dual personalities

Month: December, 2014

This and that: glowing like seraphs

by chuckofish

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First, I read Mabel’s Christmas letter on TitusOneNine and thought you might enjoy it too. Read the whole thing.

Second, here’s a  thought for the new year from Hay Quaker.

“The chief beauty about time is that you cannot waste it in advance. The next year, the next day, the next hour are lying ready for you, as perfect, as unspoiled, as if you had never wasted or misapplied a single moment in all your life.You can turn over a new leaf every hour if you choose.”

― Arnold Bennett

Third, here’s a little Charles Spurgeon:

The Lord Jesus is in the midst of his church; he walketh among the golden candlesticks; his promise is, “Lo, I am with you alway.” He is as surely with us now as he was with the disciples at the lake, when they saw coals of fire, and fish laid thereon and bread. Not carnally, but still in real truth, Jesus is with us. And a blessed truth it is, for where Jesus is, love becomes inflamed. Of all the things in the world that can set the heart burning, there is nothing like the presence of Jesus! A glimpse of him so overcomes us, that we are ready to say, “Turn away thine eyes from me, for they have overcome me.” Even the smell of the aloes, and the myrrh, and the cassia, which drop from his perfumed garments, causes the sick and the faint to grow strong. Let there be but a moment’s leaning of the head upon that gracious bosom, and a reception of his divine love into our poor cold hearts, and we are cold no longer, but glow like seraphs, equal to every labour, and capable of every suffering. If we know that Jesus is with us, every power will be developed, and every grace will be strengthened, and we shall cast ourselves into the Lord’s service with heart, and soul, and strength; therefore is the presence of Christ to be desired above all things. His presence will be most realized by those who are most like him. If you desire to see Christ, you must grow in conformity to him. Bring yourself, by the power of the Spirit, into union with Christ’s desires, and motives, and plans of action, and you are likely to be favoured with his company. Remember his presence may be had. His promise is as true as ever. He delights to be with us. If he doth not come, it is because we hinder him by our indifference. He will reveal himself to our earnest prayers, and graciously suffer himself to be detained by our entreaties, and by our tears, for these are the golden chains which bind Jesus to his people.

And finally, Happy New Year! Let’s have positive thoughts about 2015!

God Bless Us, Every One!

by chuckofish

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse…

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The Dual Personalities wish you all peace, love, a visit from Saint Nicholas, and the best Christmas ever…

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Merry Christmas! We’ll be back–see you ’round campus soon!

Leave the gate open

by chuckofish

“Are you willing to stoop down and consider the needs and desires of little children; to remember the weaknesses and loneliness of people who are growing old; to stop asking how much your friends love you, and to ask yourself if you love them enough; to bear in mind the things that other people have to bear on their hearts; to trim your lamp so that it will give more light and less smoke, and to carry it in front so that your shadow will fall behind you; to make a grave for your ugly thoughts and a garden for your kindly feelings, with the gate open? Are you willing to do these things for a day? Then you are ready to keep Christmas!”

–Henry van Dyke

I  should be taking care of daughter #2 who is home for the holidays, but she is taking good care of me–cooking gourmet meals and mixing special cocktails!

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Christmas week is off to a good start. Now if the weather will just cooperate and daughter #1 will make it home from NYC on Christmas Eve according to plan, we’ll be cooking with gas!

 

“Who in these latter days was born for blessing to a world forlorn”*

by chuckofish

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Advent Four. In the gospel lesson Mary is visited by the angel Gabriel, who says, “Greetings, favored one! The Lord is with you.” Mary, not surprisingly, is perplexed by this and “pondered what kind of greeting this might be.” Our assisting priest, who gave the sermon, informed us that the word “ponder” is only used twice in the gospels, both times referring to Mary. He advised us to do more of our own pondering, but not to worry when the Big Questions remain unanswered. He reminded us that we don’t have to wait for complete understanding to act in faith. I get that.

I will miss our assisting priest–who is technically retired–as he heads off to Florida for several months. His sermons actually make sense. C’est la vie.

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Since daughter #2 came home on Friday, I have been busier than probably in the entire prior four weeks (combined).

Best friends since Vacation Bible School

Best friends since Vacation Bible School

No kidding. Well, I expect to be busy when we have a full house at this time of year. And that’s okay.

I will do my best to fit in some ponder-time during the twelve days of Christmas,  but I ain’t makin’ any promises, y’hear? There will be plenty of time in January for pondering.

By the way, I just finished a ponder-worthy book: Beyond Black by Hilary Mantel.

