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“I feel a sudden urge to sing the kind of ditty that invokes the Spring”*

by chuckofish

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Phew! What a whirlwind of activity last weekend! We had four extra people in our house and several get togethers involving copious amounts of food and drink.

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My darling daughters planned everything.

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and pulled it all off with aplomb.

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Darling daughter #3 made the spectacular 3-layer cake (cheesecake, cake, mousse).

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My brother and sister came from distant lands as did some very old friends.

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And my in-town friends put on their party pants and joined in the fun.

We even managed a visit to the Missouri Botanical Gardens at the height of the azalea bloom.

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Of course, there was frozen custard.

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It was delovely to say the least.

*Cole Porter, “It’s Delovely”

Hello, Monday

by chuckofish

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Best birthday weekend ever. More tomorrow.

It’s my birthday and I’ll wear a crown if I want to

by chuckofish

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“Age has given me what I was looking for my entire life – it has given me me . It has provided time and experience and failures and triumphs and time-tested friends who have helped me step into the shape that was waiting for me. I fit into me now. I have an organic life, finally, not necessarily the one people imagined for me, or tried to get me to have. I have the life I longed for. I have become the woman I hardly dared imagine I would be.”

–Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith

Daughter #2 arrives this evening and daughter #1 tomorrow morning. My brother and sister are coming to town on Friday!

Safe, smooth travels to all.  Margaritas all around!

Left field

by chuckofish

So some of you readers may have noticed that recently we have needed more pep talks and positive thinking here than usual. Indeed, we have, because back before Christmas the boy was diagnosed with testicular cancer. He had surgery right after the new year.

Then he started an intense regimen of chemotherapy—four rounds, a week every three weeks, five days for six hours a day.

Throughout it all, the boy has been a real trouper.

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His attitude has been super positive and he has never doubted that he will be cured and that all will be well. He never complained. He never stopped going to work. He even applied for a new job and received a big promotion.

Although he has been tired and worn out, he continued to coach his lacrosse team after work.

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The Greyhounds say “Let’s go boy!”

They love him and why wouldn’t they?

Last week during his final round of chemo, his doctor told him that his cancer markers are down from 4600 to 8. This is good. Very good.

And it’s the best birthday present any mother could get.

Please keep the boy and daughter #3 in your prayers. He isn’t out of the woods quite yet.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;  in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil.  This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.

–Proverbs 3: 5-8

With hearts aflame*

by chuckofish

It was a lovely flyover weekend with temperatures here near 80 degrees on Sunday.

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I worked hard outside on Saturday spreading mulch and my back hurt on Sunday so I slowed down some. I planted geraniums in pots.

FullSizeRenderThe boy came over on Saturday night because he was “batching  it”–we watched our all-time favorite episodes of Miami Vice:

“Out Where the Buses Don’t Run” (season 2, episode 3)

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with Bruce McGill as Hank Weldon

and “El Viejo” (season 3, episode 7)

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with Willie Nelson as Jake Pierson

They never disappoint. We are huge nerds, I know, but we amuse ourselves.

In church we sang one of my favorite hymns which always makes me cry.

And it did.

I leave you with the third verse:

The sure provisions of my God attend me all my days;

oh, may thy house be mine abode and all my work be praise.

There would I find a settled rest, while others go and come;

no more a stranger or a guest, but like a child at home.

(Isaac Watts)

Have a good week.

*Hymn #478, Jesus, our  mighty Lord, our strength in sadness

Happy birthday, Susiebelle

by chuckofish

Darling daughter #2 turns 26 today! I will toast her tonight and miss her all day, but we’ll celebrate together next week when she comes home to celebrate my birthday. My cup runneth over with love.

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“She was beautiful, but not like those girls in the magazines. She was beautiful, for the way she thought. She was beautiful, for the sparkle in her eyes when she talked about something she loved. She was beautiful, for her ability to make other people smile, even if she was sad. No, she wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks. She was beautiful, deep down to her soul. She is beautiful.”

–F. Scott Fitzgerald

And a birthday shout-out to Sarah Michelle Gellar, who turns 39 (!) today. Some birthday Buffy might be in order…

“Risen Lord, Risen Lord, give us a heart for simple things”*

by chuckofish

Saturday was a beautiful spring day and so the OM and I ventured downtown to see the progress being made on the addition to the historic Field House.

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Since we were in the same general vicinity, we stopped in at Ted Drewes. Duh.

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We watched Ben Hur that evening and so were spiritually ready for Easter. The OM accompanied me to church (his biannual visit) and it was a lovely service complete with a brass quartet. I can remember the days when we were happy to have the first chair trumpet from Kirkwood High School on Easter Sunday, so this was a definite step up for us.

The boy and daughter #3 came over for Episcopal soufflé afterwards and I was happy to have our small family group together for a casual meal.

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Indeed, the weekend was low-key and slow-paced, which was just fine with me.

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I finished putting books on my new built-in bookshelves in the living room.

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I have more books to move around, but this is work that makes me happy. So onward and upward!

It’s Monday: this is the day which the Lord has made;  let us rejoice and be glad.

*Barry Rose (b. 1934) OBE

Postcards from Pennsylvania

by chuckofish

…and Delaware and Maryland.

