dual personalities

Month: November, 2021

Hidden lives

by chuckofish

My diet starts…

Well, it’s the last day of November and we are recovering from last week and preparing for the slide to Christmas. Back to reality. Back to a big pile of laundry and vacuuming. But also time to start wrapping Christmas presents and watching Christmas movies! Daughter #1 and I watched Miracle on 34th Street (1947) before she went back to JC. That always puts me in a festive mood.

I watched A Charlie Brown Christmas and Rudolph the Rednose Reindeer with the wee twins one night last week when the OM and I babysat while the young folk went out to dinner. Watching with almost 5-year olds gives one a fresh perspective.

This December I will once again be reading a chapter of Luke a day, starting on December 1 with chapter one. Simple, but a meaningful way to stay grounded amid all the commercialization and secularization in our culture.

Many have undertaken to draw up an account of the things that have been fulfilled among us,  just as they were handed down to us by those who from the first were eyewitnesses and servants of the word. With this in mind, since I myself have carefully investigated everything from the beginning, I too decided to write an orderly account for you, most excellent Theophilus,  so that you may know the certainty of the things you have been taught.

Luke 1:1-4

This is quite interesting.

These are some good post-Thanksgiving thoughts.

“Giving thanks is also a powerful act of defiance in a culture steeped in selfishness. Gratitude forces us to face the darkness and disarm the demons of discontentment and complaint.”

Also, on Sunday our pastor quoted this line from Middlemarch, which I have probably quoted before, but it bears repeating:

“..for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been, is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs.”

Amen, come Lord Jesus.

Thankful postcards

by chuckofish

Our cup runneth over with thankfulness for a lovely week spent with family.

Katie hopped right into the fray and did remarkably well in the chaos that is our life. We had many uproarious frolics…

…and fun times playing with her Aunt…

(Twinsies)

and with her cousins…

Thanksgiving was lovely and low-key with everyone pitching in so no one had to slave in the kitchen.

We hosted a happy hour on Friday so our friends could come over and hang out with our visitors…

DN did the charcuterie board–shazam!
(The other dual personalities)

When daughter # 2 and DN and baby Katie left on Saturday morning at 4:30 am–they made it back to Maryland in 14 hours!–daughter #1 and I threw ourselves into decorating the house for Christmas to assuage our melancholy…

And finally on Sunday after church, we celebrated the boy’s birthday!

(Two brown-eyed handsome men)

What a week! Now everyone is headed back to the salt mines and I will start cleaning up!

Praise God from whom all blessings flow;

Praise him, all creatures here below;

Praise him above, ye heavenly host:

Praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost.

Amen.

Boyle says Boom!

by chuckofish

So daughter #2 and DN made it to town right on schedule and baby Katie made herself right at home.

Here she is wearing an old dress of her mommy’s. Can we say, owning it?

In the midst of the mayhem, daughter #1 and I even remembered to run over to the Optimists Christmas tree lot to buy a tree before they run out. (We won’t put it up until the 18th, but you gotta be prepared.)

Slam, bam, thank you ma’am, we were done and home in twenty minutes. We know how to roll these days.

Well, everyone’s busy this week and probably no one is reading the blog, but if you do, here are some funny moments from Brooklyn 99…

…and some inspiring words from John Piper.

Evidently we are fair game for the devil when we don’t abound with thanksgiving. Unless the song of thanksgiving is being sung in our hearts the enemy outside will deceive his way into the city of our soul, and the enemy sympathizers within will make his job easy. So for the sake of your own safety, strive to fill your heart with thanksgiving! Guard yourselves with gratitude!”  (John Piper, sermon on Colossians 2  – “Guard Yourself With Gratitude”)

Happy Thanksgiving!

Raise the song of harvest home

by chuckofish

Daughter #2 and petite famille left yesterday for Lexington and should arrive later today in our flyover city. We are beyond excited!

Meanwhile I have been readying the old manse for their arrival, stocking up on fruits and veggies for them, Pampers, etc. Daughter #1 arrived yesterday with a case of our house wine and handmade holiday outfits, so we are all set.