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A.S. Byatt described it as “a terrible and swirling horror comedy about a very fat medium on the perimeter of the M25, haunted by mean and nasty spirits veering between damnation and the trivial.” Mantel really is a genius and this book is pretty disturbing. She reminds me of Shirley Jackson–brilliant and slightly cracked and a great, great writer. I highly recommend it.

* Hymn 63

Greetings to all!

by chuckofish

Due to an unnaturally busy week,  I have not managed to send the family Christmas letter yet, so I thought I would  post it here, complete with illustrations and appropriate links. Without further ado:borderGreetings!  As usual, it has been a hectic year, although we survived and seem to be thriving. We even managed to get the house painted, and now our neighbors have stopped making veiled reference to the Addams Family.

Our son, James, continues to live in the Washington DC area, although he has left his luxury digs in Bethesda and moved to a more modest, hipster place in Columbia Heights. Currently employed as the Assistant Cook at the MPAA (motion picture association of America), James makes a mean canapé and has become close personal friends with Eminem’s bodyguards.

James didn't take this picture, but you get the idea

James didn’t take this picture, but you get the idea

When he isn’t wining and dining celebrities, he manages the ‘stable’ of writers who contribute to his movie review blog, Roosterillusionreviews.com, and recently voted him “the world’s greatest boss.”

After graduating from SLU last May, Chris spent the summer at an exclusive arts camp in the Adirondacks, where he helped campers to make movies. While there, he made many close personal friends among the local bear population, and somehow restrained himself from feeding the spoiled adolescent campers to his ursine pals.

Waiting for a spoiled adolescent camper to eat

Waiting for a spoiled adolescent camper to eat

Currently, Chris is feverishly completing his graduate school applications, writing a weekly review for his brother’s blog (he’s never missed a post), and emptying the dishwasher with commendable enthusiasm.

Enter third robber. Last Fall, Tim started his second year at Johnson State College in the heart of Vermont’s beautiful Green Mountains. He spends most of his time playing music, but has become close personal friends with the college security people, who for some inexplicable reason frown on bonfires and tree climbing.

Those Vermonters are so wholesome

Those Vermonters are so wholesome

Fortunately, the only real trouble he has gotten into was for taking too many classes (math, philosophy, ear-training, stage construction, composition, music theory, guitar, keyboard, funk band, jazz band, and guitar band – or something like that. There are too many for my aging brain to handle).

Meanwhile, our pater familias, Duncan, has immersed himself in the social network of 18th century Britain. Last summer, he enjoyed some quality time at the National Archives at Kew in London, investigating Joshua Kirby and his circle. You can read all about it at his blog, ‘Kirby and His World’ (kirbyandhisworld.wordpress.com). Mercifully, Duncan has not taken to wearing knee breeches, white stockings or a powdered wig – at least not yet.

Clearly, not everyone can resist temptation

Here’s some gent who succumbed to temptation

As for me, I’ve been learning the hard way about the three phases of book writing: devastation, battle and siege. Right now we’re at the tail end of the siege phase and we’ll see whose defenses crumble faster, mine or the book’s.

I hope my siege goes better than this one.

I hope my siege goes better than this one.

I’m optimistic, however, and current projections suggest a New Year’s victory. Keep your fingers crossed.

Despite all the work, we did get to play a little in 2014. Duncan and I met my siblings and their spouses in Michigan at the my brother’s family cottage on Lake St. Claire (my dual personality posted about it here). We had a fantastic time hiking, boating and shooting (at clay pigeons, not each other), and watching the fireworks that the area towns put on for Chris’s birthday (aka the 4th of July). Then, early in the Fall, Ellen and Foster, my niece and nephew, stopped here on their way to Vermont (described here). We had a lovely visit and I invite everyone to follow their lead! The North Country is a great place to live and life is good.

May Christmas bring you joy and see you safely into a fulfilling New Year!

 

“Home is the nicest word there is.” *

by chuckofish

susieanddogThis girl is flying home today.

(The dog is not coming along.)

Is there anything better than that?

Yay.

 *Laura Ingalls Wilder

Happy birthday, dear dual personality!

by chuckofish

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Christmas c. 1985

I chose this photo because I thought my dual personality looks pretty*. But then I noticed how serious she looks. This girl wasn’t always so serious–even though she was a stressed-out graduate student at the time! (If I recall correctly, she wasn’t feeling well this Christmas. Soon, in fact, she would be down with pneumonia!)  Maybe she hadn’t gotten what she wanted for her birthday. Or maybe it was that whole birthday/Christmas thing.

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Perhaps her older sister was annoying her. Perhaps her darling one-year old niece was screaming in the background. Who knows?