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Here we are after daughter #1 crossed the finish line at the Rock n Roll half marathon. Daughter #2 and I carried our signs all the way from College Park on the D.C. metro and waved them at the halfway point in Columbia Heights. The “praise hands” sign was a big hit with a lot of the runners who made “praise hands” gestures as they ran by. Daughter #2 is so hip. Anyway, our own “Mary” (as well as several other Marys) saw us as she flew by. We trucked on over to the finish line via metro (we even had to transfer) in time to see her cross the finish line. We ubered to our brunch location and then metroed home.

Following a much-needed nap, we all converged in Silver Spring at daughter #2 and Nate’s favorite watering hole for cocktails.

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We toasted the marathoner and also our newest Ph.D–Dr. Underland, who defended his dissertation last week.

On Sunday we headed out into the rain for Pennsylvania. The weather did not improve for the two days we were there. In fact, it got worse, but, oh well. C’est la vie.

We made it to Chadds Ford and our hotel. It is a really lovely part of the country. Unfortunately, the Brandywine River Museum, which was my main reason for going, is undergoing renovations so there were only two galleries open and no N.C. Wyeth at all on view!

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There was a lot of banging and hammering going on just to the right of daughter #1…and the weather…gloomy enough for you?

This was deeply disappointing, but being the troupers that we are, we forged on to the Hagley Museum in nearby Delaware. This Smithsonian affiliate includes the historic DuPont powder yards on the banks of the Brandywine River and a really lovely DuPont home.

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It was all right up my alley. There was also this:

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On the way back to the hotel we stopped at the Baldwin Book Barn–a five-story barn filled to the brim with used books. We all found books–typical–to tote home. We also slammed on the brakes for an antique mall. Duh.

The next day we headed over to Winterthur, the fabulous home of Henry Francis DuPont. I have always wanted to go there and it did not disappoint. Since it was cold and rainy, we were practically the only people there when it opened at 10 a.m. so we got a private tour on the tram through the beautiful gardens and a private tour through the house. DuPont was a rich guy after my own heart–he collected American furniture and decorative arts and built a house for them. Then he opened it up for the world to enjoy. He was also a master gardener and farmer.

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Oh, the export china! I was in heaven.

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After lunch we headed home to College Park in the rain.

Of course, the sun came out on the day I left. Despite the blue skies in Baltimore, the fog in Ft. Myers meant the flight was delayed. Then the check engine light came on and the plane had to be…checked. So we sat on the tarmac for two hours before they decided the plane was un-flyable. Back to the terminal. Much gnashing of teeth. I have to say though that all the passengers on my packed-to-capacity flight were friendly and unflappable and orderly. And the drinks were free when we finally got off the ground.

Well, it is always nice to get home, isn’t it?

“We must away ere break of day Over the wood and mountain tall”*

by chuckofish

Today I am heading east to visit daughters #1 and #2 in College Park.

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We will cheer on daughter #1 on as she runs in the Rock ‘n Roll half marathon in D.C. Then we are heading to the Brandywine Valley in Pennsylvania for some museum and garden-going.

We will get our fill of N.C. Wyeth et al…

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If you are looking for a good movie to watch in the meantime, I recommend Alleghany Uprising (1939) with a young John Wayne and Claire Trevor. I watched it this past week and thoroughly enjoyed it. It is a highly politically-incorrect telling of a little-known piece of American history–

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wherein a group of settlers in Pennsylvania’s Allegheny Valley struggle to try and persuade the British authorities to ban the trading of alcohol and arms with the marauding Indians.

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Some of the character actors are priceless–such as Wilfred Lawson as the Scotsman MacDougall, who really steals the show. A very young George Sanders is appropriately uppity as the British captain who doesn’t have a clue.  I would put this film in the they-don’t-make-’em-like-this-anymore category, i.e. good entertainment with an excellent story and characters.

So remember, I will be off the internet through next Thursday.  Maybe my dual personality will check in. I hope so!

*J.R.R. Tolkien

Spare thou those who confess their faults*

by chuckofish

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Spring is in the air and this weekend I worked hard at home.

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I cleaned out the Florida room in preparation for it being painted this week.

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Meanwhile the new neighbors moved in across the street. They bought the house last summer and it has been in the throes of a gut-rehab ever since. Zut alors! I hope they got what they wanted. The house used to be a mirror image of ours, but now it has an “open” floor plan and all new everything. I’m sure our 1958 home is hideously old-fashioned, but I like it. I always think of it as our Leave It to Beaver home and that is comforting to me.

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I wish I could say I looked just like June, but these days I am much more in the Mrs. Mondello camp.

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Oh well, c’est la vie.

I went to church on Sunday morning but passed  up evensong. I just wasn’t inspired enough to get back in my “church” clothes and return. Not that anyone else really cares about that these days. No one would blink an eye if I showed up in my old University of Wyoming sweatshirt and mom jeans, but I just couldn’t do it.

I am beginning to sound like a grumpy old lady so I will sign off for now. It’s going to be another busy week at work, but I have Friday to look forward to and a trip east to see daughters #1 and #2!

*From the General Confession, BCP