dual personalities

The only way to maintain equanimity in the face of seemingly eternal Covid Theater is to find a distraction. For example, this recent headline from our local paper made me smile, even as it got my imagination going.

High crime in the North Country! Dying to know all about it, I did some research and discovered  that there’s a big black market in catalytic converters, because they are made of rare metals. The world IS more than we know!

When I wasn’t stewing about mask mandates or learning about the illegal trade in car parts, I read a wonderful book called Gathering of Sisters: A Year with My Old Order Mennonite Family. My DH gave it to me last Christmas and it’s a good thing I didn’t read it right away, because I sure did need it this week.

The author, Darla Weaver, grew up on a farm in a Mennonite community in southeastern Ohio, with her four sisters and four brothers. Now married adults, she and her sisters pack up their children every Tuesday and bike or buggy over to their parents’ farm to spend the day together cooking, gardening, sewing, reading, playing and talking. Nothing dramatic happens, no one ever gets angry or upset, and everyone – children included – works away happily. Even when facing a difficult or unpleasant chore, they just get to it without complaint. It’s a very refreshing read.

The author is funny, thoughtful and self-aware, and she writes well. At one point after singing “This Little Light of Mine” and “Jesus Bids Us Shine” to her youngest son, she muses, “Sometimes I look around at all that is wrong and realize again there is very little I can actually do to make anything better, or even much improved. But I can shine in my one small corner, and there I can serve God faithfully at my simple duties.” The small life has a lot of appeal for those of us who do not enjoy the relentless press of popular culture.  

On another Tuesday, when all her children have gone to school and Darla is the only sister without a child in tow, she consoles herself, “Even if my children are growing up too fast, here are my sisters, growing old, or at least middle-aged, right along with me. The years are passing one by one, a little like the shadows that slip across the mountains each afternoon, but we are sisters still. Even the surprises that the years often bring can’t change that.  Decades ago, when we all still had the same last name, we were sisters by chance of birth and took for granted the bonds of our heritage. Today we are friends by choice as much as we are sisters, and we feel amazingly blessed to have grown from these roots. It’s not something to take for granted anymore.” I can relate to that, can’t you?

Remember, there are plenty of regular people out there getting on with life.  We do not have to get sucked into the media maelstrom. We may not be able to control most of what life throws at us, but we can control how we deal with it. I guess that means I’d better learn to deal with Covid restrictions  — even when they make no sense.

Good Wednesday morning to you. I come to you from my living room couch where it sounds like my upstairs neighbor is continuing her month-long quest to feng shui her apartment while her dog jumps around excitedly, possible chasing a ball.

Here is an actual email subject line I received last week:

Is this as bad as Nordstrom calling me plus-sized?! Maybe this is some sort of weird COVID thing? I don’t know but I hit delete. I’m not helping Wayfair’s Open Rate with that one.

At work, I recently learned that I have to design and build a float for the Bicentennial Parade that’s coming up in a few weeks. I am actually pretty stressed about it because even though I have lots of experience riding on floats, I usually don’t have to construct them! And by construct, I obviously mean find people in the office who can do this for me.

Anyway, last night I was doing some research and I found a great website full of helpful inspiration from a company that sells float decorations. I love these photos of floats of yore:

Sadly, I can’t figure out how to make an Elvis replica fit with the “Missouri History” theme, but someday…

In other news, this arrived in my mailbox today so I can look forward to flipping through some pages of muted colors and advice about slowing down. I kid, but I do enjoy the magazine.

I glanced through it and was surprised that Joanna’s editorial note was a bit, shall we say, it had a tone.

“Part of me wonders if social media, or the sport of scroll and click, has shifted the way we approach understanding one another. If the quickness of it all and the immediacy that we’ve learned to live by–the ability to approve or dismiss with a tap of a button, to comment quickly and without a filter, to click and read only the catchy headline–have weakened our ability to see deeply and hear genuinely what others have to say. More than anything, I wonder if it’s lessened how much we try.

It’s as if somewhere along the way we forgot that we are real and complex human beings whose stories run deep and that sometimes the truth sits below the surface.”

Joanna Gaines

To that I say, welllll duh.

I’ll admit that I thought about ending this blog post here with a pithy comment about humanity, but I think Jo continues and hits the really important point. We can’t accept that this is how we all live now.

“Then there’s me, the one who wants to right the wrong. Who wants to call foul because I thought we all knew to play fair.

I know I’m not the only one who has felt this way–misunderstood, misrepresented, missed altogether. Not by a long stretch. And I don’t know about you, but I’m sick of feeling stuck in the muck and mire of a social culture that is robbing us all of deep and true connection–of joy, peace, honest understanding, and empathy.

Maybe you are too. And maybe now is the time to declare that we’re not willing to give that up. Not yet.”

See what I mean by a tone.

Just a week ago, I was getting ready for my son’s wedding — and now it’s all over and everyone has gone home, the bride and groom included! We had a wonderful, wonderful time despite Covid-forced absences, but I still feel a little breathless, as if I’d been standing outside in a gale or someone came up behind me and dumped a big bucket of water over my head. My feet hurt and my voice feels worn out; I haven’t done that much talking, laughing or standing in ages. Like my DP, I have flowers stashed all around the house. I made the eight centerpieces for the rehearsal dinner and I think they turned out pretty well, although by the time I took pictures some of the flowers were getting a little droopy.

Here’s another one. I sent a couple home with Tim and Abbie and gave one to a neighbor, but that left me with five. I love having flowers in the house!

The dinner went well, but of course I took few photos. Here’s one of yours truly looking slightly frazzled while talking to Foster and Abbie. (I think the DH took the photo). In the background on the right, you can see James deep in conversation with Ellen and Rebecca.

I’m afraid I don’t have any photos from the wedding itself, but I did take a couple earlier that morning, when my brother and his family stopped in for breakfast.

By the time I thought of taking pictures at the reception, everyone had changed into casual clothes, eaten dinner and started to unwind, and even though I was using my new phone, the only decent picture I took was of these guys using hula-hoops. Who’d have thought they shared a talent for hip-swiveling?

Finally, I managed to take a good photo of the bride and groom right before we said our goodbyes. They (and we) are very, very happy!

When I get some actual wedding photos, I’ll share them. Until then, picture the ceremony like this 😊

And have a joyous weekend!!

The morning dawned hot and muggy but a cool breeze was blowing in from the river for the Bicentennial festivities. Sorry I’m a big dork and think events like this are cool. I stood in the sun until I felt my right shoulder warming up and fearing an even blotchier tan/sunburn situation, I moved to the shade off to the side.

Later, inside, there was a naturalization ceremony where 33 lucky people became United States citizens. They were all really excited and I found the whole thing very moving. There was one of those All-State choirs there and they sang the National Anthem beautifully.

In other, unrelated, news, this amused me. I am always the bear.

This is pretty much me to myself every night. I didn’t even have a terrible day–but lately it seems like there is all this existential stress and dread looming over us all the time that it feels like a terrible day, even when it isn’t!

Usually when this happens, it’s a good time to turn to your Bible and flip it open and start reading. Unless you land on one of those pages that’s just so-and-so beget so-and-so, you’re sure to find something useful.

I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress,

    my God, in whom I trust.”

Psalm 91

Read the whole thing.