dual personalities

Month: March, 2022

My thoughts fly off to a province made of one enormous sky

by chuckofish

Well, leaf blower season officially started this week. That sound is one thing that makes winter not so bad by its absence.

This short word from Sinclair Ferguson is great:

It struck me how right he is about Jesus and how He was willing to pause for the kind of people who don’t think anyone cares or notices them. That is something we could all do more often–just pause and take a moment. Our mother was the kind of person people did not notice or pay attention to. But the rector of the largest Episcopal church in our diocese knew who she was and he had even been to her house. It made a huge difference in the last years of her life. He made a point of knowing everyone in his parish and visiting them at home. I often think of that when clergy complain that they are too busy. He had 1000 members in his church. It was his joy to know them. He knew that was his job. Later he became a bishop and passed into glory years ago and I doubt if he would recognize his church these days. But Sinclair hits the nail on the head.

This is a really important reminder that we should never be scared of a little discomfort. “When the Lord your God brings you into the land he swore to your ancestors Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob that he would give you—a land with large and beautiful cities that you did not build, 11 houses full of every good thing that you did not fill them with, cisterns that you did not dig, and vineyards and olive groves that you did not plant—and when you eat and are satisfied, 12 be careful not to forget the Lord who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the place of slavery.” (Deuteronomy 6:10-13)

Today, of course, is St. Patrick’s Day so that means it’s time to watch The Quiet Man (1952)…

…and read a little George Bernard Shaw and Billy Collins.

What scene would I want to be enveloped in

more than this one,

an ordinary night at the kitchen table,

floral wallpaper pressing in,

white cabinets full of glass,

the telephone silent,

a pen tilted back in my hand?

It gives me time to think

about all that is going on outside–

leaves gathering in corners,

lichen greening the high grey rocks,

while over the dunes the world sails on,

huge, ocean-going, history bubbling in its wake.

But beyond this table

there is nothing that I need,

not even a job that would allow me to row to work,

or a coffee-colored Aston Martin DB4

with cracked green leather seats.

No, it’s all here,

the clear ovals of a glass of water,

a small crate of oranges, a book on Stalin,

not to mention the odd snarling fish

in a frame on the wall,

and the way these three candles–

each a different height–

are singing in perfect harmony.

So forgive me

if I lower my head now and listen

to the short bass candle as he takes a solo

while my heart

thrums under my shirt–

frog at the edge of a pond–

and my thoughts fly off to a province

made of one enormous sky

and about a million empty branches.

Take a moment, a pause. Think outside yourself.

The wind blows as it wishes, and you hear the sound of it, but cannot tell where it comes from and where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the spirit.

“We don’t drip, we sip.”

by chuckofish

Well, I am back from my visit to the East Coast/Mid-Atlantic region. I had a truly wonderful time. Lots of wine and gabbing and playing with sweet Baby Katie.

Hammer Boat is the best toy.

On Friday, we ventured to Northern Virginia to visit George Washington’s Mount Vernon. I’ve always wanted to go and never made it while I lived in Washington, DC. DN braved the traffic for us in the drivers seat. It was a beautiful sunny day, perfect for a visit to our first President’s lovely home on the Potomac River.

Rebels taking a photo after they asked to move on to the next room.

A house overlooking a river with fancy wallpaper is a real vibe I can get behind. Mount Vernon is maintained by the Mount Vernon Ladies Association, the nation’s first national historic preservation organization and the oldest women’s patriotic organization in the country. You can learn more about them here. I think organizations like this are awesome and I am so grateful for the important work they do.

On the way back to Maryland, we stopped at a winery for some outdoor cheese and crackers and unoaked Chardonnay. It was delightful.

The next day, it snowed all day and we only ventured out for about 12 minutes.

Then we had fun trying on Mommy’s earmuffs.

Sadly, the next day, I had to venture into the city and go to my conference. I did have the chance to catch up with some old friends which was nice. And after spending two hours sitting in a restaurant at the airport and spending approximately $1 million on bevvies and french fries to keep me from having to put my mask on at the gate, I made it back to Missouri. Praise hands.

*the blog post title is something sweet Katie’s mother told her during dinner and I had to write it down.

The Ides of March are come

by chuckofish

Today is the Ides of March–famous, as you know, for being the day Julius Caesar was assassinated in 44 BC. “Beware the Ides of March” was a line we knew as children, long before reading the play in ninth grade. Well, I doubt if that is the case with kids anymore. But maybe we were just odd children.

