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Month: July, 2016

Mary and Martha

by chuckofish

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The Gospel lesson on Sunday was Luke 10:38-42.

As Jesus and his disciples went on their way, Jesus entered a certain village, where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. She had a sister named Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to what he was saying. But Martha was distracted by her many tasks; so she came to him and asked, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to do all the work by myself? Tell her then to help me.” But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her.”

The message here is, of course, when Jesus is in your living room, pay attention! Beyond that, it is a wonderful vignette, captured in only a few words, of something we see all the time at church, in our families, in the world. We see bitterness and resentment, distracting Martha from what is really important.  We see multi-tasking gone awry.

I mean really–Martha is the one who invited Jesus in the first place! But she’s too busy to pay attention. On top of that, she’s annoyed with her sister for not doing what she thinks she should be doing.

Marthas still abound at churches everywhere. Churches are full of people who give lots of time and talent to organizing fundraisers and social events, serving coffee and working in the kitchen, keeping up the buildings and grounds. All very well and good. However, these same pillars of the church often give little more than lip service to the real reason they are allegedly active there, i.e. being disciples of Christ. They get very uncomfortable at the idea of Bible Study.

Well, as I get older, I get worse and worse at multi-tasking. I embrace that. I never liked it much in the first place. One thing at a time, I now say.

As focusing becomes more of an issue in this modern sound-bite world, I try harder to focus.

I do not need to be an anchoress (a woman who chooses to withdraw from the world to live a solitary life of prayer and mortification, although the idea is somewhat attractive to me) in order to focus. I just need to take time every day to spend with Jesus. To be a Mary, to choose the better part.

*”Christ in the House of Martha and Mary” by Johannes Vermeer

“Let the trees of the forest sing”*

by chuckofish

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When I got to church on Sunday I saw that two huge oak trees had been blown down in last Wednesday’s big storm. The branches had been moved out of the driveway, but the huge trunk with its root ball still remained.

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During the announcements our rector told us that the pastor of the St. Louis Family Church, a very large evangelical church in west county, had called him the next day and said he would send people out to move the downed trees asap. This is part of their emergency storm relief mission. Our rector said, “Thank you!” The motto of this church is “Honor God. Help people.” I was surprised, impressed and the news made me feel very happy.  This must be a very busy week for those volunteers.

I did quite a lot of work in our own yard on Saturday–cleaning up from the storm. I filled five bags with detritus.

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The boy came over with some loppers and he and the OM cut up the big branches and filled a bag too.  What a storm! I was actually driving home when it hit and it was very scary indeed. I was afraid a tree would fall on my little car and I would be squished. Zut alors! was I glad to get home.

In other news, we celebrated the OM’s birthday with the boy and daughter #3 at a restaurant down in Lafayette Square in the city–We are so adventurous!

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I couldn’t be in this picture, because I didn’t get the memo about wearing blue!

Also, the boy got his first penalty in a hockey game and also  made his first shot on goal. Onward and upward.

We watched a terrible movie: Hail, Caesar! (2016), the Coen brothers send-up of Hollywood in the 1950’s. Even Channing Tatum couldn’t salvage this mess. Totally not funny.

I finished The Woman Who Walked in Sunshine, the 17th installment of the #1 Ladies Detective Agency books by Alexander McCall Smith. Although I find these books mildly irritating, I am a loyal reader and always ultimately enjoy them. Precious Romotswe is a great character after all.

[Clovis Anderson] wrote: Do not allow the profession of which you are a member to induce you to take a bleak view of humanity. You will encounter all sorts of bad behavior but do not judge everybody by the standards of the lowest. If you did that, he pointed out, you would misjudge humanity in general and that would be fatal to discerning judgement. If everybody is a villain, then nobody is a villain, he wrote. That simple expression had intrigued her, even if it was some time before its full meaning–and the wisdom that lay behind it–became apparent.

Wise words to ponder this week. Discuss among yourselves.

*1 Chronicles 16:33

A nether sky of fog*

by chuckofish

On Thursday this week the weather people promised to deliver severe thunderstorms. I waited all day for a storm that never materialized. No thunder, no lightening, not a drop of rain. Only sun and muggy, muggy wind. Much as I like the North Country, I have to admit that I miss the great storms of the Midwest and the eerie fogs of the UK. After Thursday’s weather bust, I took consolation in pictures from son #2’s recent hiking trip to the Old Man of Storr on the Island of Skye. In clear weather, a good photographer can’t miss:

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But more often he or she faces an other-worldly landscape**,

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fog-enshrouded

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and darkly menacing.

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Sunshine may offer great views but the muffled world of rain and fog is certainly a lot more dramatic.

Of course, it’s also nice if the person being photographed actually turns toward the camera once in a while. In case you wonder what boy#2 looks like, here he is facing the camera.chris on skye6

I’m all in favor of not letting weather get in the way of adventure but we should always take precautions and obey the warning signs.

