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Raise the song of harvest home

by chuckofish

How was your weekend? I hope it was peaceful and quiet. I spent the weekend getting ready for a houseful of visitors this week. Daughter #1 arrived yesterday and daughter #2 arrives today with DN and Katie. We are ready for some super fun. Unfortunately, everyone has some form of this dread cold (including the boy’s family) and so we will be coughing a lot while having super fun.

C’est la vie.

If only it was that easy.

Have a good week. Keep your focus on the rock of our salvation!

For wherever the soul of man may turn, unless it turns to you, it clasps sorrow to itself…Why do you still choose to travel by this hard and arduous path? There is no rest to be found where you seek it. In the land of death you try to find a happy life: it is not there. How can life be happy where there is no life at all?

–St. Augustine

Thankful postcards

by chuckofish

Our cup runneth over with thankfulness for a lovely week spent with family.

Katie hopped right into the fray and did remarkably well in the chaos that is our life. We had many uproarious frolics…

…and fun times playing with her Aunt…

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and with her cousins…

Thanksgiving was lovely and low-key with everyone pitching in so no one had to slave in the kitchen.

We hosted a happy hour on Friday so our friends could come over and hang out with our visitors…

DN did the charcuterie board–shazam!
(The other dual personalities)

When daughter # 2 and DN and baby Katie left on Saturday morning at 4:30 am–they made it back to Maryland in 14 hours!–daughter #1 and I threw ourselves into decorating the house for Christmas to assuage our melancholy…

And finally on Sunday after church, we celebrated the boy’s birthday!

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What a week! Now everyone is headed back to the salt mines and I will start cleaning up!

Praise God from whom all blessings flow;

Praise him, all creatures here below;

Praise him above, ye heavenly host:

Praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost.

Amen.

Boyle says Boom!

by chuckofish

So daughter #2 and DN made it to town right on schedule and baby Katie made herself right at home.

Here she is wearing an old dress of her mommy’s. Can we say, owning it?

In the midst of the mayhem, daughter #1 and I even remembered to run over to the Optimists Christmas tree lot to buy a tree before they run out. (We won’t put it up until the 18th, but you gotta be prepared.)

Slam, bam, thank you ma’am, we were done and home in twenty minutes. We know how to roll these days.

Well, everyone’s busy this week and probably no one is reading the blog, but if you do, here are some funny moments from Brooklyn 99…

…and some inspiring words from John Piper.

Evidently we are fair game for the devil when we don’t abound with thanksgiving. Unless the song of thanksgiving is being sung in our hearts the enemy outside will deceive his way into the city of our soul, and the enemy sympathizers within will make his job easy. So for the sake of your own safety, strive to fill your heart with thanksgiving! Guard yourselves with gratitude!”  (John Piper, sermon on Colossians 2  – “Guard Yourself With Gratitude”)

Happy Thanksgiving!

Who makes much of miracles?

by chuckofish

In yesterday’s blog post I described a fun overnight visit to my daughter in Jefferson City. I was thinking more about it and it occurred to me that there was nothing particularly “Instagrammable” or blog-worthy about it. It was very ordinary indeed. But isn’t it in the ordinary that we see the beauty and blessings of God’s world?

Sure, it would have been great to eat dinner at the Gasparilla Inn in Boca Grande or sit on a patio overlooking Lake Como sipping a cocktail. But for me, eating lunch at the Grand on High Street in our state capitol is really just as pleasant. Driving around that small midwestern town and seeing the park and the local university was just as fun as sightseeing in Washington D.C. My point being that wherever you are, there you are, and your glass is either half full or half empty.

My glass is half full. I wake up every morning and thank God that His mercies are new every morning. (Some days it takes me a moment or two to remember what day it is or what month, but I get there eventually.) And there is usually a pot of coffee going that the OM made before I got up. And I know that nothing extraordinary will happen to me today–at least I hope not–but the memory of holding my grandchildren’s tiny hands as we crossed the church parking lot on Sunday will keep me going all week.

Well, I am going to tidy up and get ready for a houseful of family at Thanksgiving. I am thankful for a sweet son-in-law who is driving his family 700 miles to be here. I am thankful for a sweet daughter-in-law who is making special matching holiday pajamas for the cousins–a family tradition on her side of the family. We’ll have cheesy potato casserole and green beans and crescent rolls and Dierberg’s will prepare the turkey breast. And even if there is no canned jellied cranberry this year because of the sorry state of commerce in our country (I noted the absence of this staple today at Dierberg’s), we’ll survive. If the whole meal implodes, we’ll be fine. Because it’s not just about the yummy food and the perfect table settings. We have plenty to be thankful for.

Yes, it is November and we like to count our blessings extra hard in the run-up to Thanksgiving. I encourage you to do this as well. But keep in mind that being grateful means little if you do not know and acknowledge to whom you are grateful. So praise God from whom all blessings flow/Praise Him, all creatures here below/Praise Him above, ye heavenly host/Praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost.