Another famous person who died on March 15 is Benjamin McLane Spock (Dr. Spock). Besides being a world-famous pediatrician, Spock won a gold medal at the 1924 Olympics with his Yale University rowing team. No kidding.

Speaking of the 1924 Olympics, I watched Chariots of Fire (1981) on TCM the other night and was reminded what a really good movie it is. Here is Siskel and Ebert’s review from back in 1981.

I’m with Ebert on this one.

I also recently watched Captains Courageous (1937) on TCM. I had not seen it in a long time and I was impressed.

I am not a big fan of Spencer Tracy, but he is great in this movie as the Portuguese fisherman who saves spoiled rich kid Freddie Bartholomew’s life and then helps him become a better person. And Freddie gives 100%. The film bears the mark of a great director–Victor Fleming–and the cast is a wonderful mix of Hollywood regulars. The sailing scenes, probably filmed in a backlot tank, are very exciting. The first time I saw this movie was around 1966 when my DP and I went to see it at our local movie theater one Saturday afternoon with our neighbor Nancy and her mother. I loved it, but was very shocked by the ending and the way Spencer Tracy’s character dies–(spoiler alert) cut in half and all stove in and sinking out of sight. It was a lot for little kids to handle.

Today is also the birthday of Andrew Jackson (1767-1845), the seventh president of the U.S.A. He is out of favor these days, but he was a man of his time. The son of Ulster Presbyterians who emigrated to America in 1765, his father died just weeks before Andrew was born. Then he watched his two older brothers and his mother die–all at the hands of the British. He had strong feelings about a lot of things. It might be time to dust off The Buccaneer (1958) to watch in his honor. (Charlton Heston played Jackson twice: in The Buccaneer and in The President’s Lady (1953).

By the way, I did make some progress in my office…

…luckily I can close the closet door.

And the Christmas cactus keeps on going…

Woohoo!

And I love that Dolly did this:

Come ye before him and rejoice*

by chuckofish

How was your weekend? Mine was super cold and then super nice and sunny, so we covered the bases, weather-wise. On Saturday I got up early and went with my friend Becky and her sister to the Vintage Market Days in St. Charles, held at the giant St. Charles Convention Center. We had to stand outside in line in the bitter cold (16 degrees) for a good fifteen minutes, but it was worth it. We had fun perusing the aisles.

By the time we left it was very crowded. I bought a little cement rabbit for the yard.

I was worn out though, so when I got home I lay on the couch and watched three hours of PGA golf.

The boy and WRC jr. joined us at church on Sunday. (Lottie and her mother had a Mommy and Me day to mark the anniversary of the day Lottie came home from the NICU back in 2017…)

After church we ate bagels and then played outside. The wee laddie took the Raptor out for a spin…

…checked out the “moisture” in the grass…

(Nice plank)

…and blew some bubbles…

…in a nice sunny spot he chose for his chair. He (and I) are ready for some driveway sitting!

We missed the girls, but it was nice to have the boys all to ourselves. After they left to go work at the boy’s store, I gabbed on the phone with daughter #2 and heard all about her fun visit with daughter #1 who had moved on to her conference in D.C.

I watched some more PGA to round out the weekend and saw Shane Lowry hit a hole-in-one on the 17th hole which the day before had been giving everyone a super hard time because of insane headwinds. Crazy, man–made my day.

*All people that on earth do dwell,

sing to the Lord with cheerful voice;

him serve with fear, his praise forthtell,

come ye before him and rejoice.

Old One Hundredth

To start, press any key

by chuckofish

It was a long week — equal parts fraught, migraine-inducing meetings and low comedy. Yesterday, we could not get the computer to work in my classroom. I say ‘we’ because several tech-savvy students attempted to solve the problem. We rebooted the machine and pushed every button we could find — without result.

We called OIT, and in due course a technician arrived, walked right up to the podium, and touched the mouse. The computer sprang to life. The technician gave us a friendly smile and left. We laughed sheepishly, and to cover our embarrassment, threw ourselves into earnest conversation about Roman tactics at the Battle of Pydna in 168 BC. Now that’s a novel way to inspire discussion.

Spring break starts today — with a snowstorm on the way — but that’s okay because I have no plans for the week other than to read a biography of Julius Caesar and steel myself to go back to work and face the next round of mad initiatives. It is no exaggeration to say that rational discourse no longer takes place in academia. What I need is a good Shakespearian pep talk:

O God of battles! steel my soldiers’ hearts;
Possess them not with fear; take from them now
The sense of reckoning, if the opposed numbers
Pluck their hearts from them. Not to-day, O Lord,
O, not to-day…   

(Henry V, Act 1, Scene 1)

I’ll turn everything off and stop checking email, get out my watercolors or pick up my embroidery and rediscover how peaceful it is to sit quietly and work creatively.