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For now I’m content to live vicariously through pictures, and keep an eye on the weather for a good storm that I can enjoy while safely ensconced at home.

*Charles Dickens, Bleak House

**The foggy photos of Skye were taken by friend and fellow-traveler, Julie Collins.

“You may never be as wise as an owl but you’ll always be a hoot to me! “*

by chuckofish

Ding dong, it’s Friday once again. Sunday is the OM’s birthday, so I am sure we will celebrate the passage of another year in some wild and crazy way (haha). But it won’t be anything cool like this:

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John Wayne has been gone for thirty-seven years, but he still has an official Instagram account! And it’s a good one! I also like Gemma Correll’s Instagram–she captures the introvert like no one else.

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Speaking of the internet…this is my kind of guy–a commando chaplain! Except for his stance on female priests, he was kind of perfect.

And there is wild scifi stuff going on at my flyover university. It’s a locust and it’s wearing a backpack!

Have a good weekend!

*Susan Cooper in Spy (2015)

Snap out of it!

by chuckofish

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Tuesday I received a care package from daughter #1. It was full of the treats she had planned on bringing with her on her doomed visit over the 4th of July holiday.

How sweet is that?

Tonight I will indulge myself with a face mask while reading about Viggo Mortensen.

And, hey, doesn’t this picture featured on Chinoiserie Chic look like my bedroom?!

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Well, kind of. You get the idea from this badly lit iPhone photo, right?

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We had a big storm yesterday and lots of people have no electricity. Luckily we have our power, but lots of tree branches and leaves came down. Quelle mess! Of course, the storm hit just as I was driving home–yikes–I thought my little car might blow away! Ah, flyover weather…

Have a calm and peaceful Thursday! The weekend is just around the corner…

Walking out the gate

by chuckofish

Did you know that National Simplicity Day was observed yesterday (July 12th) in Thoreau’s honor? I did not know this.

However, there are so many of these “unofficial” holidays, one can hardly be expected to keep track of them all.

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Poor Thoreau. I have no doubt that he would be totally non-plussed by his latter day popularity. I mean what would he think of everyone contemplating simplicity on a special day, and texting each other Thoreau memes on their iPhones? Oy.

I have to say, though, that I have given a lot of thought lately to this idea: “It is desirable that a man live in all respects so simply and preparedly that if an enemy take the town… he can walk out the gate empty-handed and without anxiety.” (Walden)

If an enemy took the town, I could do that. I have a lot of stuff, but it is just stuff.  I would take great-great-great-grandmother Hannah Patten’s sampler (out of the frame and rolled up) with me.

For now, I’m dealing with a typical flyover summer…

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Cherish your moodiness

by chuckofish

"Melancholy Promenade" by Diego Rivera, 1904

“Melancholy Promenade” by Diego Rivera, 1904

Now I yearn for one of those old, meandering, dry, uninhabited roads, which lead away from towns, which lead away from temptation, which conduct to the outside of earth, over its uppermost crust; where you may forget in what country you are travelling; where no farmer can complain that you are treading down his grass, no gentleman who has recently constructed a seat in the country that you are trespassing; on which you can go off half-cock and wave adieu to the village; along which you may travel like a pilgrim, going nowhither; where travellers are not too often to be met; where my spirit is free; where the walls and fences are not cared for, where your head is more in heaven than your feet on earth; which have long reaches where you can see the approaching traveller half a mile off and be prepared for him; not so luxuriant a soil as to attract men; some root and stump fences which do not need attention; where travellers have no occasion to stop, but pass along and leave you to your thoughts; where it makes no odds which way you face, whether you are going or coming; whether it is morning or evening, mid-noon or midnight; where earth is cheap enough by being public; where you can walk and think with least obstruction, there being nothing to measure progress by; where you can pace when your breast is full, and cherish your moodiness; where you are not in false relations with men, are not dining nor conversing with them; by which you may go to the uttermost parts of the earth.

–H.D. Thoreau, A Writer’s Journal

It is the birthday of Henry David Thoreau (1817–1862), so let’s celebrate by reading the longest sentence ever (see above) and having some alone-time in the out-of-doors.

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“The Tree” by John Milne Donald, 1861

Cheers to Henry David Thoreau! Enjoy your Tuesday.

You win some, you lose some…

by chuckofish

This weekend I finished She Shall Have Murder by Delano Ames (I did not correctly guess who the murderer was!), went to several estate sales where I picked up a few books, and had dinner out with some old friends at a “gastropub” in hipster Maplewood.

muddledEmboldened by the example of daughter #2, I even  ordered a specialty cocktail–a Blue Berry Bourbon Tonic–which I enjoyed very much.

I also caught up on my House Beautiful reading. In her July column Charlotte Moss writes about taking a week and visiting some famous historic houses in Virginia with a friend (a great idea!) and how much we can learn from these beautiful house museums and gardens. Of course, I couldn’t agree more. I think it is a very important thing to do–especially with one’s children and grandchildren–and I would extend this to historic sites as well. She concludes by saying, “Go, see, do…three simple ideas I implore you to embrace. Explore your own town–what could be a better place to start? Then get out the map, make a mark, grab a friend, and fill’er up!”