And take note of all the miracles in your life!

Why, who makes much of a miracle?
As to me I know of nothing else but miracles,
Whether I walk the streets of Manhattan,
Or dart my sight over the roofs of houses toward the sky,
Or wade with naked feet along the beach just in the edge of the water,
Or stand under trees in the woods,
Or talk by day with any one I love, or sleep in the bed at night with any one I love,
Or sit at table at dinner with the rest,
Or look at strangers opposite me riding in the car,
Or watch honey-bees busy around the hive of a summer forenoon,
Or animals feeding in the fields,
Or birds, or the wonderfulness of insects in the air,
Or the wonderfulness of the sundown, or of stars shining so quiet and bright,
Or the exquisite delicate thin curve of the new moon in spring;
These with the rest, one and all, are to me miracles,
The whole referring, yet each distinct and in its place.

To me every hour of the light and dark is a miracle,
Every cubic inch of space is a miracle,
Every square yard of the surface of the earth is spread with the same,
Every foot of the interior swarms with the same.

To me the sea is a continual miracle,
The fishes that swim—the rocks—the motion of the waves—the
        ships with men in them,
What stranger miracles are there?

–Walt Whitman

“Do you have any idea how fast you were going?”

by chuckofish

Greetings from flyover country where three-year olds still draw people who look like this…

Clearly a portrait of her dad, of course, with a several day growth of beard

…and memes like this make us LOL…

(Note that Christmas is not capitalized but Communists is.)

Yes, we still watch Christmas movies and I, for one, am looking forward to starting my Christmas movie viewing this Thursday with the Thanksgiving lead-in to the holidays, Planes, Trains and Automobiles (1987). Funnily enough, there seem to be people who are even more obsessed with this movie than my own family (who can recite the entire screenplay verbatim.) Check this out–a documentary that explores the history of a longer cut, drawing on deleted scenes, trailers, different versions of the screenplay and an interview with Michael McKean. In other words, everything you want to know about PT&A, but were afraid to imagine.

Next up (or maybe first) will be Miracle on 34th Street (1947). Since the Macy’s Thanksgiving parade will be “virtual” this year (yawn), maybe we’ll just cut out the middleman and watch the movie at 9:00 am with Mimosas and cinnamon rolls.

Whatever. This is going to be a very laid-back, wine-soaked Thanksgiving with only three of us at home. C’est la vie. We’ll make cheesy potatoes and have turkey and cranberry sauce and all the fixings. There will be pie.

We will continue to roll with the punches.

And here’s a little updated Steve Martin for Tuesday:

“When I’m worried and I can’t sleep/ I count my blessings instead of sheep”*

by chuckofish

 

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Well, Thanksgiving was great fun.

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We celebrated the boy’s birthday…

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Just try to take a picture of these nutballs without blurring!

and had a dance party,

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ate a delicious meal,

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and watched our favorite Thanksgiving movie.

And now it is time to switch gears. Advent starts on Sunday! Here’s a new idea:

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This sounds like a good idea to me! Let’s do it!

*Irving Berlin

Humble and hearty thanks

by chuckofish

For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.

– 1 Timothy 4:4-5 (NIV)

We have a lot to be thankful for! For instance, I was glad to see that they are still making Thanksgiving art projects (in pre-school) using a handprint as the basis for a turkey.

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I am grateful that the OM and I can make an evening out of a take-out dinner and The Adventures of Robin Hood (1938)–which we did last weekend.  Who needs a night on the town? Not us.

I am grateful that I have been able to do the lion’s share of my Christmas shopping online this year, because I have barely been in a store in the last six months! However, I plan to “shop local” this Saturday to support our local economy. I know retailers need that. The boy will be putting in a lot of hours this weekend at his small business!

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Speaking of the boy, I am thankful that we will be celebrating his birthday on Thanksgiving! He was born on the day after Thanksgiving 33 years ago–before the day was universally referred to as Black Friday.

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He has been through a lot in his 33 years…

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…but he knows that adversity builds character.

I am thankful that two out of three of my children will be home for Thanksgiving and that we will enjoy a delicious meal followed by yummy pie and our annual viewing of Planes, Trains and Automobiles (1987). (Daughter #2 will be far away but well taken care of.)

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I am thankful that I don’t have to travel anywhere this week.

Although I am thankful for my job and all those I work with, I am also thankful to have a few days off from that job! I will be well rested (I hope) when I start my radiation treatments (28!) after this weekend. I am thankful for those too, right? Yes, I am.

ALMIGHTY God, Father of all mercies, We thine unworthy servants do give thee most humble and hearty thanks For all thy goodness and loving-kindness To us, and to all men; We bless thee for our creation, preservation, and all the blessings of this life; But above all, for thine inestimable love In the redemption of the world by our Lord Jesus Christ; For the means of grace, And for the hope of glory. And, we beseech thee, give us that due sense of all thy mercies, That our hearts may be unfeignedly thankful, And that we show forth thy praise, Not only with our lips, but in our lives; By giving up ourselves to thy service, And by walking before thee in holiness and righteousness all our days; through Jesus Christ our Lord, to whom with thee and the Holy Ghost be all honor and glory, world without end. Amen.