Earlier in the week, we heard the very sad news that our favorite local watering hole, Club Taco, was set to close on Sunday, so we dropped by for our last take-out margaritas. We tried so hard to support them through the pandemic, which threatened to close so many small businesses, but it turned out it wasn’t COVID that did them in. Their lease was not renewed. Heavy sigh.

Then we went home and settled in for a somewhat subdued happy hour of listening to music at home, culminating in a good ol’ Bob Dylan singalong.

And every one of them words rang true
And glowed like burning coal
Pouring off of every page
Like it was written in my soul
From me to you
Tangled up in blue

In church on Sunday we were flying high with a full congregation and the choir back! Congregational singing was awesome. Add to that a solid sermon on the second half of Romans 6 (The wages of sin is death!) and it was all pretty great.

So although we mourn the demise of Club Taco, we are nevertheless off to a good start to our Thanksgiving week. Hope you all are too.

Beyond cat videos…

by chuckofish

Recently, I’ve spent a lot of time searching the internet for cool animated maps in order to teach students how to read such things critically. In the process I came across some wonderful sites that I didn’t use but enjoyed exploring. This one maps winds, currents, and waves around the globe. If you click on the word ‘earth’ in the lower left, you can change the settings. If you’re in the mood to watch animals frolic, check out this Bear Cam; it’s great, and if you get tired of watching bears, you can switch to all sorts of different animals. If you are feeling brave, look at all flights, a site that tracks all the planes currently in the air. But be careful — the internet is a black hole that will suck you in. Before you know it, more of your precious time will be gone.

I’ve also been re-reading Alan Furst’s Kingdom of Shadows, an atmospheric tale set in 1938 Paris. Our hero, forty-four year old Hungarian aristocrat Nicholas Morath, starts running covert missions for his uncle who is a diplomat in the Hungarian embassy. Nerve-wracking adventures ensue. But this is no 007; the body count is low and there are no fistfights. Rather, there is suave and mysterious Morath, a veteran of WWI who is “doomed to live with a certain heaviness of soul, not despair, but the weight of pushing back against it.” I’m beginning to feel a little bit like that myself. Anyway, the book is full of nightclubs, trains and interesting characters that make the reader feel somehow present. Although the author has obviously done his homework, there is one glaring omission: the soccer World Cup that took place in Paris in 1938!

Even worse, Hungary lost to Italy in the final. Quelle missed opportunity! I guess Mr. Furst isn’t a soccer fan.

Thanksgiving is upon us! Son #1 is coming home for a few days so the old people will not be alone (which we truly appreciate!), but we have decided to forego the turkey and trimmings and go for feasty bits and pie. Then we’ll probably make stew on Black Friday and start putting up Christmas decorations over the weekend. Despite the state of the world, there is much to be grateful for this year: wonderful children who love their parents and each other (ditto for other relatives); good health; small joys like a hot meal, a warm bed, and good coffee; a walk in the great outdoors; good books, good music and old movies; a crackling fire, and elastic waists!

Have a blessed Thanksgiving!

“Wash your hands, ye sinners”*

by chuckofish

Today is the last day of my 12-week Bible Study of Leviticus. We’ll start up again in the new year–still with Leviticus. I must say I have a new respect for Leviticus and a new understanding of how all those dietary laws and burnt offering regulations point to the one true and only sacrifice/atonement offered by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. It has really been fascinating. And I like my group of ladies. I have enjoyed doing something serious. I have enjoyed doing my homework. I am sure I am a better person for doing it, and, God knows, I need help with that. (Read Leviticus, chapter 19.)