Okay, my meager efforts won’t come close to John Singer Sargent, but painting is therapeutic, and by God’s grace, life is good!

When the morning stars sang together

by chuckofish

Recently I read a quote on Instagram that said something to the effect that you can’t believe in the sovereignty of God and be anxious every time you face something unexpected or that you can’t control.

This is true. Take a deep breath and pray, “I believe. Help thou mine unbelief.” (Mark 9:24)

This is also scary. And this. Mark Zuckerberg is not God, and “…when we try to deify ourselves, what pathetic creations we make!  What pathetic gods we turn out to be!” No kidding.

I am really trying to wean myself off of my computer. This means actually reading more actual books. Every morning I start my day by reading the Bible–if I can keep it up, I’ll read the whole Bible in 2022. Yesterday I read Job 38.

4 “Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth?
Tell Me, if you have understanding.

5 Who determined its measurements?
Surely you know!
Or who stretched the line upon it?

6 To what were its foundations fastened?
Or who laid its cornerstone,

7 When the morning stars sang together,
And all the sons of God shouted for joy?

8 “Or who shut in the sea with doors,
When it burst forth and issued from the womb;

9 When I made the clouds its garment,
And thick darkness its swaddling band;

10 When I fixed My limit for it,
And set bars and doors;

11 When I said, ‘This far you may come, but no farther,
And here your proud waves must stop!’

12 Have you commanded the morning since your days began,
And caused the dawn to know its place,

13 That it might take hold of the ends of the earth,
And the wicked be shaken out of it?

Read the whole chapter here. And relax–God is in control.

“Kwazy is a difficult word to say in anger. But I think I made my feelings clear.”

by chuckofish

Why yes I did quote Captain Holt for my blog post title. The other option was to quote Detective Medavoy and have the blog post title be, “Obviously, we’re all overwrought.” I thought I’d go with the lighter TV show about the New York Police Department.

Anyway, my mother recently blogged about us going to an antique mall/junk shop in St. Louis. While there she made the astute remark that it was the kind of place where you might find something “accidentally.” And I did.

I got this sa-weet vintage McCall’s pattern for a $2. It is from 1973 and includes patterns for three slightly different jumpers. You might not realize it, but sewing vintage patterns is very hip in the sewing world. And I am nothing if not hip…right?

The pieces were all there and (bonus) already cut out. The lady who had this pattern before me, presumably in the 70s, had left notes in it about her alterations etc. It was a pretty simple project–but did require some techniques I had not tried before. It also had some odd finishes that I suspect were the way things used to be done before people had fancier machines and were more likely to have a serger.

I really enjoyed sewing this jumper and only wish I’d had some groovy braid to put on the pockets like the pattern called for. Here is the finished result for dear Katie!

I used adorable Rifle Paper Company fabric that I just love. It’s a pretty timeless piece.

I am off to Maryland on Thursday morning to visit Sweet Katiebelle and her parents before heading to Washington, DC for 36 hours for a conference. I will report back next week if the dress fits.

“I will keep broken things”*

by chuckofish

Inspired by my DP’s post on Friday, I spent a good portion of the last few days trying to clear out the closet in my office by going through old letters, photos etc and deciding what can go down to the basement. Yes, I am throwing away relatively little and am just moving stuff around. But maybe in the process I am getting a bit more organized.

Yeah, I doubt it too. It is hopeless when we are unable to part with 20-year-old calendar pages that have a good quote…

…or clippings from the funny pages…

…those wonderful cards that accompanied every gift my mother ever gave me…

…much less classic HS photo proofs like this…

Yes, it’s hopeless. C’est la vie.

When to the sessions of sweet silent thought
I summon up remembrance of things past,
I sigh the lack of many a thing I sought,
And with old woes new wail my dear time’s waste:
Then can I drown an eye, unused to flow,
For precious friends hid in death’s dateless night,
And weep afresh love’s long since cancelled woe,
And moan the expense of many a vanished sight:
Then can I grieve at grievances foregone,
And heavily from woe to woe tell o’er
The sad account of fore-bemoaned moan,
Which I new pay as if not paid before.
But if the while I think on thee, dear friend,
All losses are restor’d and sorrows end.