Anyway, today is her birthday and we hope she is celebrating in style and that good food and wine and presents for pretty girls are involved.

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Hopefully she is not cooking! As always I wish I could be with her!

“For there is no friend like a sister
In calm or stormy weather;
To cheer one on the tedious way,
To fetch one if one goes astray,
To lift one if one totters down,
To strengthen whilst one stands.”

–Christina Rossetti, Goblin Market

*Note that there is a shadow behind her head that makes her hair look much more bouffant than it actually was!

This and that: “Um Dasher, Dancer… Prancer… Nixon, Comet, Cupid… Donna Dixon?”*

by chuckofish

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A Christmas Carol  was published on December 19 in 1843.

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Have you read it recently? One year our headmaster read it in chapel and was much mocked for his efforts. He was new, following a genuine Englishman who could read anything he liked (although there may have been some eye-rolling when he hauled out A Child’s Christmas in Wales every year). Unfortunately the new guy set the tone badly for his tenure at our school with his oafish and over-dramatic reading of this classic (“God bless us every one!”). At least that’s the way I remember it.

I usually watch one of the many versions filmed over the years. Scrooge, made in England in 1951, stars Alistair Sim, and is I believe a very close rendition of the original.

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Indeed, much of the dialogue is taken word-for-word from the book (“An intelligent boy!” said Scrooge. “A remarkable boy!”).

I’ll admit I cheated yesterday and read the end of the book online. Dickens writes that the reformed Scrooge:

…went to church, and walked about the streets, and watched the people hurrying to and fro, and patted children on the head, and questioned beggars, and looked down into the kitchens of houses, and up to the windows: and found that everything could yield him pleasure. He had never dreamed that any walk — that anything — could give him so much happiness.

Dickens himself was a great walker in the city and this passage probably is a pretty good description of himself, don’t you think?

Anyway, I think a re-reading might be in order.

img_1224090636638_291In other news, here’s some interesting advice for my fellow introverts.

img_1224090636638_291I love the  “Humans of New York” blog, but I really liked this one. Is the world random or is there an unseen finger guiding us? Hello.

img_1224090636638_291The first episode of The Simpsons, “Simpsons Roasting on an Open Fire,” aired on this day in 1989–25 years ago!

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You will recall that in this episode Homer gets a second job as a Santa Claus in a shopping mall in order to pay for Christmas presents. He doesn’t make enough, of course, so he goes to the dog track where Santa’s Little Helper enters into the story and Homer says, “Did you hear that, Boy? Santa’s Little Helper. It’s a sign. It’s an omen.” Bart replies, “It’s a coincidence, Dad.”

Again with the random/not-so-random question. Hmmm. Amazingly, it all ends well.

Have a good Wednesday–we’re over the hump! Daughter #2 arrives on Friday! Can daughter #1 be far behind?

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*”Simpsons Roasting on an Open Fire” (1989)

Lest old acquaintance be forgot

by chuckofish

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It is that time of year when “TCM Remembers”. Here is the 2014 edition:

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We lost so many wonderful actors and actresses and directors et al this year from James Garner and Lauren Bacall to Shirley Temple and Mickey Rooney to Robin Williams. In fact, there were so many that no one really gets much of a spotlight. I’m glad they put Shirley Temple at the end singing “Auld Lang Syne” from Wee Willie Winkie.

Lest we forget, watch it and remember. Remember Angus Lennie in The Great Escape? Rosemary Murphy in To Kill a Mockingbird? Marc Platt in Seven Brides for Seven Brothers? Harold Ramis in Ghostbusters? Juanita Moore in Imitation of Life? Martha Heyer in The Sons of Katie Elder?

Enjoy your Tuesday!

Sleepers, wake!*

by chuckofish

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Advent Three. The second lesson was I Thessalonians 5: 16-24, which you will recall I blogged about last month.

Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. Do not quench the Spirit. Do not despise the words of prophets, but test everything; hold fast to what is good; abstain from every form of evil. May the God of peace himself sanctify you entirely; and may your spirit and soul and body be kept sound and blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. The one who calls you is faithful, and he will do this. (NRSV)

You would think that it would be easy to rejoice during this particular  holiday season as we await the birth of our saviour. But it isn’t, is it? We feel harried and under the gun. We try so hard and no one seems to notice. We aren’t included causing us to feel left out and once again like our 8th grade personas.  We miss our loved ones and feel lonely. Sigh.

Well, I say turn off Facebook and turn to your prayer book (or Walt Whitman) instead. Take a walk. Give thanks that you can. Have a glass of wine. Give thanks in all circumstances.

It’s all good.

*Hymn #61