ONE DAY I WAS having lunch with two Wheaton students who were talking about whatever they were talking about—the weather, the movies—when without warning one of them asked the other as naturally as he would have asked the time of day what God was doing in his life. If there is anything in this world I believe, it is that God is indeed doing all kinds of things in the lives of all of us including those who do not believe in God and would have nothing to do with him if they did, but in the part of the East where I live, if anybody were to ask a question like that, even among religious people, the sky would fall, the walls would cave in, the grass would wither. I think the very air would stop my mouth if I opened it to speak such words among just about any group of people I can think of in the East because their faith itself, if they happen to have any, is one of the secrets that they have kept so long that it might almost as well not exist. The result was that to find myself at Wheaton among people who, although they spoke about it in different words from mine and expressed it in their lives differently, not only believed in Christ and his Kingdom more or less as I did but were also not ashamed or embarrassed to say so was like finding something which, only when I tasted it, I realized I had been starving for years. 

–Frederick Buechner, Telling Secrets

Have you noticed that the red kettles are out and the Salvation Army bell ringers with them? Every year, from November through Christmas Eve, bell ringers stand next to Salvation Army kettles around the world and encourage passers by to donate money for those in need. The donations are used throughout the year to extend a variety of assistance to members of the community. This holiday tradition began in 1891 when Salvation Army Captain Joseph McFee placed an empty crab pot outside a San Francisco ferry landing to collect money and provide a free Christmas dinner for the city’s destitute and poverty-stricken. Beside the pot he placed a sign that read, “Keep the Pot Boiling.” As the boats came in, people tossed a coin or two into the pot, and soon he had all the money needed to purchase the meal. The idea soon spread to other cities, and it continues today.

So don’t be annoyed, be glad that the Salvation Army is still out there doing good. Carry some dollar bills in your purse or pocket so you are ready with some cash–because who uses cash anymore? Be generous and get in the holiday swing.

Yesterday was World Preemie Day, so, of course, daughter #3 made the wee twins special shirts to wear. (Lottie’s pants were real special too.)

Their shirts said: “Fight like a preemie/ 27 weeker/1 lb. 12 oz.” Lest we forget.

Fans of Dean Martin (and who isn’t?) may be interested in this.

This was very awesome.

And I ran across this recently. Perfect.

Sooner or later God’ll cut you down.

*James 4:8

“OOOOOH, that’s a nice lam job. This one goes on the blog.”*

by chuckofish

Well, I really can’t believe it is Tuesday evening already and I have to do another blog post! I will be honest and say that I had been thinking about writing something similar to what my mother wrote today. Which I guess makes sense since we had the same weekend and the same conversations. Anyway, here’s a picture of a really good donut I got after an early morning getting the bossman on the local news (always an adventure, especially when I have to drive).

In other exciting news, I got a new rug for my dining room. I am quite pleased with how it looks–and very grateful that my mother was able to help me get into place when she visited.

Do you spy my vintage Kate Spade purse?

I took Monday off to catch up on some sewing and holiday prep (and because sometimes doing chores on the weekend just defeats the purpose). I had a very productive day and even got some sewing (and cutting) done. Guys, I made a buttonhole!

Once again, Quasimodo says hello.

So, yes, it turns out I guess I have written a part deux of my mother’s post. I am grateful for the little things in my life even if the second I get to work the world brings me down. Here’s a tidbit from Father Tim.

He thought of the old needlepoint sampler his grandmother had done, framed and hanging in the rectory kitchen. He had passed it so often of the years, he had quit seeing it. The patient stitching, embellished with faded cabbage roses, quoted a verse from the Sixty-eight Psalm.

“Blessed be the Lord,” it read, “who daily loadeth us with benefits.”

“Loadeth!” he exclaimed aloud. “Daily!”

Out to Canan, Jan Karon

*Obviously, Amy Santiago on Brooklyn Nine-Nine referring to her laminating skills.

Who makes much of miracles?

by chuckofish

In yesterday’s blog post I described a fun overnight visit to my daughter in Jefferson City. I was thinking more about it and it occurred to me that there was nothing particularly “Instagrammable” or blog-worthy about it. It was very ordinary indeed. But isn’t it in the ordinary that we see the beauty and blessings of God’s world?

