dual personalities

Month: January, 2020

What are you reading?

by chuckofish

Well, welcome back to posts from Daughter #1. My blogging days for the past two weeks fell on national holidays so I took them off. Apologies to those I disappointed.

Tonight, my boss, back in town for the start of the legislative session, wanted to go to the bar after work. And you can’t say no to the bossman, right?

Over the holiday, I read a number of books. A friend proudly wrote on insta that she normally only reads like one book a year (I kid you not), but in 2019 she read 17. Using audible. Congrats. I read five over the holiday. I read Donna Tartt’s The Secret History, which was engrossing but very depressing. I re-read at least three Longmire books, which always feel like visiting old friends. And I read Amor Towles’ Rules of Civility. I knew I would love this book from page one.

It was what the social columnists liked to refer to as “a superlative affair.” The men were in black tie, echoing the palette of the photographs, and the women wore brightly colored dresses hemmed at every length from the Achilles tendon to the top of the thigh. Champagne was being served off little round trays by young unemployed actors with flawless features and the grace of acrobats. Few of the guests were looking at the pictures. They were too busy enjoying themselves.

A drunken young socialite in pursuit of a waiter stumbled and nearly knocked me to the floor. She wasn’t alone in her condition. At formal gatherings, somehow it had become acceptable, even stylish, to be drunk before eight.

As my mother wrote in a post about Amor Towles’ A Gentleman from Moscow, “when I finished, I was tempted to turn back to page one and start again.” But seriously. What an absolute treat to read a book that felt so effortless. I tried to read it slowly and was a little sad when I reached the end.

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I loved, too, that many scenes happen in my favorite building in New York City, the Beresford. The building was around the corner from my apartment (the difference between Central Park West and Columbus Ave is rather vast) and was my beacon when figuring out where I was when running in Central Park.

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My mother gave me this picture for Christmas and I absolutely love it. I am not someone who found New York, as it is commonly described, as feeling full of possibility. To me, New York felt out of reach, even while living there. Because of course, when imagining what it would be like to live in New York, one pictures witty dinner parties and interesting people. Being caught up in whatever is happening. I pictured it more Nora Ephron and less How I Met Your Mother (that is, less meeting your friends at the same dive bar for eight years). I only ever made it to an apartment with a terrace overlooking the park at the Nightline holiday party.

The reality is that few people are actually interesting anymore–and those that are, don’t live in New York City. I’ll take happy hour at Paddy’s in Jefferson City over drinks in a bar with people who impress themselves any day. 

Now, I’m reading A Gentleman from Moscow and really can’t believe they are going to let Kenneth Branagh ruin it. Except that I can. Talk about people who impress themselves.

The thoughts you think

by chuckofish

This made me laugh…

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And I have to agree with this…

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I am not on Facebook or Twitter, but I do have an Instagram account, so I know about wasting time. But as you can see, it is not all a waste of time.

Classes have started up again at my flyover institute. Busy, busy again. Thankfully I got all my Christmas decorations taken down and stored away over the weekend. The OM and the boy even took the extra leaf out of the dining room table and the wee laddie freaked out, screaming that they were breaking the table (“my table”). Who knew he felt so strongly about the table? Life can be very disturbing.

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The wee babes are back in school too. It’s good to get back to a normal routine.

And lest we forget:

“When bad news is riding high and despair in fashion, when loud mouths and corruption seem to own center stage, when some keep crying that the country is going to the dogs, remember it’s always been going to the dogs in the eyes of some, and that 90 percent, or more, of the people are good people, generous-hearted, law-abiding, good citizens who get to work on time, do a good job, love their country, pay their taxes, care about their neighbors, care about their children’s education, and believe, rightly, as you do, in the ideals upon which our way of life is founded.”

― David McCullough, The American Spirit: Who We Are and What We Stand For

Yes.

This and that

by chuckofish

It was a quiet first weekend in January — we went back to work at the end of last week, but didn’t really get going. It’s odd to think that a week ago we were still in Nashville, gallivanting around! This week it’s really back to the salt mines.

