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Tag: Weddings

Postcards from New York

by chuckofish

This was the view out the window of our Uber as we drove home from the STL airport Sunday night–amazing cloud formations which were in fact much cooler and awe-inspiring than could be captured on my iPhone in a speeding car.

Likewise our long weekend in Glens Falls, New York flew by in a blur of socializing–something I, as a deeply introverted person, find exhausting–but I had a super-fun time with my DP’s extended family and it was a wonderful occasion to rally my own small family in a mini-reunion.

Everyone loved getting (for some a first) chance to hold baby Ida…

…and to dance with Katiebelle who partied like it was 1999…

Perhaps the sign of a great weekend/party is that no good pictures are taken–which would be the case this weekend. Suffice it to say, the bride was very beautiful, the groom dashing…

…everyone was dressed up, especially these lucky babes…

(Couture by Aunt Mary)

…and everyone had a great time.

I only cried once and that was during the groom’s dance with his mother when they played “Slave to Love” and I sobbed remembering how my DP used to dance to this song with my own baby Mary back in 1985. The years have flown by.

I love my DP and it was a rare treat to spend time with her and her family.

All too soon we had to pack up and start the arduous trek back to flyover country.

But stay tuned for tomorrow’s post about our one outing to a historic site–the U.S. Grant Cottage National Historic Site in Wilton, New York!

“Out of the tree of life I just picked me a plum”*

by chuckofish

July is whizzing by, as is the summer! But I don’t want to forget to note that in our family we have several anniversaries to toast during this month.

There was daughter #2 and DN on July 1…

…and coming up, the boy and daughter #3 celebrating their 10th (!) on the 28th…

My DP and her DH got hitched in July as well…back in 1989…

(It was another HOT summer in England that year!)

Sunrise, sunset…well, we all pray the best is yet to come, right? Love, love, love to you all!

*Cy Coleman and Carolyn Leigh, “The Best is Yet to Come”

“The summer wind came blowin’ in”*

by chuckofish

I hope your week is going well. We are experiencing heat advisories, but this is nothing new in my neck of the woods. It’s July, after all. I went to the grocery store and experienced, once again, that hot hit of heat when exiting the store. I remember as a child feeling that and also the getting into our heat box of a car (no air-conditioning) and returning to our house, also without air conditioning. Truly every summer of my youth was a long, hot summer. I am grateful for my air conditioned car and home, but sometimes I like to go out to our Florida Room and experience the summer heat of my childhood again and breathe the fresh air.

Yesterday was the 9th wedding anniversary of the boy and daughter #3. They have been a couple since 2009, and as you know, they were engaged at aged three while in preschool together.

Everything has not been all sunshine and roses for the handsome couple and they have truly been through a lot together…

…cancer, preemie twins in the NICU for three months, owning a store during COVID–but they’ve weathered it all admirably. I certainly admire them. They are a fine example of sticking together through thick and thin and smiling along the way.

“In sharp contrast with our culture, the Bible teaches that the essence of marriage is a sacrificial commitment to the good of the other. That means that love is more fundamentally action than emotion. But in talking this way, there is a danger of falling into the opposite error that characterized many ancient and traditional societies. It is possible to see marriage as merely a social transaction, a way of doing your duty to family, tribe and society. Traditional societies made the family the ultimate value in life, and so marriage was a mere transaction that helped your family’s interest. By contrast, contemporary Western societies make the individual’s happiness the ultimate value, and so marriage becomes primarily an experience of romantic fulfillment. But the Bible sees GOD as the supreme good – not the individual or the family – and that gives us a view of marriage that intimately unites feelings AND duty, passion AND promise. That is because at the heart of the Biblical idea of marriage is the covenant.”

Timothy Keller

May God continue to bless you two and your wee family.

And God bless our nephew Foster who got hitched to Goksen in Izmir, Turkey earlier in the month and also my DP’s son Chris whose postponed wedding has been re-scheduled and is in less than two weeks. Mazel Tov to you all and to your parents as well.

And from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace.