Sure, it would have been great to eat dinner at the Gasparilla Inn in Boca Grande or sit on a patio overlooking Lake Como sipping a cocktail. But for me, eating lunch at the Grand on High Street in our state capitol is really just as pleasant. Driving around that small midwestern town and seeing the park and the local university was just as fun as sightseeing in Washington D.C. My point being that wherever you are, there you are, and your glass is either half full or half empty.

My glass is half full. I wake up every morning and thank God that His mercies are new every morning. (Some days it takes me a moment or two to remember what day it is or what month, but I get there eventually.) And there is usually a pot of coffee going that the OM made before I got up. And I know that nothing extraordinary will happen to me today–at least I hope not–but the memory of holding my grandchildren’s tiny hands as we crossed the church parking lot on Sunday will keep me going all week.

Well, I am going to tidy up and get ready for a houseful of family at Thanksgiving. I am thankful for a sweet son-in-law who is driving his family 700 miles to be here. I am thankful for a sweet daughter-in-law who is making special matching holiday pajamas for the cousins–a family tradition on her side of the family. We’ll have cheesy potato casserole and green beans and crescent rolls and Dierberg’s will prepare the turkey breast. And even if there is no canned jellied cranberry this year because of the sorry state of commerce in our country (I noted the absence of this staple today at Dierberg’s), we’ll survive. If the whole meal implodes, we’ll be fine. Because it’s not just about the yummy food and the perfect table settings. We have plenty to be thankful for.

Yes, it is November and we like to count our blessings extra hard in the run-up to Thanksgiving. I encourage you to do this as well. But keep in mind that being grateful means little if you do not know and acknowledge to whom you are grateful. So praise God from whom all blessings flow/Praise Him, all creatures here below/Praise Him above, ye heavenly host/Praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost.

And take note of all the miracles in your life!

Why, who makes much of a miracle?
As to me I know of nothing else but miracles,
Whether I walk the streets of Manhattan,
Or dart my sight over the roofs of houses toward the sky,
Or wade with naked feet along the beach just in the edge of the water,
Or stand under trees in the woods,
Or talk by day with any one I love, or sleep in the bed at night with any one I love,
Or sit at table at dinner with the rest,
Or look at strangers opposite me riding in the car,
Or watch honey-bees busy around the hive of a summer forenoon,
Or animals feeding in the fields,
Or birds, or the wonderfulness of insects in the air,
Or the wonderfulness of the sundown, or of stars shining so quiet and bright,
Or the exquisite delicate thin curve of the new moon in spring;
These with the rest, one and all, are to me miracles,
The whole referring, yet each distinct and in its place.

To me every hour of the light and dark is a miracle,
Every cubic inch of space is a miracle,
Every square yard of the surface of the earth is spread with the same,
Every foot of the interior swarms with the same.

To me the sea is a continual miracle,
The fishes that swim—the rocks—the motion of the waves—the
        ships with men in them,
What stranger miracles are there?

–Walt Whitman

Treat yourself

by chuckofish

My weekend made an interesting zig zag when daughter #1 came home on Wednesday night for a work event on Thursday and stayed until Friday morning. Then we drove back to JC together so we could do some Christmas shopping on Saturday.

We walked over to High Street to eat lunch. The capitol looked beautiful. That night we drank wine, ate some French bread and cheese…

… and watched a favorite Rock Hudson movie, Come September (1961).

That’s the one where where a quartet of hipster college boys take on Rock Hudson and lose terribly. A classic.

On Saturday we drove to Osage Beach and checked out the outlet mall–the four stores we like anyway–and did quite well. We braved the line to get into the Bath & Body Works to buy our 3-wick candles…Buy one, get one 50% off–such a deal!

When we got back to JC we drove around and found the neighborhood with the big old houses and also Hough Park with its serene lake and golf course in the middle of town.

Hough Park is named after Judge Arthur M. Hough who presented 50 acres to the City Council in 1917, requesting the land be used for the city’s first public park. I know you are wondering, but, no, Judge Hough was not a relative of ours–he descended from the Houghs that settled in Virginia. His father George Hough moved west to Jefferson City and helped establish the first Episcopal Church in JC. The name “Grace” was given to the parish and the name of the association was “Rector, Church Wardens and Vestrymen of Grace Church, Jefferson City”. George Hough served on the first Vestry and his wife, Mary C. Hough, was the first person confirmed there on April 17, 1841, by the Rt. Reverend Bishop Kemper.

