Danforth’s I Dare You

All in all, a formative experience for sure. I don’t think I would have learned more about myself or about the world in an internship, do you? Now I just have to figure out how to get back there!

Mid-week inspiration

by chuckofish

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Most loving Father, who willest us to give thanks for all things, to dread nothing but the loss of thee, and to cast all our care on thee who carest for us: Preserve us from faithless fears and worldly anxieties, and grant that no clouds of this mortal life may hide from us the light of that love which is immortal, and which thou hast manifested unto us in thy Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

–William Bright (1824–1901), English ecclesiastical historian and Anglican priest

“Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.”
― Norman Vincent Peale

“We have to pray with our eyes on God, not on the difficulties.” –Oswald Chambers

“Ultimately the only answer God gave to Job was a revelation of Himself. It was as if God said to him, “Job, I am your answer.” Job was not asked to trust a plan but a person, a personal God who is sovereign, wise, and good. It was as if God said to Job: “Learn who I am. When you know me, you know enough to handle anything.”
― R.C. Sproul, Surprised by Suffering: The Role of Pain and Death in the Christian Life

Return to your rest, my soul, for the Lord has been good to you.

–Psalm 116:7 (NIV)

 

One last hurrah!

by chuckofish

Now that I’m home I fully intend to stop posting about the Big Trip. I don’t want to turn into one of those people who inflicts vacation photos on everyone ad nauseum. I may already have entered that realm, but allow me one last hurrah. So far, I have focused on spectacular vistas and outside activities, although we did make a few stops that involved interiors — and what stops they were!

First off was the famous I-80 Truck stop in Walcott, Iowa,


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which also has a very cool truck museum, complete with its own 1930s snow mobile. Really, if you like trucks it worth a stop and it’s free!

Of course, we visited John Wayne’s birthplace and museum in Winterset, Iowa. Winterset is a lovely town and I enjoyed the museum very much.

Though small, it has a great collection of items from JW’s best movies. I’m happy to say the museum seems to be doing a roaring trade.

Next, we visited the Corn Palace in Mitchell, South Dakota. The building is covered in corn cob murals that they change every year. This year’s theme salutes the military. The corn palace is Mitchell’s only claim to fame, and judging by the rest of the town, it’s chief source of income.


Here I am in the Corn Palace ‘corn field’.


In the middle of nowhere Idaho, we stopped at the first experimental nuclear reactor, which is now a museum.

It looked exactly like a 1960s sci fi movie set! The DH makes a great mad scientist, don’t you think?

Finally, we stopped at the world famous Idaho Potato Museum in Blackfoot, Idaho. It has collections of potato mashers, peelers, and advertisements, potato processing machinery, and toys, featuring Mr. Potato Head. I learned a great deal about all the different types of potatoes, the history of the potato in Idaho, and how they are grown and distributed. What a great place! After perusing the displays, we went to the café, where the DH had a baked potato and I tried potato ice cream (it was tasty and slightly starchy).

The DH being a good sport.

I can’t remember what connection Marilyn Monroe had with Idaho potatoes, but the photo op was irresistible.

Next time you feel bored, go for a drive and pay attention to funky billboards. Why not stop and explore? You might learn something new, and you will certainly be supporting some local enterprise. Of course, you could end up in a horror movie situation, so be careful how you choose!

What are you reading? vacation edition!

by chuckofish

What are you reading these days?

IMG_4591We recently returned from a trip to the beach, which means we have had a chance to dig in our heels (literally, in the sand — very exfoliating) and read some good books!

IMG_4594I continue to work my way through the Mitford series, which strike the perfect balance of easy-to-read and intellectually engaging. And they provide spiritual comfort to boot. For example, if you are having trouble sleeping, maybe you will enjoy this hymn that comes up in These High Green Hills:

Save us from troubled, restless sleep,
From all ill dreams Your children keep,
So calm our minds that fears may cease,
And rested bodies wake in peace.