–William Shakespeare, Sonnet 30

*Alice Walker, I Will Keep Broken Things

What then shall we say to these things?

by chuckofish

This weekend I stepped out of my comfort zone and ventured to an estate sale in a part of town that is terra incognita to me. Daughter #2 was in Jeff City so I had no trusty co-pilot…but I found the house without a problem. It was in Affton, a tiny house that would usually never tempt me, but the pictures on the estate sale website had led me to believe that it might be worthwhile because there were lots of Ehrman needlepoint pillows, finished, unfinished and unopened kits. A veritable treasure trove of the best kits from the U.K.! Even though I arrived within an hour of opening, a lot of the best pillows and all the kits were already gone. However, upon investigation, I soon discovered that the woman who had made all the pillows and sewed all the kits was not a very accomplished needlepointer. They were all trapezoidal, not square, and nothing had been blocked. Her stitching was terrible. What a shame!

I bought one that had not yet been made into a pillow in memory of the devoted needlepointer, but I am uncertain pretty sure it can’t be salvaged.

I also bought a good book…

…which happened to have the woman’s name in it. It sounded vaguely familiar and I was curious, so I googled her. It turns out she went to my old Episcopal church! Zut alors–the world is so small.

We had another great sermon in church on Sunday. It was on Romans 8:31-39, one of the greatest passages in scripture.

31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things? 33 Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36 As it is written:

“For Your sake we are killed all day long;
We are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.”

37 Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. 38 For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, 39 nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

As usual, I cried during every hymn. All these tears made me think of what Frederick Buechner wrote about tears…

Whenever you find tears in your eyes, especially unexpected tears, it is well to pay the closest attention.  They are not only telling you something about the secret of who you are, but more often than not God is speaking to you through them of the mystery of where you have come from and is summoning you to where, if your soul is to be saved, you should go to next. 

–Frederick Buechner, Whistling in the Dark

Nevertheless, it is kind of embarrassing and I need to stop wearing mascara to church.

The boy and his wee family joined us at church and then came over for brunch. The sun wasn’t out, but it was warm enough to do a little exploring in the yard after our meal…

…and I put the wee babes to work picking up sticks after a very windy winter…

This is a game they enjoy. (Lottie made believe we were going to have a bonfire. Make-believe bonfires are the best.) I went out and bagged it up later.

How was your weekend?

Jesus paid it all, all to Him I owe;

Sin had left a crimson stain, He washed it white as now.

Elvina M. Hall, 1865

For a thousand years in your sight are but as yesterday when it is past*

by chuckofish

Last weekend, while attempting to impose order on all my family “memorabilia”, I found a few wonderful cards that my DP sent me over the years, and I thought I would share a couple of them to brighten your Friday.

Way back in October 1985 she sent me this postcard after the Cardinals lost the World Series. Tongue firmly planted in cheek (at least I hope so), she wrote, “Although we can both relate to this all too well, we must be strong in the face of the home team’s total disgrace. Hang in there! Yours in despair, CRC.”

I don’t recall the team’s ‘disgrace’ or really being THAT upset about the loss, but I must say that the cartoon nailed my relationship with candy. That’s exactly what happens to me whenever I’m anywhere near sweets. No matter how hard I try to resist the siren call is simply too strong.  My sister sure knows me well.

Here’s an undated birthday card she sent to me or Tim (for some reason, I think it was the latter). I think it’s perfect.

Hmm…maybe I should look more carefully at some of our family photos. Who knows what might materialize in the background…

Finally, back in 2004 she sent me this birthday card:

How perfect is that? Do you keep your cards and letters? They don’t take up much room, and it’s fun to go through them from time to time. I seem to know a lot of people with a compulsion to throw things away, and even I encourage my sons to ‘curate’ their stuff (so far I’m failing miserably in that regard). I am aware that we can’t keep everything but living in the moment does not mean we have to obliterate the past. As I’ve mentioned before, looking back through old letters makes me feel happy and loved. It gets me out of my “the world is going to hell in a handbasket” funk and reminds me of how blessed I am. Try it. You might even find Mr. Barky.

One last thing… a few days ago, I got the urge to bake a cake. Since there are only two of us, I could hardly justify a full size cake, so I made a small 6″ one. It’s a cinnamon cake with cinnamon and pecan frosting — perfect with a cup of coffee for breakfast! I used this recipe but left off the apple, added pecans, and did not cut it into two layers.

Eat cake this weekend!

*Psalm 90:4.