We also drove around Lincoln University, which, you will recall, was “founded in 1866 by the men of the 62nd and 65th United States Colored Infantries and their white officers, for the special benefit of freed African Americans.” 

It has a very nice campus right in the middle of town.

We also went to Central Dairy and brought some coffee ice cream home to eat.

My plan was to take the Amtrak back to St. Louis on Saturday night. This was a good plan–unfortunately the train was an hour late and then halted (without explanation) for about half an hour outside Hermann, MO. This was quite disconcerting (especially when the lights went out) and caused several children to become hysterical and the already drunk group of young women in my car to become drunker. We eventually got going again and rolled in a couple of hours late. The OM was there to pick me up and I was very grateful to be home in quiet Kirkwood. So all’s well that ends well.

Meanwhile daughter #2 and her petite famille moved into a rented house–so exciting for them! I think they are pretty worn out from their exertions!…

We all made it to church again and I have to say the wee twins are making themselves right at home, which is the whole thing, right? They are very comfortable. They learned about Jonah and the whale (“It was a big fish!”). We discussed this lesson during lunch afterwards and I told them that this had actually happened to a man this year on Cape Cod. But this happened to Jonah because he was disobedient. We adults were treated to another slam-bang sermon on Romans 6: 1-14.

Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts.  And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.  For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.

Romans 6: 12-14

Grace abounding–glory hallelujah!

I can write a washing bill in Babylonic cuneiform

by chuckofish

I remember how delighted I felt when I first heard that line from “Modern Major-General”. It seemed an impossible claim and therefore perfect for Gilbert and Sullivan’s Pirates of Penzance. Decades later, though I’ve spent countless hours studying cuneiform, I still can’t write a washing bill. Being able to read a language is much different from being able to write or speak it (at least for me!). The few people who can compose in Akkadian have my complete admiration. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that one of them, Martin Worthington of Trinity College, Dublin, has written dialogue in Akkadian for Eternals, the upcoming Marvel movie. Fortunately for the cast, only a few scenes involve speaking the ancient language. I couldn’t find a clip, but you can read about it here. Below you can see Marvel’s fanciful (and wildly inaccurate) vision of ancient Babylon, complete with the Ishtar Gate as part of the outer wall. Someone had fun on the computer…

Much as I’d like to hear the A-list actors uttering Akkadian, I’m not planning on seeing the film which supposedly clocks in at a mere 2 hours and 37 minutes. I’ll wait for the right scenes to hit Youtube, thank you very much.

A more fun and accessible Akkadian movie hit Assyriological circles a couple of years ago when students at Cambridge University in the UK, then under the tutelage of the same Martin Worthington who worked on Eternals, produced a wonderful version of The Poor Man of Nippur. Many famous Assyriologists make cameo appearances (and, no, famous Assyriologists is not a contradiction in terms). Give it a watch; it’ll transport you back in time to the first millennium BC, albeit in a Medieval setting. Be sure to enable the subtitles by hitting the cc button at the bottom.

Here are the opening lines of the poem:

There once was a man of Nippur, poor and needy,

His name was Gimil-Ninurta, a wretched man.

He dwelt in his city Nippur in abject misery:

He had no silver, as befits his people,

He had no gold, as befits humankind,

His larder wanted for pure grain.

His insides burned, craving for bread,

His face was wretched, craving meat and good drink,

Every day, for want of a meal, he went to sleep hungry.

trans. B. R. Foster, Before the Muses, p. 931

Though it might remind you a little of Job, this story goes on to show how our clever protagonist Gimil-Ninurta gets the better of his oppressors. It is a folk tale, not a religious lesson, but it still has a lot to tell us about the ancient Near East. We might also learn to count our blessings, use our heads, and roll with the punches.

Have a grand weekend!