John 1: 16

*Johnny Mercer

Postcards from Nashville

by chuckofish

Nashville. as you know, is a very swinging place and always fun to visit. We stayed downtown this weekend so we could walk everywhere.

Friday afternoon we staked out good seats at a bar in sight of the river and people watched. We were amazed by the huge amount of bachelorette parties, i.e. groups of young women in matching tank tops sporting some cute bachelorette-themed saying, short shorts and cowboy boots. Ahem. (There were also large groups of young men–not wearing matching shirts.) The main attraction looked alarmingly like someone we know:

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From there we moved on to the Wildhorse Saloon, which although huge, is not so loud and intense.

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The crowd is more middle-aged and the line-dancing lessons are a spectacle in themselves.

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The next day we walked around town and over the river for a good view of the city.

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We checked out the Johnny Cash Museum and were very impressed.

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We had lunch at the Ryman…

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…and generally had a lot of fun reacquainting ourselves with Music City. Eventually we had to go back to our hotel to get gussied up for the wedding.

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We did not look like this for long, as it was pretty warm in the airplane hangar in hipster East Nashville where the wedding reception was held.

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Don’t worry, we stayed hydrated.

The parents of the groom had rented an RV, which was parked out back to be used by a select few to cool off, which we did.

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Despite the heat, it was so much fun! And the bride and groom were lovely…

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Thankfully, the OM did not burn down the house, but held the fort while we were gone and rested up. We made it home in time to enjoy our usual Sunday night barbecue with the wee babes and their parents.

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Little Miss Lottie is so focused! She loves her vintage figures…

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The wee laddie not so much…he is a wind-up toy!

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Well, I definitely needed a day to recover, but no way, José!

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Have a good week!

Two better hemispheres

by chuckofish

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The Good-Morrow

I wonder, by my troth, what thou and I
Did, till we loved? Were we not weaned till then?
But sucked on country pleasures, childishly?
Or snorted we in the Seven Sleepers’ den?
’Twas so; but this, all pleasures fancies be.
If ever any beauty I did see,
Which I desired, and got, ’twas but a dream of thee.

And now good-morrow to our waking souls,
Which watch not one another out of fear;
For love, all love of other sights controls,
And makes one little room an everywhere.
Let sea-discoverers to new worlds have gone,
Let maps to other, worlds on worlds have shown,
Let us possess one world, each hath one, and is one.

My face in thine eye, thine in mine appears,
And true plain hearts do in the faces rest;
Where can we find two better hemispheres,
Without sharp north, without declining west?

Whatever dies, was not mixed equally;
If our two loves be one, or, thou and I
Love so alike, that none do slacken, none can die.

 

–John Donne

I am off for a week of wedding merry-making! Check back next week for photos of the Big Day.  L’chaim!

“God, the best maker of all marriages,
Combine your hearts in one.”
—King Henry V, Act V

Bells are ringing

by chuckofish

Don’t be surprised if we don’t post for a few days, as the boy and his intended are gettin’ hitched on Saturday. Lots of relations (for us anyway) are coming into town for the festivities. Hopefully we’ll have pictures to share next week! Until then, think positive thoughts and send them our way.

I will be channeling Diane Keaton (even though she was, of course, the mother of the bride in this movie, and I will be–metaphorically-speaking–wearing beige and having no opinion like any self-respecting mother-of-the-groom.)

Locheim!

Memory lane

by chuckofish

The boy is getting hitched in about 6 weeks. He is marrying a young lady he has known since the three-year-old class at pre-school (see above).

The boy is the cutie in the second row on the far left with the cool socks and the OshKosh overalls. His bride-to-be is the girl in the sailor dress in the front row, third from the left. They are getting married in the same church his father and I were married in and also the parents of the bride. Practically unheard of in this day in age!

Here they are in the four-year-old class picture–engaged by now, but not sitting together. The boy is still wearing those cool socks and overalls and has added a jeans jacket to his trend-setting ensemble. Lauren appears to be already carrying a handbag.

They haven’t changed much really, have they?