In the meantime, I did plenty of lounging around, reading books, and tidying this weekend. I got a new vacuum cleaner in the mail (which I purchased with Christmas gift cards–very grown up of me) and was pleased with the results. Maybe I’ll be like all the people who leave vacuum cleaner reviews on Amazon: “It’s so fun to use, I want to vacuum!” Maybe.

We went out to the suburbs and I had a successful trip to Michael’s, where I got a wrapping paper tub for half off after my sister clued me in to their sale. Gee, I am sounding really fun! I wrapped up the weekend with my first yoga class in months, so I’m sure I’ll be feeling that all week. I rewarded myself with a hot bath using fancy bath products I got for Christmas–again, I have cultivated a scintillating lifestyle in adulthood!

I didn’t manage to take any photos of all of this robust activity, so I was looking for a Peanuts cartoon (or something) to share. I liked these, from January 1960:

The series made me laugh–“She prefers to be called an educator!”–and also reminded me of the wee babes, who have been known to pray for their teachers. I gather that today is the end of winter break for many teachers, though we are still in the quiet of winter term on campus. Hang in there, everybody!

Where are we? The last road sign was in Gaelic…

by chuckofish

The party’s over. The house will seem big and empty without the antics of my three guys, the last of whom leaves today. It was wonderful to have them all home for a few days and we had a grand time. In fact, we had so much fun that we took no photos. Not a single one. Suffice it to say that we opened presents, played various games, ate way too much, hosted the bride-to-be’s family, and talked, talked, talked. By last night we were all exhausted so we decided to relax by watching Local Hero, a favorite film that I have not seen in years. It was the perfect choice.

Local Hero has incredible scenery

and wonderful, quirky characters.

Whose baby?

The comedic timing is perfect…

and, of course, it has one of the greatest soundtracks ever.

Local Hero was the perfect choice for the last night of vacation. Really, it’s the perfect movie to watch almost anytime, especially when you need to be reminded of how good life really is. That’s all I’ve got for this bleak (it’s snowing) Saturday in January, but maybe it’s enough.

 

“High apple pie, in the sky hopes”*

by chuckofish

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Last year on New Years Day I had no idea what was coming. We never do. But I posted this meme and I still believe it.

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I am making no resolutions this year. I am not going to read through the Bible or give up wine. But I will endeavor to continue to trust God and to love Him.

High hopes indeed.

As for my weekend, I plan to put my house in order after taking down the Christmas decorations. This is always a big job, but I already got the big tree down on New Years Day. It seems like I just got everything up!

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“Write it on your heart
that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day
who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.

Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

This new day is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson, Collected Poems and Translations 

*Sammy Cahn

“I…endeavored to keep a bright fire both within my house and within my breast.”*

by chuckofish

Happy New Year!

I am happy that it is January — a new month, new year, new decade. I did not post anything summative or inspirational on Instagram, but I did inevitably reflect a bit. Born at the turn of a decade, I can easily associate decades with phases of my life. My twenties are now ending and my thirties beginning! This last year (29 + 2019) brought about a number of challenges and accomplishments, so I feel happy to see what the next decade brings. If I have a resolution, it’s probably just to keep up a positive mental attitude, be humble, and stay grateful. Easy, right?

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We invited one couple over to toast the new year with dessert and snacks. They left at 10:30 p.m. so we could all go to bed. Isn’t it nice when everyone is on the same wavelength?

I am glad we made it home in time for a quiet New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day before heading back to work. We unpacked gifts, took down Christmas decorations, vacuumed up pine needles, and refreshed some corners of the apartment with our new (and new-to-us) presents. It’s always nice to do a little rearranging as it forces one to take stock of what’s already out, what could be put away, what needs dusting, etc. (Everything always needs dusting.)

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Pretty new tray from my sister

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Truly awesome lamp from my mom

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Antique dresser from my parents’ house that I’ve had my eye on for a while. It needs some more zhooshing and maybe a big mirror to replace the BMA print that was already hanging there. A good project for future scouting!

My dad was using this dresser at home, and when he heard I was taking it with me at Christmas, he seemed a little panicked that nothing would replace it. “Where will I put my things?” Doesn’t he know my mom can fill a gap in furniture-needs with the snap of her fingers? Well, thanks for sharing in the meantime.

*Henry David Thoreau, from Walden