–BCP, A General Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving!

“Lose your life and you will save it.”

by chuckofish

Today is the feast day of Clive Staples Lewis in the Episcopal Church. That’s C.S. Lewis, Christian apologist and spiritual writer, who died on November 22, 1963.

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“Your real, new self (which is Christ’s and also yours, and yours just because it is His) will not come as long as you are looking for it. It will come when you are looking for Him. Does that sound strange? The same principle holds, you know, for more everyday matters. Even in social life, you will never make a good impression on other people until you stop thinking about what sort of impression you are making. Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it. The principle runs through all life from top to bottom, Give up yourself, and you will find your real self. Lose your life and you will save it. Submit to death, death of your ambitions and favourite wishes every day and death of your whole body in the end submit with every fibre of your being, and you will find eternal life. Keep back nothing. Nothing that you have not given away will be really yours. Nothing in you that has not died will ever be raised from the dead. Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in.”
― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

Here’s an article about CSL to refresh your memory. It may be time to revisit Narnia.

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Well, here we are and it is almost Thanksgiving! This weekend I will be getting my act together and the house ready for the big day next week, which won’t be such a big event this year. Still, there will be a turkey and all the fixins…How do you do Thanksgiving? Garden & Gun readers answered that question here.

Our mother served a distinctly New England version of the Thanksgiving feast (which was her mother’s version), and for years after she died, I replicated it, squash and all. Over the years, however, we changed the menu and simplified it to suit our tastes. I don’t think she’d mind. I hope she would approve of our cheesy potato casserole and green beans. She would be pleased that we use her china and set a nice table.

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This past week I watched several Errol Flynn movies, prompted by the boy’s recommendation to watch Against All Flags (1952) which is on Amazon Prime.

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He was right–it is good entertainment and Errol, although along in years (he was 43!) has not yet gone around the bend.

Encouraged by this, I attempted to watch The Private Lives of Elizabeth and Essex (1939) which I had DVR’d. Despite the fact that Errol was in his prime, the movie for me was unwatchable, due to Bette Davis and her over-acting. Good lord, she was too much. I gave up after half an hour. Screen Shot 2019-11-21 at 12.38.24 PM

Battered but unbowed, I started The Adventures of Don Juan (1948) a few nights later. Flynn was 39 at this point and, although the movie is derivative of every other swashbuckler he made, down to the shot of him riding across a stream with Alan Hale at night followed by a posse of angry Englishmen, with the moonlight coming through the trees, he is still in surprisingly good form and very engaging. I enjoyed the movie a lot.

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So if you are looking for something to watch this weekend, try an Errol Flynn movie.  They don’t make profiles like his anymore.

Have a good weekend. Take it easy. Eat some pancakes.

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“Now thank we all our God, with heart and hands and voices”*

by chuckofish

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Here’s something good to read about the “First Thanksgiving,” which reminds us that the Pilgrims were “people of remarkable faith and fortitude—common folk of average abilities and below-average means who risked everything in the interest of their families and their community of faith.” Americans tend to forget that and most may not even value those qualities anymore. Well, I do.

Last night we had the whole gang plus Tim and Abbie, who drove in from Indiana, over for gluten-free chili. Today we will be a smaller gathering for turkey and trimmings–the wee babes and their parents are coming later for pie and our annual viewing of Planes, Trains and Automobiles (1987).

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We do love our traditions.

Let’s all take a moment.

*Martin Rinkart

Open for business

by chuckofish

“Gorgeous, amazing things come into our lives when we are paying attention: mangoes, grandnieces, Bach, ponds. This happens more often when we have as little expectation as possible. If you say, “Well, that’s pretty much what I thought I’d see,” you are in trouble. At that point you have to ask yourself why you are even here. […] Astonishing material and revelation appear in our lives all the time. Let it be. Unto us, so much is given. We just have to be open for business.”
― Anne Lamott, Help Thanks Wow: The Three Essential Prayers 

We Americans as a whole have high expectations. We expect a lot, because we have so much and are not especially grateful for what we do have. But I have learned over the years that contentment comes with lowering my expectations and being grateful for what I have.

I am grateful for: Text threads with my children…

Screen Shot 2018-11-20 at 9.58.29 AM.pngI am grateful that my children appreciate re-upholstered furniture and estate-sale finds…

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Screen Shot 2018-11-20 at 9.59.31 AM.pngI am grateful for these two guys*…

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Screen Shot 2018-11-20 at 10.12.20 AM.pngI am grateful for old friends and new friends, old books and new books,

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Hallelujah, life is good. “If the only prayer you said was thank you, that would be enough.” (Master Eckhart)

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such there is no law. (Galatians 5: 22-23)

Lots of people are driving today–so take it easy out there!

 

*C’mon…John Wayne and Steve McQueen/**John Piper and Tim Keller