I was inspired to get the OM motivated to do just that on Sunday. After a fair amount of hemming and hawing, he finally acquiesced and we set out for the old Fort Belle Fontaine County Park in north St. Louis County. This is the place where the first United States military installation west of the Mississippi River was established in 1805. Lewis and Clark’s Corps of Discovery expedition (1804-1806) spent the first night of their expedition on an island opposite Cold Water Creek and their last night two years later at the fort, which had been established in their absence. Other major expeditions left from this site between 1805 and 1819 to explore the newly acquired Louisiana Territory.

I had read about this little known place in an old article about WPA projects in St. Louis. The park includes massive stonework features that the Works Progress Administration added in the 1930s when the City of St. Louis owned the property. There are also great views of the Missouri River and you know how I love our river.

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I did not take these photos, as you will see, but you can see what’s in the park…

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Finding it was not easy–our GPS took us to a non-existent entrance–but we persisted and finally made it, only to be greeted by an excruciatingly unpleasant and uninformative park employee manning the gate, who gave us no instructions, only the evil eye for causing her to have to stand up and check us in. We drove around looking, but finally realized there was no way to get to the river and the fort by car–only by a 3-mile foot trail which was too long for the OM–so we left.

Since we were up north, we figured we would head over to Alton, IL to find somewhere to eat lunch, but that town had not unrolled its sidewalks yet–maybe they don’t on Sunday–and the sports bars and pubs were all shuttered. We could have gone to the casino (!) but we opted to go home. It was a 60-mile round-trip “Sunday drive.” Well, vous en gagnez un peu, vous en perdez un peu.

This experience will not deter me from exploring, and hopefully the OM will not throw in the towel either. So go, see, do! and good luck!

“If the wolves offer friendship, do not count on success”*

by chuckofish

As I scrolled through Netflix the other night, a Jordanian film called Theeb caught my eye and I watched it. Set in the magnificent Wadi Rum in 1916, Theeb chronicles the struggle of a Bedouin boy (the eponymous Theeb) to survive in the unpredictable, changing adult world.

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Despite the historical setting, WWI and the Arab Revolt provide a backdrop and nothing more. None of the main players in the Arab Revolt make an appearance or even get mentioned, albeit the briefly encountered Englishman is clearly reminiscent of T.E. Lawrence. Even Auda Abu Tayi, the great Howeitat leader, who actually lived in Wadi Rum, is excluded. Likewise, neither women nor religion play any role. Rather, the film concerns itself with the boy Theeb, his brother, and the antagonist, a guide turned brigand by geopolitical forces way beyond his control. It’s not perfect by any means, but it is beautifully filmed,

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well acted (the boy and his brother are not professional actors),

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and has good music (listen to the whole segment). Most reviewers call it an adventure and liken it to westerns, and while this assessment may be superficially true, I think it misses the point. What makes the film interesting is the distinctly Bedouin take on codes of behavior and survival. Theeb is definitely worth a view.

Incidentally, Wadi Rum is Jordan’s Monument Valley. If you aren’t up for Theeb but want to appreciate the incredible scenery, you can see it in Lawrence of Arabia, The Martian, Prometheus, Red Planet, The Last Days on Mars, or Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen. Clearly, this locale is a favorite stand-in for Mars.

*From the voice-over at the beginning of the movie: “In questions of brotherhood, never refuse a guest. Be the right hand of the right when men make their stand. And if the wolves offer friendship, do not count on success; they will not stand beside you when you are facing death.”

Freaky Friday

by chuckofish

Leon De Smet, A Girl by the Table, 1921

It’s Friday and the end to a busy week at work.

This went viral this week and I guess we know why.

Daughter #2 commented on yesterday’s post in a way that made me realize she had never heard the phrase “Go for the gusto, or don’t go at all!” and probably did not know its derivation–unlike us oldsters who remember those old Schlitz Beer ads from the 1970s. Here is one of them to jog your memory:

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And here’s a little Freddy B. to start your weekend on a positive note, especially if you are feeling a little bummed.

God created us in joy and created us for joy, and in the long run not all the darkness there is in the world and in ourselves can separate us finally from that joy, because whatever else it means to say that God created us in his image, I think it means that even when we cannot believe in him, even when we feel most spiritually bankrupt and deserted by him, his mark is deep within us. We have God’s joy in our blood.

—Frederick Buechner, “The Great Dance” in Secrets in the Dark: A Life in Sermons, 240.

Meanwhile, tonight we can watch some good movies starring Olivia de Havilland (and Errol Flynn) on TCM.

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Have fun this weekend and–

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(The painting is ‘A Girl by the Table’ by Leon De Smet, 1921)