— from “To You Before the Close of Day”

I also returned to the nineteenth century over our vacation. I had somehow managed to never read E. D. E. N. Southworth while getting my degree, so I remedied that by starting her most famous novel, The Hidden Hand. (P.S. I am a big fan of her name, which really is an acronym: her name was Emma Dorothy Eliza Nevitte before taking her husband’s name, Southworth.) This novel is a tangle of characters good and evil, adventure, suspense, and romance. I seriously can’t read it if I am already stressed out. I get too worked up!

I purchased the book on Amazon from one of those sellers who cheaply print open-source books, and the back has a spirited (if ill-written) blurb, by which I am overly amused. Please read the whole thing:

IMG_4595I plan to use the final line on all future course descriptions: “19th Century Literature really can rock if you let it!”

DN has been reading (as photographed above) Elena Ferrante’s Neapolitan novels. We both started them a couple years ago, and I gave up on book four. As he diagnosed, they’re bad to binge, which is what I was doing. I also lost patience with the characters, who are too “real” for my liking, which is to say they aren’t particularly good or admirable. They’re flawed and make mistakes. DN can take the reality, I guess. He says: the novels’ style feels mundane until, suddenly, the reader is hit with an epiphany, a moment when so many of the previous, seemingly quotidian details “pay off” with meaning–and then, just like in life, the moment recedes and the ordinary resumes.

We have not, however, made headway on our backlog of New Yorkers 😳

There and Back Again

by chuckofish

We’re home! We were gone for 25 days, drove just over 6,000 miles through fourteen states and a province (Ontario), slept in nineteen different beds, visited all three sons and my brother, and saw loads of wonderful sights. And now we are finally home again.

My last post was from North Dakota. From there, we drove straight through Minnesota and Wisconsin to Marquette, Michigan, where we lived for a year way back in 1990-1991. It has grown a great deal and seemed to be thriving, but I didn’t take any noteworthy photos. After a night of reminiscing, we drove down state to Grayling, where we met up with my brother at his cottage there. It’s a lovely place! Our field guide (aka darling brother) took us for several short hikes to see the local flora and fauna.

Next day we drove down to his other cottage in Algonac, where Joanna, Tim and Abbie joined us, and a family of minks cavorted around the boat house.

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Lake St. Claire is flooding but we could still go out on it and the weather cooperated beautifully. Tim and Abbie even took the canoe out.

Sunsets are beautiful there. Quelle stunning vista!

On the 4th, the birthday boy took us shooting. It was Abbie’s first time but she was brave! Here she is firing the shotgun from the hip.

After a delicious barbeque, the celebrant opened his presents, including my DP’s gift. 

Music followed. It was great to see Tim play with his uncle Chris.


Then, of course, there were fireworks all around the lake (but I took no photos)! I experienced deja vu as I recalled another visit five years ago, when my DP and I, with our husbands in tow, went to Algonac to celebrate our brother’s birthday. Where did those five years go?

Our trip home was long but blessedly uneventful, although the traffic was thick and people drove like maniacs (those Canadians are crazy drivers!). Now I have a week to catch up and then it’s off to St. Louis to visit my dear, darling DP!

 

O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave

by chuckofish

I hope you had a wonderful 4th of July and are enjoying a day off today. The wee babes came over and ran us ragged.Screen Shot 2019-07-05 at 6.08.20 AM.pngIMG_0002.jpegWe went through our repertoire pretty fast and had to bring out the big guns, i.e. our vintage copy of Cars and Trucks and Things That Go, which is the wee laddie’s absolute favorite.IMG_0273.jpegWe also brought out the Big Box of Beanie Babies and, boy, was that ever popular. We went through it identifying each and every Beanie Baby. They have amazing recall. Then the wee babes enjoyed getting in and out of the box themselves. IMG_0254.jpegThey also had fun running wild in our yard. The energy of these wee babes is impressive.IMG_0243.jpegBy the time it was time to watch fireworks, they were finally pretty done in, so they went home and we collapsed.

Today daughter #1 and I will be taking it easy. Second round of chemo…and then home again, home again jiggety jig.

Also, note that every Friday in July TCM will show an all-day marathon of movies from the “Golden Year 1939”. Today’s movies are:

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